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Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108782 posts
21st May '13
Quoting Mama Milk Machine! (+2!):" My sincerest apologies for having my own concerns about my baby and my body, I forgot that when bad ... [snip!] ... Africa? I hope you never have ever complained about not liking your meal!) we're not allowed to have any concern for ourselves."


just stop

totally not the same.

Being up all night in tears is a bit dramatic, no?
I mean, I could see it had you lost a child or a family member :?

but to be up all night crying b/c you did not get your way?
get the fuck over, shit does not always go as planned.

I could see being upset about it
disappointed
annoyed
even angry.

But crying all night?

but you're right, you have every right to be a drama whore b/c you did not get the birth of your choice :D

enjoy :lol:



user banned Due October 22 (boy); 17 kids; Dildo, 4998 posts
21st May '13

Anyway, without giving any more thought or time to the people who think I'm selfish for having my own concerns, have any of you ladies had a birth at a birthing center? How was it?



I just contacted another midwife group to see their prices... My normal midwife, I can understand why she needs the money right now. She's also a family friend and money is really tight right now so I don't blame her whatsoever. I'm determined to not be bullied and disrespected at another birth like I was at my son's.

[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 14971 posts
21st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" just stop totally not the same. Being up all night in tears is a bit dramatic, no? I mean, I ... [snip!] ... you're right, you have every right to be a drama whore b/c you did not get the birth of your choice :D enjoy :lol: "</blockquote>



Wtf is your problem? Who the fuck are you to decide what someone else can and can't be upset about, as well as the level of upset?

Zeke's Mama 2 kids; Pensacola, Florida 5850 posts
21st May '13

I'm sorry mama, that kinda sucks. Like another poster said, look into doulas in your area and ask your midwife about options. You still have wine time to figure it out. Oh, and don't let what's her face tear you down, you have every right to be upset.

Crazy Train 18 kids; Killeen, Texas 1478 posts
21st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" Thank God some people think of others and not just their petty selves."</blockquote>




Normal people can feel for more than one situation at a time. Just because she is upset about her birth doesn't mean she doesn't grieve for the victims in OK too.
Just because you have the emotional range of a teaspoon doesn't mean we are all so inept.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
21st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" just stop totally not the same. Being up all night in tears is a bit dramatic, no? I mean, I ... [snip!] ... you're right, you have every right to be a drama whore b/c you did not get the birth of your choice :D enjoy :lol: "</blockquote>




Um, I'd cry all night too if I knew the dr I had to go to was a quack! And my first birth was horrible because of the hospital and dr... It would have been completely comfortable(as comfortable as labour can be) if I was at home.
So yeah I'd bawl my fucking eyes out of I had to have a hospital birth again. There is nothing wrong with crying. I guess it's ok to be a bitch because this post wasn't about what you wanted :lol:

[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 14971 posts
21st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Momma Loves Her Boys:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" Thank God some people think of others and not ... [snip!] ... grieve for the victims in OK too. Just because you have the emotional range of a teaspoon doesn't mean we are all so inept."</blockquote>




Well said. :P

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
21st May '13
Quoting Mama Milk Machine! (+2!):" Anyway, without giving any more thought or time to the people who think I'm selfish for having my own ... [snip!] ... so I don't blame her whatsoever. I'm determined to not be bullied and disrespected at another birth like I was at my son's. "


My midwife charges $1800. We have to give her 50% by 36 weeks. I know several women who have gone to a birthing center! Do you have free standing birthing centers where you are? Here they are part of L&D and I don't trust myself to have so many medical interventions near by. So I am afraid that I would use them. Then again if my midwife costs more that might change things.

What insurance do you have? Does your midwife attempt to bill insurance?

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
21st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:</b>" My midwife charges $1800. We have to give her 50% by 36 weeks. I know several women who have gone ... [snip!] ... if my midwife costs more that might change things. What insurance do you have? Does your midwife attempt to bill insurance?"</blockquote>




All our birthing centers are a part of a hospitals l&d and all the drs who deliver at the hospital are the only ones who deliver at the centers. It's weird.
So I agree, she should try and find a free standing one.
And also OP, are there any other midwives in your area you could meet and maybe they take payments?

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3472 posts
21st May '13

I would not let financial budget let me not home birth, I had an unasissted home birth and side from an inflatable fishy (=fishy characters) pool and herbs for emergency, I didnt pay for much more. The biggest thing I paid for was the midwife who came a couple days after (she was supposed to come RIGHT after but i lost her phone number that day)....it was $350 to check out me and the baby. Call around you can find an awsome midwife who will come right after and help you out!

user banned Due October 22 (boy); 17 kids; Dildo, 4998 posts
21st May '13
Quoting eKnuckles:" I would not let financial budget let me not home birth, I had an unasissted home birth and side from ... [snip!] ... was $350 to check out me and the baby. Call around you can find an awsome midwife who will come right after and help you out!"


Do you mind if I PM you?

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3472 posts
21st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Milk Machine! (+2!):</b>" Do you mind if I PM you?"</blockquote>




No of course not :)

ivalilly 1 child; Kansas 603 posts
21st May '13
Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" just stop totally not the same. Being ... [snip!] ... again. There is nothing wrong with crying. I guess it's ok to be a bitch because this post wasn't about what you wanted :lol:"


:)



OP, you still have time! I'm sure something will come along. You should be able to get the birth experience that you want!

Naturally Alternative 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 6476 posts
21st May '13

Ha! That poster would have a field day with me, I cried for DAYS over my situation. Hubby was discharged from the AF and we can't afford a home birth (didn't want one anyway, where we live isn't a home, it's where we live until we can buy a house). There's an amazing birthing center near by but I want to save money for a house... and my insurance won't pay for the birthing center... so I tried to find a more natural friendly DR. Nope, couldn't do that either.



I was lucky to find a doula who's going to help me for free though. Hoping she can help me to tell the DR to fuck off and leave me alone in labor. My last birth was terrible as well. :(