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Spent a good chunk of my night crying. user banned
21st May '13

Problem #1: I had to switch OBs yesterday because my new ins. can take up to 2 months to process and my old OB refused to see me unless I paid full price BEFORE each visit.



Problem #2: It really looks like we're not going to be able to afford our homebirth... it'll cost me $3000 OOP, and it doesn't seem like we can swing that after rent/food/bills/etc.



Problem #3: I'd rather have an unassisted birth than let this OB deliver my baby. He's induction happy, epi happy and c-section happy. He likes to induce before the due date for "ease." He pushes epidurals like there's no tomorrow and openly admits to giving unnecessary C-sections because they're "easier and require less time."



My home birth is my dream. I can't stop crying, the hospitals and hospital staff around here suck for maternity. I'm low risk so there's no need for a hospital. Someone make me feel better :cry:

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
21st May '13

Read about unassisted Home births. Shouldn't cost more than the inflatable birth pool lol

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 109259 posts
21st May '13

I thought this was going to be about OK :?

Some people need perspective.

*beck-i* {JAS08} 3 kids; Prattsburgh, New York 4808 posts
21st May '13

I know how you feel I can't find a good midwife to deliver at home for us either and that is what I really wanted. I am still on the hunt but for right now I will have to settle with a new Dr and a hospital birth. :-(

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
21st May '13

I am sorry. Have you talked to your midwife? My HB midwife is always willing to help people. She doesn't do it for the money and I know she would still help me even if I couldn't pay. Maybe she can get you a payment plan?

If you are going to do an unassisted HB I would look for Doulas in your area who are training to be midwives, ask your midwife is she knows anyone in training that may cost less.

I am planning a HB and I would have an unassisted before I would go back to my OB.

Everything will work out darling.

Ax3 2 kids; Arkansas 3807 posts
21st May '13

I'm sorry :(:( But just think....the end result of both scenarios is a beautiful baby in your arms. You can refuse the epi and refuse to get induced

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
21st May '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" I thought this was going to be about OK :? Some people need perspective."


Just because people died in a tornado doesn't mean she cannot be upset about not getting her birth experience.

What the hell?

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 109259 posts
21st May '13
Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:" Just because people died in a tornado doesn't mean she cannot be upset about not getting her birth experience. What the hell?"




I was remarking on the drama of being in tears all night :roll:

I mean really :lol:

and you're right, people can be as self centered and unconcerned with anything that does not effect them personally as much as they want, idk why I expected any different :D

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
21st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" I was remarking on the drama of being in tears all night :roll: I mean really :lol: and you're ... [snip!] ... and unconcerned with anything that does not effect them personally as much as they want, idk why I expected any different :D"</blockquote>




I agree with you

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
21st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:</b>" Just because people died in a tornado doesn't mean she cannot be upset about not getting her birth experience. What the hell?"</blockquote>




:!: right? I hate when ppl act like that. This is just like the whole "oh before you go and fake a pregnancy for April fools think about all the women who can't have babies." Wtf?



Op, You have every right to be sad about it. I hated my hospital birth with ds and refuse to ever do it again unless I end up high risk.

Crazy Train 18 kids; Killeen, Texas 1478 posts
21st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" I thought this was going to be about OK :? Some people need perspective."</blockquote>




Don't be a d**k. Birth is a very special event and having a bad one can be traumatic. Just because its not the only bad thing happening in the world doesn't mean it doesn't matter.

user banned Due October 22 (boy); 17 kids; d***o, 4998 posts
21st May '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" I thought this was going to be about OK :? Some people need perspective."


My sincerest apologies for having my own concerns about my baby and my body, I forgot that when bad things happen around the world (i.e. every second of every day - what about the starving kids in Africa? I hope you never have ever complained about not liking your meal!) we're not allowed to have any concern for ourselves.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 109259 posts
21st May '13
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" I was remarking on the drama of being ... [snip!] ... not effect them personally as much as they want, idk why I expected any different :D"</blockquote> I agree with you"

Thank God some people think of others and not just their petty selves.

ℕightingale 1 child; Mississippi 8345 posts
status 21st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" I thought this was going to be about OK :? Some people need perspective."</blockquote>




You lady are being a buttmunch. I don't see you worrying about how many kids are being stolen in Africa and families raped and killed or donating money to help. She can cry about whatever she feels like to her is a big deal doesn't mean that she isn't sadden by what happen in OK. Geez!

[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 15619 posts
21st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" I thought this was going to be about OK :? Some people need perspective."</blockquote>




The f**k? Just because there are bad things occurring in the world doesn't mean a person isn't allowed to grieve the problems that are personally affecting them. :?