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Tonya Livingston 17 kids; Fulton, Mississippi 76 posts
15th May '13

I still say u get primary n physical rights while holding joint with him and he can see the child every other weekend n ect n more if both parties agree n ect so that way he pas Cs n yal still half everything else like medical bills, school. Sports the child is in n ect.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15198 posts
status 15th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Leigh [CJK's Mom]:</b>" He makes 18$ an hour and I make 12$, when I get hourly. I work at a resturant, so it varies, sometimes ... [snip!] ... KEY manage. he also make OT and double pay when on call (he is a plumber) so he makes about 3000$ a month and I average 1600$"</blockquote>




It doesn't matter, if you're doing 50/50, things will be 50/50. If you want it standard, they will go by how often baby is with you and how often baby is with him. Your salary and his salary. Health care costs. And child care costs.

Tonya Livingston 17 kids; Fulton, Mississippi 76 posts
15th May '13

Basically u still have "full" rights so call while joint is put in to please the other parent, that's how I done mine papers bc he said he wouldn't sign them unless we get 50/50 he saw joint n sign his name without reading n also u can put a amount in it like mine agreed to pay $200 a month in our papers so now it don't matter way job he has he has to pay that amount unless the Cs office n I change it which we not gonna

Jenny&Boopy 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7167 posts
15th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Leigh [CJK's Mom]:</b>" He makes 18$ an hour and I make 12$, when I get hourly. I work at a resturant, so it varies, sometimes ... [snip!] ... KEY manage. he also make OT and double pay when on call (he is a plumber) so he makes about 3000$ a month and I average 1600$"</blockquote>




Then I would say file for child support if you need more help.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15198 posts
status 15th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tonya Livingston:</b>" Basically u still have "full" rights so call while joint is put in to please the other parent, that's ... [snip!] ... papers so now it don't matter way job he has he has to pay that amount unless the Cs office n I change it which we not gonna"</blockquote>




Your advice is so off.



There's legal custody and then there's visitation.



Legal custody is about who has a say in decisions for the child.



Visitation is the percentage of time each parent has the child.



Child support is based off of visitation. It has nothing to do with legal custody.



Child support is based off of:
- percentage each parent has the child
- child care costs
- healthcare costs
- each parents income



If either parent has a pay change, they are to report it and have the child support recalculated.

Leigh [CJK's Mom] 1 child; Austin, Texas 5220 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tonya Livingston:</b>" Basically u still have "full" rights ... [snip!] ... costs - each parents income If either parent has a pay change, they are to report it and have the child support recalculated."


That's how I figured, and thats what I want. should we not be able to come to a 50/50 visitation agreement. (I don't think we will either.)



He is flakey about paying, because I am in charge of paying everything, and he hates giving the $$ to me to pay. So he won't if he's mad. He doesn't let him go without and he's been paying the part of daycare he said he would because we can pay that with our cards and he can pay them his portion directly. But the other stuff doenst worl that way.



I hope we can agree. I don't ask for more that the 1/2 of the shared expenses. And I don't really need anything more than that. I am getting my feet back on the ground and am working hard to not need any help, but it frustrates me that he thinks he's 'winning' when he doesn't give me money, even though it hurts christopher more than me.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15198 posts
status 15th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Leigh [CJK's Mom]:</b>" That's how I figured, and thats what I want. should we not be able to come to a 50/50 visitation agreement. ... [snip!] ... it frustrates me that he thinks he's 'winning' when he doesn't give me money, even though it hurts christopher more than me."</blockquote>




Bottom line, it needs to be court ordered.

Leigh [CJK's Mom] 1 child; Austin, Texas 5220 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Leigh [CJK's Mom]:</b>" That's how I figured, and thats what ... [snip!] ... me money, even though it hurts christopher more than me."</blockquote> Bottom line, it needs to be court ordered."


Thanks. I appreciate the tips.
I hate divorce. Ugh, my head is all over the place with stress.

desert☮rain 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 7674 posts
16th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Generally no. If the child is with each parent 50% of the time, there's no reason for one of the parents to be paying more than half. Each parent pays for everything during their week."

My ex has to pay child support. They have 50/50 physical and legal custody, but because he made more when they were in court settling, they still made him pay $100 in child support each month, and pay for the insurance 100%.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15198 posts
status 16th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Leigh [CJK's Mom]:</b>" Thanks. I appreciate the tips. I hate divorce. Ugh, my head is all over the place with stress."</blockquote>




Hang in there darlin!

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15198 posts
status 16th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting desert☮rain:</b>" My ex has to pay child support. They have 50/50 physical and legal custody, but because he made more ... [snip!] ... when they were in court settling, they still made him pay $100 in child support each month, and pay for the insurance 100%."</blockquote>




Only one parent is going to pay for insurance. Very odd that he had to pay anything extra though, unless there was something happening that needed to be split that landed on weeks he didn't have the child.

C'sMom! 1 child; Minnesota 1263 posts
16th May '13

In Minnesota, even with 50/50 they take both parents income into consideration

Tonya Livingston 17 kids; Fulton, Mississippi 76 posts
16th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Leigh [CJK's Mom]:</b>" That's how I figured, and thats what I want. should we not be able to come to a 50/50 visitation agreement. ... [snip!] ... it frustrates me that he thinks he's 'winning' when he doesn't give me money, even though it hurts christopher more than me."</blockquote>



They are fully aware what he makes now but like the lawyer n the Dhs explain since its in the divorce papers that's what they have to go by unless we go to court and change it but we not. I'm glad I live in ms :)

desert☮rain 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 7674 posts
20th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting desert☮rain:</b>" My ex has to pay child support. They ... [snip!] ... extra though, unless there was something happening that needed to be split that landed on weeks he didn't have the child."


He has her every friday at 3 through tues morning, she has tues morning until friday, he actually has her more. His daughters mom cried during the trial saying she couldnt survive without the child support. :roll:

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15198 posts
status 20th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting desert☮rain:</b>" He has her every friday at 3 through tues morning, she has tues morning until friday, he actually has ... [snip!] ... he actually has her more. His daughters mom cried during the trial saying she couldnt survive without the child support. :roll:"</blockquote>




Is it court ordered that he have her more AND pay child support?