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If you left your babys father... ~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
20th May '13

How long did it take for you to be ready to start a new relationship? I'm sure I'm just feeling lonely, but I miss having someone to talk to, and to be held by, and I miss seeing my son interact with a father figure.... (hes been around my guy friends and they're all amazing with him) I just got out of a bad situation but I wanna move on and I feel like its way to quick but... like i said.. I miss it...

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
20th May '13

2 years and counting....ugh...

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36500 posts
20th May '13

My ex left me. But its been 3 years. Im starting to dip my toes. I have a lot of trust issues.

~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
20th May '13
Quoting A is Me:" 2 years and counting....ugh..."

=( Are you waiting because you havent found someone? Or because you dont want to be in a relationship?

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
20th May '13

What you're feeling is normal. I know it's hard, but take your time. You're feeling lonely and vulnerable now and that is not a good state to start a relationship in. Take some time for yourself to heal. In the meantime, rely on your friends if you have to.



Keep your head up! :)

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 12139 posts
20th May '13

I'd say you need more time,so you don't jump into something and it end up being a rebound
If you ever wanna talk you can text me (you still have my number?)

~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
20th May '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" My ex left me. But its been 3 years. Im starting to dip my toes. I have a lot of trust issues. "


Me too.. Its been 2 days since I left. I'm sure its just being lonely.

~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
20th May '13
Quoting *PeanutButter*:" I'd say you need more time,so you don't jump into something and it end up being a rebound If you ever wanna talk you can text me (you still have my number?)"


scratch that.. i think i have it

~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
20th May '13
Quoting tay. ☮:" What you're feeling is normal. I know it's hard, but take your time. You're feeling lonely and vulnerable ... [snip!] ... in. Take some time for yourself to heal. In the meantime, rely on your friends if you have to. Keep your head up! :)"


Thank you:)

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36500 posts
20th May '13
Quoting ~Elliott's.Mommy~:" Me too.. Its been 2 days since I left. I'm sure its just being lonely. "


Yeah. Im sure it completely is. That first summer, I was doing anything and everything so I wouldnt have to be alone and feel lonely. This is just the beginning. It has to get worse before it gets better.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36500 posts
20th May '13
Quoting tay. ☮:" What you're feeling is normal. I know it's hard, but take your time. You're feeling lonely and vulnerable ... [snip!] ... in. Take some time for yourself to heal. In the meantime, rely on your friends if you have to. Keep your head up! :)"


I agree!

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27014 posts
20th May '13
Quoting ~Elliott's.Mommy~:" How long did it take for you to be ready to start a new relationship? I'm sure I'm just feeling lonely, ... [snip!] ... him) I just got out of a bad situation but I wanna move on and I feel like its way to quick but... like i said.. I miss it..."


Um.... a month maybe? It was a shitty relationship and I was DONE.

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
20th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Elliott's.Mommy~:</b>" =( Are you waiting because you havent found someone? Or because you dont want to be in a relationship?"</blockquote>




Well, I left my sons father when my son was anout two months but he really left me no choice, he was an addict and not ready to be a dad. Before that we had our issues, sure, but honestly the only thing we argued about was his drug use. I really loved him. I still do. I think that's the problem. I also have NO social life whatsoever. I want to want to get back out there, but for some reason it feels wrong? Idk, its hard to explain.

*Berrrr Due November 19; 1 child; Ohio 2724 posts
20th May '13

I left sperm donor beginning of Aug 2008. But had been completely detached from him for about 2-3 months prior to that. Just finally got the guts to kick him out.



I started talking to DH toward the end of Sept 2008. Our anniversary is Oct 12,2008 (for beginning dating.)



It really just depends on the person and how you feel.

MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
20th May '13

We've been apart for almost 3 years, although we toyed with getting back together for the first year and a half, so I wasn't dating anyone else seriously in that time.. I've dated plenty, am pregnant now and still not in a very serious relationship. I'd never admit this to anyone who knows me, but my heart still misses him, I regret leaving him to an extent, but know it was for the best. I'd never get back with him, but it's hard to move on when I still compare my current SO to him (never outwardly, this is all in my head) Take your time. If you're going to date soon, I'd make it casual "let's go to dinner" type of things, not jumping into anything serious. As someone else said, you don't need a rebound relationship, and it doesn't sound like you're ready for anything else, you're lonely, and that is normal.