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Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
18th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" True that. I'll be first to admit. I'm 21 years old I have lots of growing up to do"</blockquote>




You have 1 child now and 1 on the way, when exactly do you think this growing up is gonna happen? Cause its sure as hell not easy to grow up while raising two kids of you haven't done it with one.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
18th May '13

I mean I guess I'm immature and irrational and dramatic. How is one suppose to act when something like this happens? Its not everyday you get pregnant under these circumstance

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
18th May '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" True that. I'll be first to admit. I'm 21 years old I have lots of growing up to do"


and when do you think you'll get busy doing that?
Are you in a position to raise two kids by yourself?

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
18th May '13
Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" True that. I'll be first to admit. ... [snip!] ... growing up is gonna happen? Cause its sure as hell not easy to grow up while raising two kids of you haven't done it with one."


I'm mature in the ways I need to be. I live on my own and support myself and my daughter myself and I go to nursing school also, I pay my bills and run a household.
I just act crazy at times and I'm sure pregnancy is gonna make it much worse. I was on medicine for depression and anxiety which I'm weaning myself off of, so I'm sure that's gonna be fun as well.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
18th May '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" I mean I guess I'm immature and irrational and dramatic. How is one suppose to act when something like this happens? Its not everyday you get pregnant under these circumstance "

mature and rational.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
18th May '13

thank you, I just needed reassurance that he's not being a total asshole because of not wanting to tell her right now and not wanting me to be there because she's gonna act crazy.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
18th May '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" I'm mature in the ways I need to be. I live on my own and support myself and my daughter myself and ... [snip!] ... worse. I was on medicine for depression and anxiety which I'm weaning myself off of, so I'm sure that's gonna be fun as well."


You need to lose the dramatic kid act. You are a role model for your daughter, she deserves a stable parent. Inappropriate emotional responses are going to teach her to behave just like you.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
18th May '13
Quoting ℳary ℐane:" mature and rational."


Well idk how to do that. I have a life inside me, and the father is married still. We don't live together, the situation is shitty.

regina_margot 2 kids; New York, New York 1543 posts
18th May '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" True that. I'll be first to admit. I'm 21 years old I have lots of growing up to do"


why not start that now?
you're pregnant, i'm sure you want the best for your child. for that to happen, the number one most important thing is for you to be in a stable, loving relationship.
it is that relationship that will make your child feel loved, safe, stable, nurtured, and will help him or her learn how to build future relationships.
you need to treat your child's father with love and respect, if you want to get those things in return.
that means no drama, no demands, but calm, rational behavior. do unto others, etc etc
give him some space

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
18th May '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" You need to lose the dramatic kid act. You are a role model for your daughter, she deserves a stable parent. Inappropriate emotional responses are going to teach her to behave just like you. "



:!:
Yeah, I know. but it's not like that happens just because someone says to.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
18th May '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" :!: Yeah, I know. but it's not like that happens just because someone says to."


no, it takes a desire and work. It's easier to not do those things, you have to want to change.

regina_margot 2 kids; New York, New York 1543 posts
18th May '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" :!: Yeah, I know. but it's not like that happens just because someone says to."


right, you've gotta actually try and you know, control yourself.
it's not always easy, but it IS always 100% doable.
get a hold of yourself, you are not an animal, you're someone's parent.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
18th May '13
Quoting regina_margot:" why not start that now? you're pregnant, i'm sure you want the best for your child. for that to happen, ... [snip!] ... things in return. that means no drama, no demands, but calm, rational behavior. do unto others, etc etc give him some space"


I'm trying.
I'm not going to demand anything from him anymore. I'm going to let him talk to her about it on his time frame. He's afraid that she will freak out and not only say I'm not allowed his daughter, but also not let him around her either. She's REALLY unstable and over dramatic, maybe worse than me. So I understand why he's nervous about it all. I'm going to apologize to him for being so demanding and making him feel like I'm forcing him.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
18th May '13
Quoting regina_margot:" right, you've gotta actually try and you know, control yourself. it's not always easy, but it IS always 100% doable. get a hold of yourself, you are not an animal, you're someone's parent."


I know I am. That's why babies shouldn't have babies . I am proud of myself although for how much I DID grow up. I do better than most girls who had a baby at 17. But I'm in no way ready for another.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
18th May '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" I know I am. That's why babies shouldn't have babies . I am proud of myself although for how much I ... [snip!] ... although for how much I DID grow up. I do better than most girls who had a baby at 17. But I'm in no way ready for another. "


you have options.