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Moving in with the Inlaws StewedAngie 1 child; 1 angel baby; Minnesota 672 posts
19th May '13

This coming week, we will be moving in with my husbands parents for a while.
It is closer to the clinic and hospital and they are offering to help out after the baby is born. My husbands sister and her young daughter are currently living there as well (after a bad divorce).
I don't want to cause any stress and get in the way, but the assistance would really be appreciated. Any thoughts or suggestions?

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
19th May '13

Be gracious and grateful even when they drive you mad. :)

Cecily's Mama 1 child; 3781 posts
19th May '13

Try to help your in-laws as much as possible. Remember they are doing YOU a favor.

Alice. 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Manchester, United Kingdom 1944 posts
19th May '13
Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:" Be gracious and grateful even when they drive you mad. :) "


This!



You might find they have rules that you don't agree with, but unfortunately, you have to remember that it's their house so however much you might dislike something they do, there's not much you can do about it.

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
19th May '13

Get out as soon as you can :lol: I love my in-laws but I cannot live with them, we stayed with them a couple of months and just couldn't do it anymore. Would not do it again if we can help it, they would be our last option right next to living under a bridge :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol: (jk jk...somewhat)

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65112 posts
19th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting kelsey054:</b>" Try to help your in-laws as much as possible. Remember they are doing YOU a favor."</blockquote>




This!



And good luck, OP. I couldn't live with my MIL. I'd have to be commited. No lie.

MamaRound3 Due January 9; 2 kids; Oklahoma 482 posts
19th May '13

My mother in law lived with us for a while and it was perfectly pleasant in every way except financially.



Then she moved out and is living with her other 2 sons.



So when we went to visit last week, we stayed with her/them.



We ended up having to stay WAY longer than expected and it was HELL.



I guess my best advice is to clarify BEFORE you move in what the rules will be, especially regarding food. Have an agreed upon timetable for how long you will be there, and what will happen if some emergency forces you to stay longer. Also consider financial issues. Will they be expecting you to help out with bills or grocery money?

StewedAngie 1 child; 1 angel baby; Minnesota 672 posts
19th May '13
Quoting MamaRound3:" My mother in law lived with us for a while and it was perfectly pleasant in every way except financially. ... [snip!] ... forces you to stay longer. Also consider financial issues. Will they be expecting you to help out with bills or grocery money?"

We are taking care of our own food and will be having dinner and lunches at the same time as they are. There is a spare fridge in the basement where we will keep all of our supplies. They haven't asked for any money, but want to us pick up everything we need ourselves (like soap and stuff).

MamaRound3 Due January 9; 2 kids; Oklahoma 482 posts
19th May '13
Quoting StewedAngie:" We are taking care of our own food and will be having dinner and lunches at the same time as they are. ... [snip!] ... of our supplies. They haven't asked for any money, but want to us pick up everything we need ourselves (like soap and stuff)."


Sounds like it should go over fairly smoothly. Although... If you will be buying your own food, yet eating at the same time, the kitchen could get a bit cramped.



Also you need to check and see if they have any set "quiet hours". Hubby's brothers work nights so when we were staying with them we had to be quiet, and keep our kids quiet, through most of the day until about 8pm.
I'm guessing with you being fairly close to delivery you won't be going out to party or anything, but like if you and hubby plan to have a date night, do they expect you in and quiet by a certain time?

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10434 posts
19th May '13

I'd kill myself living with my inlaws. I have no advice tho. Only thing I can really say is abide by their rules and always clean up after yourself (even if they aren't the cleanest people). Just don't give them a reason to be annoyed with you.