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C secition or no? im terrified of childbirth. Alyssa Marie Smith Due December 1; 2 kids; Tacoma, Washington 193 posts
19th May '13

I am TERRIFIED of having another vaginal birth. Because of what happened with my first my OB thinks i can have the option of choosing an elective c section or another vaginal birth but that i will be at risk for having shoulder dystocia again cause it happened with the first. to be honest that is o.e experiance i dont want to have again. shoulder dystocua cant be discovered till delivery....although in my case she said having GD and knowing i had a small frame they shouldve done the zafe thing and delivered my son by cesarian. i dont know what to choose and i have seven to six months to make a choice. but i dont want to have the same thing happen and o thru a year of recovery from broken bones and stitches like last time. it was very painful the first six months postpartum....i was suprised i was doing my army job in debilhitating pain (every time i went to a docor they said i would heal eventually....did even get good meds to help with the pain. tlenol didnt do jack shit). A c section she said due to my history might be safer but becaise we r being extra careful this time dr said i can go for another vaginal delivery. i told her i was really scared and she saidit might be traumtic stress from the birth and i could go get some therapy if that would help in the decision on several months.....idk i dont know what to do or if i will ever get over being scared of childbirth.

jazzzzz* 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 7558 posts
19th May '13

I would be more scared of a major surgery!

GAH!! 2 kids; Texas 441 posts
19th May '13

honestly that sounds very scary and I would probably opt for the c-section...



My first was a c-section, second a VBAC. While my VBAC was soooo much better, in your situation I wouldn't want to try vaginal again

Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6891 posts
19th May '13

no pregnancy is the same and no birth is the same..



Csecs are very very hard on your body and come with more pain after math.



but yes you can choose to have a C-Sec.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
19th May '13

I'd probably get the c-section. Everyone makes it out like it's some terrifying procedure, but it's really not that bad. The healing process takes longer (you can't move around as soon as you could with a vaginal delivery), but in your case it sounds like healing from a c-section would be better than healing from what you experienced last time. If I were you, I wouldn't risk it, especially if I were as scared as you seem to be. My c-section went perfectly, no problems at all.. I've heard more horror stories of vaginal births going wrong than c-sections.

gone gone gone gone gone 4 kids; Ohio 4277 posts
19th May '13

I have had three c-sections and 1 vaginal birth. Given the choice, I would choose a c-section any day. A planned c-section is much different than an emergency one, as the recovery is easier because you haven't been in labor beforehand. It's completely up to you, but given your history, if it were me I would go for a c-section. JMO.

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
19th May '13

I would probably wait until it was closer to your due date to make that decision. If you don't develop GD again, your baby might not be as big and you might not have the shoulder dystocia issue. However, if you DO develop GD again, THEN it would be time to consider the options. As someone else said, every pregnancy and delivery is different.

Alyssa Marie Smith Due December 1; 2 kids; Tacoma, Washington 193 posts
19th May '13

I have people say im being unreasonable that childbirth isnt something to be scared of that is a beautiful thing....go thru 64 hours of severe back labor aith no food and failed epis the try pushing a watermelon.sized baby out a opening the size of a damn lemon and see how u feel about birth after that lol. but jokes aside somehow i feel that this will be a hard decision. i wanna sorta try the vaginal route because i felt like i failed last time. doctors wouldnt listen to me during the whole process. at the same time the ob said my recovery eould be aster than my vaginal delivery f i delivered my c section (6 weeks to a fee months compared to the year of pain i was in after a vaginaldelivery sounds enticing to me) is it unrationl to fear childbirth? Many say it is. my husband thinks otherwise. hes alteady concerned.....thanks for some of the positive feedback

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
19th May '13
Quoting Alyssa Marie Smith:" I have people say im being unreasonable that childbirth isnt something to be scared of that is a beautiful ... [snip!] ... childbirth? Many say it is. my husband thinks otherwise. hes alteady concerned.....thanks for some of the positive feedback"


I've been through 3 vaginal births, and I'm STILL terrified of doing it a 4th time. With my 3rd, I tore up AND down(towards my rectum and the inner labia tore)....I'm scared of tearing worse with this one. Childbirth isn't easy, whichever route you take with it. I think it's unreasonable to tell a scared woman she shouldn't be, or to tell one who isn't scared that she should be. The best we should do is try to allay the fears those women have as much as we can, and to say "good for you" to the women who aren't scared.

Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6891 posts
19th May '13
Quoting Alyssa Marie Smith:" I have people say im being unreasonable that childbirth isnt something to be scared of that is a beautiful ... [snip!] ... childbirth? Many say it is. my husband thinks otherwise. hes alteady concerned.....thanks for some of the positive feedback"


Childbirth is scary. the fears you have are normal. i had them with my 2ent pregnancy and told my doctor who told me i was not crazy that many women feel as this. the whole time even in labor for my VBAC i was scared i was going to die. but i also had a very traumatic first birth and CSEC.

