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Obese kids... Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
21st May '13

If you had a friend, who is overfeeding her kids, and allowing them to become morbidly obese at a young age, would you say something to her about it?

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15536 posts
21st May '13

No. Her pedi will say something about it. Most of the time they don't care though. My nephew is 4 and weighs 90 lbs but its her baby so she gives him whatever he wants.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
21st May '13

yes. and i actually fear for SO's brother & fiance to have children because she is like, morbidly obese, they eat absolute garbage, that child would have the worst habits. :(

Sassyscorpio Due November 4; Minnesota 145 posts
21st May '13

If we were close, and I knew she was feeding her kids garbage food, yes! Otherwise if it's not a close friend, and I don't know what the kids are eating, I would keep my mouth shut! Lol :)

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
21st May '13
Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):" No. Her pedi will say something about it. Most of the time they don't care though. My nephew is 4 and weighs 90 lbs but its her baby so she gives him whatever he wants."


:shock::shock::shock::shock::shock::shock::shock::shock::shock::shock:

GetItGirl 2 kids; Virginia 1766 posts
21st May '13
Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):" No. Her pedi will say something about it. Most of the time they don't care though. My nephew is 4 and weighs 90 lbs but its her baby so she gives him whatever he wants."


that is insane! I'm 26 and weigh 120! I worry so much about my sons eating habits anyway!

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
21st May '13

Her pedi has told her that she needs to cut back. Her baby is 4 months, and she is giving him 10 ounces of formula every 2 hours, then wonders why he throws up and cries constantly.

saageex3 1 child; New York 5777 posts
21st May '13

If the doctors aren't worried, neither should you.



From personal experience, when I first came to BG I asked the same question about my niece and posted a picture. I thought she was being overly fed because she was a huge 9 month old. Now she's 2 1/2 and is the normal weight for her age. You can't just assume things. She just happened to be a big baby and I had no knowledge yet of babies and weight

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
21st May '13
Quoting Sassyscorpio:" If we were close, and I knew she was feeding her kids garbage food, yes! Otherwise if it's not a close friend, and I don't know what the kids are eating, I would keep my mouth shut! Lol :)"


They post pics every other day just about of them eating nothing but junk food. Her cousins kids are the same way. Absolutely HUGE! The one little boy wasn't allowed to play football because of his weight, and he's 8.....

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
21st May '13
Quoting saageex3:" If the doctors aren't worried, neither should you. From personal experience, when I first came to BG ... [snip!] ... for her age. You can't just assume things. She just happened to be a big baby and I had no knowledge yet of babies and weight"


babies are different than toddlers, though. they tend to lose baby fat and chunkiness when they become mobile.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
21st May '13

No. The reason is that parents are not stupid. They KNOW their kids are obese, and if they don't then it's because they choose not to know. They know what food is healthy, and what isn't. Again, if they choose to ignore that then you can't can't fix it.



I know when I'm eating candy that it is bad for me. Someone walking up to me to tell me it's bad isn't going to change it. I know it's bad, but I made a choice to eat it. Likewise, when people feed their kids, they KNOW it's bad.



I think that's the Dr's place to comment. If you do you'll just strain relationships and alienate people and not fix a single thing.

Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7326 posts
21st May '13

Idk that's tough. On one hand, I'd feel bad for the children if they were being taught such unhealthy eating habits. But on the other hand, I wouldn't want to upset my friend. I'd hope the children's doctor would say something if they felt the child was becoming unhealthy. Even if you do say something, it might not change what the friend is doing. Does she not know any better maybe?

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
21st May '13
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Booger & Bubba's Mommy 18 kids; Illinois 8136 posts
21st May '13

Nope. It's not my place to make her feel bad.



I have a friend who's son is going to run 5 in aug. He weighs 70lbs, is still not potty trained & uses a pacifier. It's not my place to tell her she needs to stop giving in to him. I cannot let my kids play with hers. The last time we did my 3yo (at the time) asked him why he was wearing a diaper & had a binky like a baby. I felt really bad since my son is like 6months younger than him.

Jennifer SG Montreal, Quebec 5676 posts
21st May '13

I would but in a very respectful manner. If my friendship is strong, my friend might appreciate my concern for her family. You can talk about it in a concerning and non-attacking or blaming way. A slight mention, see how friend responds and if its good then a discussion can happen, if her response is not great...at least you mentioned it.
Plant the seed...the rest if up to her