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    • I do/will allow my older teen to drink -- Votes: 29
    • I don't/will not allow my teen to drink -- Votes: 39
Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18460 posts
status 17th May '13
Quoting Belle.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting JessieLeeAnne:</b>" Well, wouldnt you call that strict if you ... [snip!] ... twisting my words. When did I ever say I would "allow" anything. All I said was I'm not going to be strict about it. Chill out."


You agreed with the poster who stated she would let her daughter drink at 13...etc. But whatever. You can be the cool mom.



Also, this is D&D. Nobody needs to chill out here.

Belle. { 27 weeks } Due February 14 (boy); 1 child; Alberta 5158 posts
17th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting JessieLeeAnne:</b>" You agreed with the poster who stated she would let her daughter drink at 13...etc. But whatever. You can be the cool mom. Also, this is D&D. Nobody needs to chill out here. "</blockquote>




Jesus Christ I said I will take a SIMILAR approach. Don't put words in my mouth.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18460 posts
status 17th May '13
Quoting Belle.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting JessieLeeAnne:</b>" You agreed with the poster who stated she ... [snip!] ... to chill out here. "</blockquote> Jesus Christ I said I will take a SIMILAR approach. Don't put words in my mouth."


Well, fucking elaborate.

Belle. { 27 weeks } Due February 14 (boy); 1 child; Alberta 5158 posts
17th May '13

I'm not going to encourage it but I'm not going to be strict about it either. Ultimately it's your child's decision whether they will drink or not and I plan on raising my kids smart enough to make the right decisions for themselves. No I would never provide alcohol for my kids but I want to have an open and honest relationship where if they do end up drinking they can still call me if they needed me.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18460 posts
status 17th May '13
Quoting Belle.:" I'm not going to encourage it but I'm not going to be strict about it either. Ultimately it's your child's ... [snip!] ... but I want to have an open and honest relationship where if they do end up drinking they can still call me if they needed me."


Ah, okay.



That sounds good then. Good job!



Sorry I misunderstood where you were getting at. It's late. :D

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27775 posts
17th May '13
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Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
17th May '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" I will allow my child to drink when she shows she is mature enough. Shoot me, but my daughter is 9 and ... [snip!] ... and had her first sip of wine this weekend for Mothers Day. It was a sweet wine and I let her have a sip/ She hated it, lol."


I think that is different. Who doesn't give their kid a sip at that age when they are curious? I had my first sip of wine at 9, too. I actually liked it... lol.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27775 posts
17th May '13
Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:" I think that is different. Who doesn't give their kid a sip at that age when they are curious? I had my first sip of wine at 9, too. I actually liked it... lol."


It's not different to me... as for now it will be sips but when she is older I'll let her drink responsibly. Its not taboo in my house. I remember drinking a couple glasses of champagne when my sister was in college for new years. I was 12 I think. I could have a beer or glass of wine at special occasions dinners starting about 14. When I was 16 or 17 my parents would get me a 6 pack to drink while watching movies all weekend working on finals. I went to a party and drank at 17 and my parents knew and picked me up.



So it start with letting me have sips but they eventually moved up to letting me drink responsibly. I NEVER needed to hide that I drank.

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 61358 posts
17th May '13

I wouldn't allow excessive drinking, or a party, but a glass of wine with a fancy dinner? Sure. 16-18 years old, I'd be okay with a sip to try it under my roof. Teaching my kids moderation is important, I think.

TrixieGirl Due July 4; 1 child; Maryland 1175 posts
17th May '13

I was allowed to enjoy a glass of champange when I was a tean during holidays like christmas and thanksgiving but that was just one glass. I would not allow my teen to sit and drink at my house with the purpose of getting drunk, because the next question would be...well can my friend come and drink here too since its supervised and what not, and then you have to talk with those paretns and so on. I would rather encourage my kid to find more meaningful ways to spend their time rather than sitting in my house drinking. Yes, I drank underage when I was not supposed to, and I expect that my kid is probably going to at some point but I would rather teach them that they expected not to do such things but to always feel they can call me if they mess up and do so. Its not perfect logic but its what works for me and my hypothetical teen :?

user banned 1 child; Nunya, CA, United States 6369 posts
17th May '13

What would even be the point of allowing your underage teen to drink? Plus, what does that really teach them, when a parent advocates breaking the law? I think it's irresponsible to allow it.



"They are going to do it anyway" is a cop out to not parent and lay down appropriate rules, IMO.

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 61358 posts
17th May '13
Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" What would even be the point of allowing your underage teen to drink? Plus, what does that really teach ... [snip!] ... irresponsible to allow it. "They are going to do it anyway" is a cop out to not parent and lay down appropriate rules, IMO."


I agree when it comes to parties and heavy drinking. But if we're around the table at christmas and having a glass of wine? I don't find it to be irresponsible parenting at all to allow a 17 year old to have a glass, or a sip.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31782 posts
17th May '13

No, I will not allow my underage child to drink.

Belle. { 27 weeks } Due February 14 (boy); 1 child; Alberta 5158 posts
17th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting JessieLeeAnne:</b>" Ah, okay. That sounds good then. Good job! Sorry I misunderstood where you were getting at. It's late. :D"</blockquote>



It's all good, I wasn't being very discriptive!

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
17th May '13
Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" What would even be the point of allowing your underage teen to drink? Plus, what does that really teach ... [snip!] ... irresponsible to allow it. "They are going to do it anyway" is a cop out to not parent and lay down appropriate rules, IMO."


I dont let me daughter have a binge. But a glass of wine with the rest of the family if she wants to join in? Sure. Most of the time she turns it down anyways. She doesn't like it.