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Sole guardianship and relocation enoel13 3 kids; somewhere hot in, AL, United States 7696 posts
17th May '13

I have sole guardianship of my 2 and 4 year olds, we have open visitation right now so my ex just kind of takes them whenever. He usually gets our son for one night every other week and he actually rarely takes our daughter at all, maybe one day every 6-8 weeks.
Anyway. I'm engaged and my fiance is in the Army. He is about to relocate to Alabama and obviously, with us getting married in a couple months, I want to move down there with him and take the kids.
When I move I'll be employed and obviously have a stable residence. My ex is not employed and does not have a place of his own at the moment.
I have an attorney and we've discussed some things already but I'm just wondering if anyone out here as gone through this and could share their experiences? :)

Booger & Bubba's Mommy 18 kids; Illinois 8136 posts
17th May '13

You will be responsible for all transportation to & from visitation.



It can be very costly & really depends on the judge. I had a friend want to move & if she went more than 100miles she no longer got child support, had visitation increased & was going to be responsible for all travel costs. The judge was an ass & told her she should stay in the area & let her new husband take her other children out of state. They ended up with a new judge since he showed extreme deference to her exhusband. The first judge even awarded him child support & spousal support even though the girls did not live with him & she had not worked while they were together. Thankfully when the new judge took over he threw out all previous rulings.

enoel13 3 kids; somewhere hot in, AL, United States 7696 posts
17th May '13
Quoting Booger & Bubba's Mommy:" You will be responsible for all transportation to & from visitation. It can be very costly & really ... [snip!] ... him & she had not worked while they were together. Thankfully when the new judge took over he threw out all previous rulings."


Thanks. I'm certainly not looking to make things more difficult for my ex. I had already told him that child support would be unnecessary and that my new husband and I would cover travel expenses for the kids to visit him and that they could visit as often as possible. I'm just hoping that this will all work out, I've heard a lot of different stories of things going really well and things getting very drawn out and dramatic :?

мɑkɑnɑni 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65751 posts
17th May '13

You need to speak with a lawyer.

enoel13 3 kids; somewhere hot in, AL, United States 7696 posts
17th May '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" You need to speak with a lawyer."


I said in my OP I already have a lawyer :) I was just asking for other peoples' experiences.