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doing special things mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
21st May '13

I took my kids to sea world yesterday for the first time cause we had a little extra money finally. Well i posted pictures today and my ex got pissed of cause i didnt tell him we were going and i should have invited him. It was a last minute decision and a spur of the moment kinda thing. I feel like if he wants to do something special with the boys than do it when he has them. When he has the boys he doesnt do anything with them just sits at home all day. I like to do things with the boys im not a sit at home all day kind of person. To my point when you do special things with your kids to you invite their dad?

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
21st May '13
Quoting mom2andrew&carter:" I took my kids to sea world yesterday for the first time cause we had a little extra money finally. Well ... [snip!] ... im not a sit at home all day kind of person. To my point when you do special things with your kids to you invite their dad? "


Well I am not in that position, but I totally agree with you. My parents were divorced, so if we did something with Dad, we didn't invite Mom. Likewise if we did something with Mom, we didn't invite Dad.



The only exception would be things like plays, games, that sort of things. If it was an event where we worked for something then of course both parents were invited, even if only one of them put us in the class.

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
21st May '13

I'm married to their dad and I just go special places with them. I tell him because I am leaving the house with our kids, but...I don't invite him always. I just say I am taking DD/DS on a "date" today.



He has every right to do the same and he does.



Special stuff one on one is very important I think.

mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
21st May '13
Quoting she nan igans:" Well I am not in that position, but I totally agree with you. My parents were divorced, so if we did ... [snip!] ... an event where we worked for something then of course both parents were invited, even if only one of them put us in the class."

well yea of course once they start school and sports i would definitly invite him thats only right but i just dont think i should have to invite him when i do special stuff with them. I personally think when he has them he should get his ass up and do something special with them even if its just taking them to the park.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
21st May '13
Quoting mom2andrew&carter:" well yea of course once they start school and sports i would definitly invite him thats only right but ... [snip!] ... think when he has them he should get his ass up and do something special with them even if its just taking them to the park."



That's what I said, lol. That I agree, anything you do with them with the exception I mentioned you shouldn't need to invite him.



My Dad took us to Universal Studios and camping and all sorts of stuff. We never invited my Mom.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
22nd May '13

were still doing things together. i think its important for the kids to have memories with both their parents. we are more than capable of getting along in public for them tho. we wouldnt go together if we were fighting.