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Helps financially but doesn't spend enough time anymore ***KELLZ*** 1 child; Brooklyn, New York 589 posts
15th May '13

Baby daddy and I broke up a couple months ago. Haven't went for child support because I don't think he needs it. He buys my daughter everything she want and things she doesn't need. All my daughter drinks is pediasure which is very expensive, he pays for mostly everything that has to do with her. But he doesn't spend enough time and I don't understand why when he has no job. When we were together and living in the same house, she saw him every night and morning which was good. Now every weekend he says he going to take her n he just ends up coming over, playing with her until she falls asleep and then trying to sleep with me lol. I tell him it's not about money, time is something you can't get back but he doesn't listen. He always says he is gonna try harder. He tries to give me money to shut me up but it's not going to work like that. When I ask him to babysit, he says find a babysitter n he will pay for it. He finds a way out of everything, what should I do?

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59959 posts
15th May '13

Nothing, really. You can't make someone be an involved parent.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
15th May '13

Emphasize that you're not going to sleep with him so he'll give up and take her out. Even if he doesn't, at least he's spending some time with her. How is he giving you all this money without a job?

***KELLZ*** 1 child; Brooklyn, New York 589 posts
15th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Nothing, really. You can't make someone be an involved parent."</blockquote>



That's what my mom says.. She told me to be happy, he takes care of her and tries. She said give him time, he will fix his behavior.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59959 posts
15th May '13
Quoting ***KELLZ***:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Nothing, really. You can't make someone be ... [snip!] ... what my mom says.. She told me to be happy, he takes care of her and tries. She said give him time, he will fix his behavior."


Yeah, maybe he will or maybe he won't, that's on him. But you can't really do anything to make him decide to change, yaknow?

JKBC♡ 2 kids; Windsor, PA, United States 9795 posts
status 15th May '13

You can't make someone act like a good parent unfortunately but how is he buying all this stuff with no job?

***KELLZ*** 1 child; Brooklyn, New York 589 posts
15th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Emphasize that you're not going to sleep with him so he'll give up and take her out. Even if he doesn't, at least he's spending some time with her. How is he giving you all this money without a job? "</blockquote>




He won a lawsuit for a lot of money and I was happy for him when he got it. It benefits all of us and he doesn't spend it stupidly. He is opening up a sneaker store and trying to buy a fast food franchise. I'm happy for him, I just want him to spend more time with his daughter. Even if I don't sleep with him, he will fall asleep on my couch. Morning time he will say he is coming back for her and won't show back up until the evening time.. Smh

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
15th May '13
Quoting ***KELLZ***:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Emphasize that you're not going to sleep ... [snip!] ... fall asleep on my couch. Morning time he will say he is coming back for her and won't show back up until the evening time.. Smh"


He's probably too distracted with his business and just isn't thinking. Tell him it's not right for him to say something and not follow through. But if your child is under 2, it's hard for some guys to really get involved and interact because they don't know how. It will probably change as she gets older and can talk to him.

***KELLZ*** 1 child; Brooklyn, New York 589 posts
15th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" He's probably too distracted with his business and just isn't thinking. Tell him it's not right for ... [snip!] ... really get involved and interact because they don't know how. It will probably change as she gets older and can talk to him. "</blockquote>



Yeah she is almost 14 months but she is really smart and plays really well. She loves her father and they play good together when he is around but ever since we broke up he seeing less and less of her..

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3827 posts
15th May '13

Nothing. It's his loss really.