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Cast Your Vote:

    • I do/will allow my older teen to drink -- Votes: 29
    • I don't/will not allow my teen to drink -- Votes: 39
Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
17th May '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" I don't have any issues with sex outside of marriage myself, but I also wouldn't be comfortable with ... [snip!] ... sex as a teen, but I really, really didn't want my parents to hear it or think about it or walk in accidentally...just...no. "


When they're technically adults is it weird, or is it just because it's "your baby" still? lol

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
17th May '13
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" When they're technically adults is it weird, or is it just because it's "your baby" still? lol"


When they're adults, I guess it's kind of whatever to me. Hopefully they won't be living with me at that point so I don't have to think about it, ha ha.

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
17th May '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" When they're adults, I guess it's kind of whatever to me. Hopefully they won't be living with me at that point so I don't have to think about it, ha ha. "


Zoe will be an adult in a few weeks. WAHHHH. As much as I want her to get out and experience the world, she's a HUGE help watching Zoe for us while we work. I trust her, and she's excellent with Liv. So she'll have her freedom as long as she's helping us so much

user banned 1 child; Nunya, CA, United States 6369 posts
17th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Thisperyears:</b>" Why bring it up though? That wasn't even part of the discussion."</blockquote>



I brought it up because, although not on the same level, I feel strongly about both.

user banned 1 child; Nunya, CA, United States 6369 posts
17th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" I don't have any issues with sex outside of marriage myself, but I also wouldn't be comfortable with ... [snip!] ... sex as a teen, but I really, really didn't want my parents to hear it or think about it or walk in accidentally...just...no. "</blockquote>



I freely had sex (FREELY) as an mid/older teen (16+) and one time my boyfriend and I were hot and heavy in the living room (parents were asleep). He, of course, was ready to just do it on my living room floor. But all I could think about was my parents hearing us or worse, SEEING us! Gah! The horrors. I couldn't do it!



...so we drove to a park and did it in the back seat.



My views have obviously changed since then, but my opinion aside, what teen WANTS to have sex in their parents house? <shudders>

Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
17th May '13
Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" I don't have any issues with sex outside ... [snip!] ... have obviously changed since then, but my opinion aside, what teen WANTS to have sex in their parents house? <shudders>"


I had sex countless times at my parent's house. I also had sex with my boyfriend at his house. Then, as we were getting hot and heavy, his dad walked in. He got to see my boobs. And then goes "Oh... sorry, bud!" (he was like... a Mr. Rogers type dad... nicest guy ever) Bwahahaha. Most awkward thing on the face of the freaking planet. The walk of shame is bad enough, the walk of shame out of your boyfriend's house with his dad who just walked in on you sitting quietly in the living room is a nightmare. I'm not cool with them having sex in my house, either. Gross. It's just... weird.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
17th May '13
Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" I don't have any issues with sex outside ... [snip!] ... have obviously changed since then, but my opinion aside, what teen WANTS to have sex in their parents house? <shudders>"


I just couldn't handle the potential embarrassment either, ha ha. I had a car, so, hey, there's a little portable sex den right there. I saved most of my frolicking until college though, ha ha.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
17th May '13
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" Zoe will be an adult in a few weeks. WAHHHH. As much as I want her to get out and experience the world, ... [snip!] ... for us while we work. I trust her, and she's excellent with Liv. So she'll have her freedom as long as she's helping us so much"

Oh, I'm sure she's a giant help. And she's a good kid, so I totally get letting her do as she pleases within reason. It's hard to you know...make set rules for teens when all my kids are almost 7, and under. Who knows who I'll be in 10 years. Who knows who THEY'LL be, too. I'm sure there will be lots of bending and adjusting and compromising to come.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
19th May '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" You have a moral issue, but what if your child doesn't follow such morals? Or what if they have a long-term ... [snip!] ... and want to marry that person someday but after college and after established careers... that could be a long way away."


I'm 29, own a house with my partner, and have children together. We're still not allowed to sleep in the same room together when we visit my parents until we're married in January. My dad is 'old fashioned' and I respect that.

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 104951 posts
19th May '13
Quoting Destiel:" I'm 29, own a house with my partner, and have children together. We're still not allowed to sleep in ... [snip!] ... the same room together when we visit my parents until we're married in January. My dad is 'old fashioned' and I respect that."


my dad was the same way

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
19th May '13

Our legal drinking age is 18. By the time you're 18, you're an adult and you make your own decisions. It's crazy to me that people in America who are 18 are still classed as children.



But anyway, I'm not a big drinker, never have been. My mum first let me drink at about 16. Obviously I didn't care too much for it. I'll probably let my kids have a drink or 2 at family social gatherings around 16. To teach them responsibility of drinking etc. I just can't fathom not even letting them touch a drop and then they just get free run as soon as they come into drinking age and they go silly like I
saw with my peers.



I hope my kids are like me, I was never into partying, my mum has drank maybe half a dozen times in my life that I can remember, so she really rubbed off on me and my brothers who aren't big drinkers either. I hope my kids aren't irresponsible, write yourself off, put yourself in dangerous situations kind of people with alcohol.



I met my SO when we were 16. Total opposites, he was crazy binge drinking because his mum made it forbidden fruit, yet she wasn't a good role model herself. Now his sister is doing at 14, what he was doing and it worries me so much... But we won't get into how much of a POS his mother is. lol.



There's a difference between modelling responsibility and just having absolutely no boundaries at all. Like most debates, people take one side to the extreme and they won't even see the middle ground.

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
19th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting -()-()-()-:</b>" Our legal drinking age is 18. By the time you're 18, you're an adult and you make your own decisions. ... [snip!] ... no boundaries at all. Like most debates, people take one side to the extreme and they won't even see the middle ground."</blockquote>
Your last paragraph hit the nail on the head.

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
19th May '13
Quoting -()-()-()-:" Our legal drinking age is 18. By the time you're 18, you're an adult and you make your own decisions. ... [snip!] ... no boundaries at all. Like most debates, people take one side to the extreme and they won't even see the middle ground."


This.

SubLowe 1 child; Oceanside, California 15389 posts
19th May '13

laws were made to be broken :)

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
19th May '13

my parents never let me try any type of alcahol, ever. when i was 17 my mom wouldnt even let me have wine at her wedding :( lol
my dh on the other hand, his parents got him wasted when he was 11 to "teach him his limits" because he wanted to drink so bad... I dont agree with that (he says it taught him alot and hes happy they did that) but I wouldnt until my kid was at least 15(as long as they were mentally mature to handle it)