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Cast Your Vote:

    • I do/will allow my older teen to drink -- Votes: 29
    • I don't/will not allow my teen to drink -- Votes: 39
homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
17th May '13
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" Zoe's father is an alcoholic, and it's ruined their relationship. I think that's why she doesn't usually ... [snip!] ... a healthy understanding of it, and I'm proud of her. Just sad it had to be because her dad has a disease that hurts them both."


Yea. I've stayed away from alcohol for that reason, for the most part. I'm finally comfortable to have wine at dinner, but I'm still not comfortable with heavy drinking - I never will be.

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
17th May '13
Quoting homes cool:" Yea. I've stayed away from alcohol for that reason, for the most part. I'm finally comfortable to have wine at dinner, but I'm still not comfortable with heavy drinking - I never will be. "

I honestly never understood it. I drink maybe once every 3 months or so when we have a night out and go to the country music bar, but I'm just not a drinker. :?

Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
17th May '13
Quoting homes cool:" My father was a raging alcoholic, I think it has caused me to view alcohol in a different light. I certainly ... [snip!] ... we don't go crazy with it. I don't want them to leave the nest and then discover this magical world of alcohol and go crazy. "


See, I have the opposite approach. 3/4ths of my family are alcoholics. Because of that, I don't really drink. Maybe once every 3 months, if that. With alcoholism running in my family, I don't really see it as a risk I want to take. Several of them started out drinking responsibly and moderately and just progressed more and more until they were full-blown alcoholics. If addiction wasn't rampant in my family, I don't know that I would be as opposed to it. My mom would always tell me why she didn't drink (the same reason) and it made me very cautious. Every time I drank before I was 21, I never went insane because I always had that in the back of my mind. Alcohol, at least in my family, isn't something to take lightly. It's dangerous and destructive. I don't want to give the impression that it's not a big deal, when it is. It's not an age thing for me though, I just don't really ever want to drink around my kids.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
17th May '13
Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:" See, I have the opposite approach. 3/4ths of my family are alcoholics. Because of that, I don't really ... [snip!] ... it's not a big deal, when it is. It's not an age thing for me though, I just don't really ever want to drink around my kids. "


I don't drink heavily. :?



I'm talking....a glass of wine every few months. I have no problem letting my kids see that. But yes, different approaches...same goal, I'm sure.

Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
17th May '13
Quoting homes cool:" I don't drink heavily. :? I'm talking....a glass of wine every few months. I have no problem letting my kids see that. But yes, different approaches...same goal, I'm sure. "


Oh, I wasn't implying that you did.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
17th May '13

I'm not sure how I feel about this... As of right now I'm thinking if the child was 16+ I would allow them to have a beer/ glass of wine at home with the family for special occasions. But never enough to the point of being drunk or for any kind of crazy partying behavior. I'm not the child's friend, I'm the parent first a foremost. But as DD is only 16 months I may change my mind between now and then.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
17th May '13
Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:" Oh, I wasn't implying that you did. "


I went and re-read it, I had read it wrong! Sorry about that. You had me confused for a second.



Yes, it can be a slippery slope, I agree.

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
17th May '13

No alcohol, drugs (even bud), or smoking under my roof underage. If they're eighteen and contributing to the household financially, they can have a beer or smoke cigarettes if they pay for them. I'm a bit of a hardass, but my mom was super lax and I did whatever I wanted to from 14 up and I really resent her lack of structure now. She'd get drunk with me when I was in high school all the time, and this was "okay" because I was okay with it at the time. Of course I was! I was 15!

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
17th May '13
Quoting Sneakthief:" No alcohol, drugs (even bud), or smoking under my roof underage. If they're eighteen and contributing ... [snip!] ... when I was in high school all the time, and this was "okay" because I was okay with it at the time. Of course I was! I was 15!"

My mom was super strict and I ended up running away, pregnant at 16, and on hard drugs at 18. It's hard to find that perfect balance in parenting.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
17th May '13
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" My mom was super strict and I ended up running away, pregnant at 16, and on hard drugs at 18. It's hard to find that perfect balance in parenting."


'Aint that the truth. It is so hard.

Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
17th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:</b>" My mom was super strict and I ended up running away, pregnant at 16, and on hard drugs at 18. It's hard to find that perfect balance in parenting."</blockquote>



Yeah it really is. Luckily for my kids, I'm amazing. :wink: :wink:

~*~*~*~ ; 1 child; Biteme, ca, United States 1716 posts
17th May '13

For me, it will depend a lot on her level of responsibility in everyday life. Since I don't like the taste of alcohol, I don't really have any personal experiance with it, but many of my cousins did. They (and I if I had wanted) were allowed a beer after helping outside on a hot day roofing or ed to build a houslearning the family buisness. When my cousins and I decided to help build a house for habitat for humanity instead of laying out and tanning by the pool all day, we were offered wine/coolers/margaritas or whatever the other helpers were drinking after a hard days work. Special occasions? That will be a situation I will consider at that time, I can't say for sure. In the end, I think it depends on the child and their relationship with not only their parents, but their selves. I will say I can't ever see myself letting someone else's child drink with my child in my presence even if their parents let them. In that case, my child won't drink either.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17231 posts
status 17th May '13
Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:</b>" I dont let me daughter have a binge. ... [snip!] ... it down anyways. She doesn't like it."</blockquote It's illegal and technically, you could be charged for allowing it."


Just saying..I havent read the further comments yet, but it is legal in some states to drink with your parents. Wisconsin is one of them.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17231 posts
status 17th May '13

This is me when I was younger. A lot of my childhood photos are like this. lol



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Yeah...thats a Budweiser.

nutmeg. California 22281 posts
17th May '13

No, I won't.
I don't want to set the example of law-breaking for my child.