Okay so everybody knows I have no friends and no connection with my family. I post about it a lot. Anyways, I'm going to have this baby soon and all of a sudden EVERYONE is asking to come be in the room at the delivery. First of all, what the fuck. I am almost offended that everyone is asking. Especially when we have like NO relationship. Labor and delivery is a very personal experience and I really wish that I hadn't had anyone there at my first delivery. My second I just had ex DH and my godmother. This time I'm about to not even let my godmother come, because she has denied coming to see me/letting me go see her twice in the past like two months and it's been over a year since I've seen her. It's my baby dude. Idk why people are so nuts about being there. But now I've decided it's going to be only me and SO. Period. Just had to vent.
I understand how you feel. My grandma (who with dd #1 openly said she didn't want to be in the delivery room when she was born threw a bitch fit and left the hospital when it was time to push and she was asked to leave the room) is now saying with this one that she is going to be in the room period. Ummm that's MY vagina on display, I think I will choose who will be in there, thanks.
Ugh I'm so glad I'm having a planned csection this time
With my first MIL insisted she be there,as soon as I was admitted she was there and didn't leave for my entire labor,DH an I couldn't even have private time effort LO was born. I I hadn't of had a csection I honestly think she would have just stayed Even though I told her no
Ive told my mom that I only wanted DH there for the delivery and her feelings were hurt. I dont understand why everyone feels the need to see him actually COME OUT. I mean come on thats a little personal.
Quoting Hotpocket:" Ive told my mom that I only wanted DH there for the delivery and her feelings were hurt. I dont understand ... [snip!] ... were hurt. I dont understand why everyone feels the need to see him actually COME OUT. I mean come on thats a little personal."
It's super personal...and I view it as a really important time to just be with SO and experience our baby together. You only get to deliver once and it's life changing. This is my SO's first and I am just really persistant about him being able to experience it as deep as possible without us having to worry about other people .
Quoting Loka Lokita:" It's super personal...and I view it as a really important time to just be with SO and experience our ... [snip!] ... really persistant about him being able to experience it as deep as possible without us having to worry about other people ."
Exactly how I feel. Hell I dont want anyone even waiting. I will call you when I want you to meet our son.
When I go into labour it's only going to be me and my other half there, maybe my daughter too, haven't decided on that one. No one else needs to be there, not their baby.
Originally DH's and my plan was to have both our mothers in the room. After taking some birthing classes and seeing a lot of births on video, we looked at each other and were like, uhhhhh no! It will only be us two in the room. We've already said something to both our mothers and luckily they are very supportive in our decision. I was a little worried about my MIL because she works in the maternity wing at the hospital I will be giving birth at. It's a very private moment and I need to feel as comfortable and feel as free about expressing myself as possible! I don't want to worry about being polite to ANYONE!