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Trying to make a tough decision. Mommii Due October 15 (girl); 2 kids; Portland, Maine 1646 posts
20th May '13

I'm not sure if this is where I should post this.
But, At this moment, I'm trying to make some decisions.



I have two children, both boys. But, I'm also expecting. It's unplanned. Complete surprise and I'm not sure that I am ready to take on yet another child. Although I feel as if my children are blessings, Financially I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to do it. Or even space out my time for this new baby. Everything has been moving so fast for me, I'm just unsure.



I haven't spoken with anyone or Brought the fact up that I am pregnant. It's unnoticeable at this point...



So, My questions are, Did you choose to put your baby up for adoption? What were factors that made you do this? How did you feel?



I'm just trying to make sure that I'm making the right decision for me and for the rest of my family. Especially the new baby, I want to make sure it's life is going to be the best it could be, and honestly, I'm not sure if I could do that right now.



So just some input would help. Please and thanks.

Black Cat 1 child; Fancy, PA, United States 3753 posts
20th May '13

My 2 biggest questions are: do you think you could put a child up for adoption? And what does your fianc

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
20th May '13

What does the father think? Does he know about the pregnancy yet? Do you think you could put your baby up for adoption? You did not mention the option of abortion. Is that because you haven't thought of it or that is out of the question for you?

Mommii Due October 15 (girl); 2 kids; Portland, Maine 1646 posts
20th May '13
Quoting Miss Brittany:" My 2 biggest questions are: do you think you could put a child up for adoption? And what does your fianc
GavinsMomJohnnysWife 2 kids; Texas 2789 posts
20th May '13

I have heard from other moms that going from 2 to 3 is way easier than 1-2. I would make sure it was a decision you and your family could live with if you do decide to place baby up for adoption. How far along are you if you don't mind me asking?

Mommii Due October 15 (girl); 2 kids; Portland, Maine 1646 posts
20th May '13
Quoting Severus Snape:" What does the father think? Does he know about the pregnancy yet? Do you think you could put your baby ... [snip!] ... You did not mention the option of abortion. Is that because you haven't thought of it or that is out of the question for you?"


He doesn't know, His distance has been easy to keep it an option. As for abortion. I'm pro life. Although each to their own.

Black Cat 1 child; Fancy, PA, United States 3753 posts
20th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommii

Mommii Due October 15 (girl); 2 kids; Portland, Maine 1646 posts
20th May '13
Quoting GavinsMomJohnnysWife:" I have heard from other moms that going from 2 to 3 is way easier than 1-2. I would make sure it was ... [snip!] ... your family could live with if you do decide to place baby up for adoption. How far along are you if you don't mind me asking?"


I'm about 19 weeks

Mommii Due October 15 (girl); 2 kids; Portland, Maine 1646 posts
20th May '13
Quoting Miss Brittany:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mommii
Coffee Milk 2 kids; Alaska 2089 posts
20th May '13
Quoting Miss Brittany:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mommii
GavinsMomJohnnysWife 2 kids; Texas 2789 posts
20th May '13

I think it's time to talk to him. You could be distancing yourself just as much as he is. It is after all a decision both of you need to agree to.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
20th May '13

I think the first thing to do would be to tell him. He's also the parent and should be apart of your decision regardless of what you choose to do.

Mommii Due October 15 (girl); 2 kids; Portland, Maine 1646 posts
20th May '13

You've all told me to tell him. I'll tell him. Maybe that might be a deal breaker when it comes to the relationship the baby and everything else that just so seems to be tense right now. I'm sure I'll be back for more help in the future. Thanks mama's <3

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
20th May '13

good luck OP! Hope all works out for the best.

GavinsMomJohnnysWife 2 kids; Texas 2789 posts
20th May '13
Quoting Mommii