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user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
May 21st '13
Quoting Mama Milk Machine! (+2!):" Anyway, without giving any more thought or time to the people who think I'm selfish for having my own ... [snip!] ... so I don't blame her whatsoever. I'm determined to not be bullied and disrespected at another birth like I was at my son's. "


My midwife charges $1800. We have to give her 50% by 36 weeks. I know several women who have gone to a birthing center! Do you have free standing birthing centers where you are? Here they are part of L&D and I don't trust myself to have so many medical interventions near by. So I am afraid that I would use them. Then again if my midwife costs more that might change things.

What insurance do you have? Does your midwife attempt to bill insurance?

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
May 21st '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:</b>" My midwife charges $1800. We have to give her 50% by 36 weeks. I know several women who have gone ... [snip!] ... if my midwife costs more that might change things. What insurance do you have? Does your midwife attempt to bill insurance?"</blockquote>




All our birthing centers are a part of a hospitals l&d and all the drs who deliver at the hospital are the only ones who deliver at the centers. It's weird.
So I agree, she should try and find a free standing one.
And also OP, are there any other midwives in your area you could meet and maybe they take payments?

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3475 posts
May 21st '13

I would not let financial budget let me not home birth, I had an unasissted home birth and side from an inflatable fishy (=fishy characters) pool and herbs for emergency, I didnt pay for much more. The biggest thing I paid for was the midwife who came a couple days after (she was supposed to come RIGHT after but i lost her phone number that day)....it was $350 to check out me and the baby. Call around you can find an awsome midwife who will come right after and help you out!

user banned Due October 22 (boy); 17 kids; d***o, 4998 posts
May 21st '13
Quoting eKnuckles:" I would not let financial budget let me not home birth, I had an unasissted home birth and side from ... [snip!] ... was $350 to check out me and the baby. Call around you can find an awsome midwife who will come right after and help you out!"


Do you mind if I PM you?

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3475 posts
May 21st '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Milk Machine! (+2!):</b>" Do you mind if I PM you?"</blockquote>




No of course not :)

ivalilly 1 child; Kansas 603 posts
May 21st '13
Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" just stop totally not the same. Being ... [snip!] ... again. There is nothing wrong with crying. I guess it's ok to be a b***h because this post wasn't about what you wanted :lol:"


:)



OP, you still have time! I'm sure something will come along. You should be able to get the birth experience that you want!

Naturally Alternative 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 6978 posts
May 21st '13

Ha! That poster would have a field day with me, I cried for DAYS over my situation. Hubby was discharged from the AF and we can't afford a home birth (didn't want one anyway, where we live isn't a home, it's where we live until we can buy a house). There's an amazing birthing center near by but I want to save money for a house... and my insurance won't pay for the birthing center... so I tried to find a more natural friendly DR. Nope, couldn't do that either.



I was lucky to find a doula who's going to help me for free though. Hoping she can help me to tell the DR to f**k off and leave me alone in labor. My last birth was terrible as well. :(