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Shortcake718 Due April 30 (boy); 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Louisiana 648 posts
18th May '13

My husband and I were in a similar situation, I wasn't pregnant but he was going thru his divorce and we both had a child with our exes. It was hard but we just took it one day at a time until it was final. It took a while because his ex was making things difficult. People are going to judge but if it feels right to both of you don't worry about them. I know people judged me for it but no one knew 100% of our situation but us...mostly because they judged first so I didn't want to talk to them. We have been thru a lot from the beginning and it has shown us we can truly survive anything and we know how strong of a couple we are.

ღCeceღ 2 kids; Somewhere in, GA, United States 12619 posts
18th May '13

um idk how I'd feel being pregnant by someone I had only known 3 months. quite honestly you may think you know him but you guys are still in the feeling each other out stage. I wouldn't have expectations to move in that house of his and live happily ever after right now. I guess you're just going to have to see how things go.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
18th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting PRETTY IN RED:</b>" Wtf you are stupid. You only have known him 3 months and literally havent met the daughter and he is ... [snip!] ... he will even leave his wife. You more like a fling. Sorry. A person I knew had an abortion since he never left his wife."</blockquote>




Are you fucking kidding?



Op, I was only with my now dh 1.5 months before we got pregnant (and we actually tired!) I was still married too. My divorce wasn't final till ds was almost 6 months old. We have been together 3 years and married a little over 1 year. We are so happy. Every situation is different though. Just take it one day at a time. Once you figure out how you feel about all this, go from there.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
18th May '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" I posted yesterday, I was a little more excited.. now it's kinda sinking in. My boyfriend is technically ... [snip!] ... AM worried about... Has anyone else been in a similar situation? AND there is no reason to be a judgemental twat about this..."


btw OP it's totally normal to feel a huge range of emotions at first. We planned our first and I still went from happy to terrified etc. It's all normal and a part of the process. Good luck!

user banned California 8675 posts
18th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" I know that he is a good parent I have seen him with her before, I just havent formally met her as his girlfriend. "</blockquote>




He could be telling you what he wants you to hear has it ever crossed your mind it could be the other way around and he had an affair.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
18th May '13
Quoting .CeCe.:" um idk how I'd feel being pregnant by someone I had only known 3 months. quite honestly you may think ... [snip!] ... to move in that house of his and live happily ever after right now. I guess you're just going to have to see how things go."



I'm not moving into his house, I'm moving in October with or without him because my apartment is not big enough or suitable for a newborn and a 4/5 year old. I'm paying to move. Of course I'm sure he would help if he does move with me, which is the plan.

user banned California 8675 posts
18th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .CeCe.:</b>" um idk how I'd feel being pregnant by someone I had only known 3 months. quite honestly you may think ... [snip!] ... to move in that house of his and live happily ever after right now. I guess you're just going to have to see how things go."</blockquote>



This!

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
18th May '13
Quoting PRETTY IN RED:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" I know that he is a good parent I ... [snip!] ... be telling you what he wants you to hear has it ever crossed your mind it could be the other way around and he had an affair."



Everyone in the small town we live in knows SHE had an affair. She admits she had one.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15538 posts
18th May '13

You should feel how ever you want to feel. When will his divorce be final? No one is in your situation so we can't tell you how YOU are supposed to feel. If your happy that's good if your sad that's ok to. Pregnancy fucks your hormones all up. I'm a crazy unhappy bitch when I'm pregnant lol.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
18th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting PRETTY IN RED:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" I know that he is a good parent I ... [snip!] ... be telling you what he wants you to hear has it ever crossed your mind it could be the other way around and he had an affair."</blockquote>




It could be that way with anyone! You must have something wrong with you. She has said they are separated and have been. I doubt the wife is seeing him still too.

ღCeceღ 2 kids; Somewhere in, GA, United States 12619 posts
18th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" I'm not moving into his house, I'm moving in October with or without him because my apartment is not ... [snip!] ... a newborn and a 4/5 year old. I'm paying to move. Of course I'm sure he would help if he does move with me, which is the plan."</blockquote>



well I'm sure you guys will work thru it. may be a bit stressful until you get things sorted out but it'll get more clearer with time. until then be happy I guess? lol

user banned California 8675 posts
18th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:</b>" Keep on assuming. :D Because, you know, you know every aspect of their relationship, right? I mean, you keep talking like you do. :lol:"</blockquote>




Come on at this point is pink she doesnt know him very well or what exactly happend. Everything seems so perfect check, he seems good check, he is getting a divorce check, he loves me check, he is with me every night check, arent those assumptions too that she is making. Not trying to be a bitch but just trying to say that she neeeds to be careful and not get her hopes up until everything is finalized.

Always♥Faithful 2 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 21664 posts
18th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting PRETTY IN RED:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" I know that he is a good parent I ... [snip!] ... be telling you what he wants you to hear has it ever crossed your mind it could be the other way around and he had an affair."</blockquote>




You seem to think you know a lot about nothing. How can you create these assumptions based on the little op has disclosed? They were seperated, he and op started dating a year into the seperation, and an unplanned pregnancy occurred. Idk how any of that calls for your asinine assumptions and calling her a home wrecker.

Pippi & Maddi's Mommy 18 kids; Brooksville, Kentucky 1284 posts
18th May '13

Might as well be happy, not much you can do about it now. That's how I looked at it when I got pregnant with DD, I got pregnant the same weekend SO and I officially became a couple, we had only met in person (we had talked online and had mutual real life friends) about 2 months before hand, he's 4 years younger than me, and we lived an hour apart. We made it work and now we're engaged, expecting DD#2 and he's an amazing daddy and fiance.



You're having a baby :) ! No point in stressing about stuff you can't change. Just focus on how to change the stuff you can. Sit down with your BF and his ex and explain what's going on and (if you want) that you'd like to meet their daughter since you will all be in each others lives forever. He was already separated so who cares if he's still technically married, you didn't do anything wrong. Not knowing each other very long is hard but it can work, and I hope it does!

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
18th May '13
Quoting PRETTY IN RED:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:</b>" Keep on assuming. :D Because, ... [snip!] ... he is getting a divorce check he loves me check he is with me every ight check arent those assumptions to that she is making."


You're acting like OP planned this pregnancy. :roll: what's all your negativity doing to help her? Unplanned pregnancies happen. The situation isn't ideal but giving her a lot of shit about what she can't change isn't helping.