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... pandaburr 2 kids; Massachusetts 267 posts
20th May '13

poof

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15028 posts
20th May '13

All you can do is request Supervised visits and hope the Judges sympathizes with you. I have never heard of a Judge ordering another Parent to do all of the transportation, it's usually 50/50. Doesn't mean it can't be done, I just don't think it's likely.

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
20th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting pandaburr:</b>" backstory :up until four months ago, my aunt had guardianship of my five year old DD. i went to court ... [snip!] ... supervised visits- especially with the fact she has no clue who he even is? sorry for it being long and all over the place.."</blockquote>




No. The non custodial parent is generally responsible for transportation to and from visitation, unless the judge orders otherwise, which I don't see happening unless you agree to do it. As for child support, if he doesn't pay anything after you get it court ordered, he will lose his drivers license, and they will take it out of his tax return after he files each year. You will likely be granted primary custody, and you can petition for supervised visitation, but it may not be granted without proof of abuse.
As for him not being in her life, if he's made no attempts to see her and doesn't pay you anything, then you can actually get his rights resolved. There are certain time restrictions and hoops to jump through in each state, but it's worth looking into, if you're interested in doing that. You will never receive support from him, though.

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 45131 posts
20th May '13

The judge will question why your aunt had guardianship for so long. 5 years is a long time.



Does the child know their father?

pandaburr 2 kids; Massachusetts 267 posts
20th May '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" The judge will question why your aunt had guardianship for so long. 5 years is a long time. Does the child know their father?"

my aunt had guardianship for under just about 4 years. i got pregnant at 14, had her at 15, and raised her until i was nearly 17 when my aunt took guardianship. it was only supposed to be for a few months. a lot happened that kept me from getting her back, my mother committed suicide a month after my aunt took DD which sent me into a depression and left me homeless for several years until i could get my shit together.



edit: her father was around when she was a baby, but hasn't bothered with her soon after getting together with the girl he's been with for four years. so she doesnt know him

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 45131 posts
20th May '13
Quoting pandaburr:" my aunt had guardianship for under just about 4 years. i got pregnant at 14, had her at 15, and raised ... [snip!] ... my aunt took DD which sent me into a depression and left me homeless for several years until i could get my shit together. "


Okay.



How much contact did you have with your daughter during that time?
How much contact has she had with her father?

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15218 posts
20th May '13

He doesn't get to decide when he sees his child and what child support he gives. A judge does, and he is required by law to abide by that.

pandaburr 2 kids; Massachusetts 267 posts
20th May '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Okay. How much contact did you have with your daughter during that time? How much contact has she had with her father?"


i saw her every few months at first, but made constant efforts, once i had a safe stable place to live i saw her nearly every weekend, i then filed to get her back. i fucked up and i know that, but she's always known who i am and i'm trying to do right by her now. she hasn't had any contact at all with her father in over 3 years.

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 45131 posts
20th May '13
Quoting pandaburr:" i saw her every few months at first, but made constant efforts, once i had a safe stable place to live ... [snip!] ... always known who i am and i'm trying to do right by her now. she hasn't had any contact at all with her father in over 3 years."


Then I don't see any issues with you getting full legal custody. He will more than likely get some visitation, although you can request that they be supervised at first so they get to know each other again.



Also, child support will be determined by the courts and he will be required to pay what they set out.

Bobber Due October 1; 1 child; Manitoba 137 posts
20th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting pandaburr:</b>" i saw her every few months at first, but made constant efforts, once i had a safe stable place to live ... [snip!] ... always known who i am and i'm trying to do right by her now. she hasn't had any contact at all with her father in over 3 years."</blockquote>



Although the judge will look into both of your pasts, he will ultimately be more concerned with the now. If you are doing everything you have to do now your past won't be questioned. As for BD, the judge will order he pay support & hopefully order him to do most of the transporting. I can't see him getting too much visitation being that he is so far away & his living conditions kind of..suck. Just keep any & all evidence you have now. Document your texts/emails & etc. definitely request the supervised visits, I was able to get them by request during our trial but the judge ordered them after I proved why in court. good luck!