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idk what to do angelica j 1 child; 1 angel baby; Waukesha, Wisconsin 446 posts
16th May '13

So my ex asked me to bring my daughter up by him for memorial day. He offered to pay for the gas since its a 3 1/2 hour drive one way. In the past 2 months hes talked to her once. He doesn't call or text asking how she is either now. Though im sure his family reports to him. She doesn't ask for him anymore and barely brings him up either unlessb shes also bringing up my most recent ex. Idk if I should say yes or no. Im so lost please help!

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
16th May '13

Take her. He is still her father. Think about it. Are you saying No cause of your feelings against him, or hers. Unless he is some crazy abuser, then you really should. You can always say you tried, that you never denied your child her right to see her daddy.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
16th May '13

I say if he gives you has money before the trip then yes bring her. He is still her father and its good that he is trying.

angelica j 1 child; 1 angel baby; Waukesha, Wisconsin 446 posts
16th May '13

My thing is god only knows the next time shell have contact with him.I don't want it to mess with her. Shes only 3.

angelica j 1 child; 1 angel baby; Waukesha, Wisconsin 446 posts
16th May '13

And to top it off the last time I took her up there he only spent half a dat with her the 2 1/2 we were up there and weve barely heard from him aince then and its always him talking to me and not about her either

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
16th May '13

I wouldn't. If he wants to see her, he can make the 7 hr round trip.

angelica j 1 child; 1 angel baby; Waukesha, Wisconsin 446 posts
16th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 12.21.07♥04.16.13:</b>" I wouldn't. If he wants to see her, he can make the 7 hr round trip."</blockquote>




Hes a bum he has no car *eye roll* I got myself a winner of a baby daddy

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
16th May '13
Quoting angelica j:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 12.21.07♥04.16.13:</b>" I wouldn't. If he wants to see ... [snip!] ... can make the 7 hr round trip."</blockquote> Hes a bum he has no car *eye roll* I got myself a winner of a baby daddy"


He's a bum cause he doesn't have a car? Ok

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
16th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting angelica j:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 12.21.07♥04.16.13:</b>" I wouldn't. If he wants to see ... [snip!] ... can make the 7 hr round trip."</blockquote> Hes a bum he has no car *eye roll* I got myself a winner of a baby daddy"</blockquote>




Then he can bus.



If he can't even be bothered to put in the effort to call once in awhile, I'm certainly not going to waste an entire day making his life easier.

orchidlovingmama 2 kids; Santa Rosa, California 1769 posts
17th May '13

I wouldn't bring her. I'm all for letting a dad see his children but I've been through the off and on daddy game and its really and hard on the child. I could see you bringing her down there if he actually called and made the effort but as of now you have no reason to believe he won't drop off the face of the earth again. I would make sure to tell him the reason and let him know if he puts in more effort you'd be more willing to go out of your way to help him out.