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Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112436 posts
15th May '13
Quoting homes cool:" I think that both husband AND wife should put each other first, so there have been times where I've gone ... [snip!] ... never expect me to make myself do something when I didn't want to though, and I wouldn't marry a man who behaved like that. "


Agreed.



I know my husband would hate it if I felt like having sex was a duty or chore over wanting to.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 15769 posts
15th May '13
Quoting ☠Undead Mommy☠:" I don't know if I would call it a duty. But in my opinion,if you expect someone to stay true to you,you ... [snip!] ... try to please your man every way you can. But I'm talking about like a week of no sex etc. If it's one day off,who cares.."


I disagree.



Just because him or I do not want to have sex when the other one does, does not and should not make that person go and cheat. That is a horrible way to think about sex.



OT- You really think a week without sex is bad?



Sex should be about both parties...period. I refuse to let a man think of me as a sex toy. :/

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
15th May '13
Quoting kacti:" Biblically... yes. And I believe the Bible so... yes it's this wife's duty."



There are lots of passages in the Bible that suggest women are lesser humans.

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
15th May '13

I do have sex with my SO sometimes when I'm not in the mood, but I don't necessarily see it as a DUTY. It's how he feels intimacy and that connection between us, whereas I feel it in other ways, so it helps us keep our connection and I don't mind doing it.



Plus, once I start, I generally get into it anyway, so it works out.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
15th May '13
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" I disagree. Just because him or I do not want to have sex when the other one does, does not and should ... [snip!] ... think a week without sex is bad? Sex should be about both parties...period. I refuse to let a man think of me as a sex toy. :/"


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Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5; 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
15th May '13

Believe it or not you can sue your spouse for making a regular habit of neglecting sex. When my mom was looking into a divorce her lawyer told her that you could sue I forget what the legal term is. But my dad NEVER has sex with her. If there is an emotional or medical reason though there is no case.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 15769 posts
15th May '13
Quoting kacti:" Biblically... yes. And I believe the Bible so... yes it's this wife's duty."


Well, arent you a little hypocrite. lol

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
15th May '13
Quoting kacti:" Biblically... yes. And I believe the Bible so... yes it's this wife's duty."

Is it also the wife's duty to turn a blind eye to infidelity and agree to threesomes?

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Armpit, of, Ireland 29526 posts
15th May '13
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Well, arent you a little hypocrite. lol"


Yeahhhh..... saw that in the other thread. :lol:

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
15th May '13
Quoting ☠Undead Mommy☠:" I don't know if I would call it a duty. But in my opinion,if you expect someone to stay true to you,you ... [snip!] ... try to please your man every way you can. But I'm talking about like a week of no sex etc. If it's one day off,who cares.."

Damn son. If you don't give it up for a week and fear your partner will cheat that's some major insecurity and trust issues you have going on.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112436 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Just Ames:" Damn son. If you don't give it up for a week and fear your partner will cheat that's some major insecurity and trust issues you have going on."


:!::!:

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
15th May '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" There are lots of passages in the Bible that suggest women are lesser humans. "


The particular one that I'm referring to says for women to submit to their husbands sexually, and for men to do the same for their wives. No double standard there.

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 103128 posts
15th May '13
Quoting kacti:" Biblically... yes. And I believe the Bible so... yes it's this wife's duty."



doesn't the bible also say "thou shall not commit adultery" ? Pretty sure that's the 7th commandment.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60891 posts
15th May '13
Quoting kacti:" The particular one that I'm referring to says for women to submit to their husbands sexually, and for men to do the same for their wives. No double standard there."

I think a true man of God would see that his wife was not in the mood, or not comfortable, and totally back away and simply love her.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
15th May '13
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Well, arent you a little hypocrite. lol"


Well aren't you a little judgemental?? I do not appreciate the name calling at all!!! And you are not God to me, so please don't judge me!!!