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11934 posts
status 19th May '13

Labor is scary even if it's easy and uncomplicated. My first no complications, heck I didn't even have morning sickness. Labor was easy, could barely feel contractions, but I was still scared. My husband and I nearly panicked when I started shaking uncontrollably, learned later that is normal. Had natural labor.



For second pregnancy opposite of fist had every sign in the books. I had decided on a home water birth, but was still very afraid for labor. Second labor again uncomplicated, but still frighting. I get anxious and scared when labor first starts, but once my body pushes out baby all of that disappears.



In the end it is your choice but you don't know what your labor will bring.

A, E & W's mommy 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Bulgaria 15595 posts
19th May '13

I also think you should wait until closer to the date and see how things go with your pregnancy as well as look into getting some councilling in the meantime. I very much understand what you're going through, I had a traumatic birth with my third (after two very normal, fast, and easy deliveries), #3 was insanely hard on me both emotionally and physically and the recovery was aweful. I also discovered afterward after an unrelated surgery a year later that I have a clotting disorder and I nearly died from blood loss before even getting to the hosptial. These two things together made me never want to have another baby even though we wanted more children, then we got a suprise, baby #4. Because of the clotting disorder I have been offered a csection in order to better control bleeding. I personally think they might be full of shit as far as their confidence about being able to control bleeding that way but just that they said they can is enough for me to consider it and that's not a consideration I take lightly (I'm a doula and it's pretty much my job to help women through a natural childbirth and help them to avoid c-sections). Personally I'm having a really hard time weighing the options and I think that most of that difficulty is because I know I had two very normal, fast, easy deliveries, if I hadn't had any positive experiences I would probably more heavily consider the section, I definitely feel for you.

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6709 posts
19th May '13

With my first delivery, my son was stillborn. He was born vaginally. When i was faced with delivering my oldest, I was terrified. Labor actually went horribly too and I ended up with an emergency c-section. The c-section recovery wasn't much fun.



By the time I was pregnant with my 3rd (2nd living baby and my now 3 year old), I was positive I was going to just opt for the elective c-section. I mean .. why would i want to go through that again? Around 12ish weeks, I started asking about vbac options.



By 30 weeks, my vbac was scheduled. He was delivered at 37 weeks and it was a piece of cake. A couple hours of hard labor. My active labor lasted about as long as it took them to get an epidural in my back. Anyway,, before the epidural had time to kick in, it was time to push. It took about 2 pushes and he was out. It barely hurt. I didn't tear. He stayed in my room with me after delivery. I was up and walking around like nothing happened within an hour or so.



You have plenty of time to make a decision. I wouldn't stress about it now. What you think you might want now, might end up being something completely different by the time you get closer to the end. I don't think there is an easy option. :) You just have to trust your instincts and go with what you think is best.

carmenisa Due June 6; 3 kids; Virginia 1501 posts
19th May '13

Poor thing. I don't really know how it feels what you went through but my first 3 births were vaginal. All sucessful 1 with epi 2 natural.pushed them out in 15 min or less but im now in the hospital recovering from a very traumatic csection. I labored for 2 days 24 hrs of no pain meds it was freakin hell. I dialated to 10 pushed for an hr and my baby even though head down head was sideways so I had no option but to get a csection to get her out. I even felt the doctor cut me open I was shaking uncontrollably so they had to put me under.im so irritated that I labored that long and just didn't get the csection earlier before all that pain and im still in the hospital tryin to recover, havin to put my daughter in the nusery bc im in too much pain to care for her that totally sucked but do can dome vaginal deliveries also. Good luck with your decision.

Alyssa Marie Smith Due December 1; 2 kids; Tacoma, Washington 193 posts
19th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting carmenisa:</b>" Poor thing. I don't really know how it feels what you went through but my first 3 births were vaginal. ... [snip!] ..</blockquote>



I went thru two days of labor too. i stalled at 7 cm wih Pitocin. had severe back labor. three epis failed. Although i was viven narcoics early on so i could relax and sleep i was refused any mediation for forty some hours. i spent 14 of thise in transition stalled at 7 begging my husband to either get me a c section or to take me to another hospital. but i wasnt able to move. i was constatly told by nurses not to pushfor 14 hours when i jad the urge the whole time. i hadnt eaten i was hypoglycemic and exhausted to where i barely was able to push. i am sincerly hoping if i choose later to have another vaginal delivery everythig will go smoothly. the only change is that tho my ob is great i will never give birth at the hodpital were i get my prenatal are again (Madigan Army Medical Center).