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penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 6992 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Adriana's Mami♥ +1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 2lives2loves:</b>" UPDATE: He came to see me this weekend, when ... [snip!] ... it or not? Sounds like a recipe for disaster, what if he breaks up with you at 9 months... Will you go with adoption then?"


That shouldn't matter. At least she is not having to go against what she doesn't believe in to please him. That's where she was stuck at. If she goes 9 months and they decide that they just can't do it then adoption would be their only other option.



OP Congrats and good luck in the future whether he stays or not. I'm so happy to hear that you didn't go beyond what you believe!!

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Adriana's Mami♥ +1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 2lives2loves:</b>" UPDATE: He came to see me this weekend, when ... [snip!] ... it or not? Sounds like a recipe for disaster, what if he breaks up with you at 9 months... Will you go with adoption then?"


I couldnt agree more. You have to base having this child on YOU not him. This is why I chose adoption for my youngest son because I couldnt base it on my ex.

2lives2loves Due January 26; 49 kids; South Carolina 88 posts
27th May '13
Quoting nothinuneed2no:" That shouldn't matter. At least she is not having to go against what she doesn't believe in to please ... [snip!] ... and good luck in the future whether he stays or not. I'm so happy to hear that you didn't go beyond what you believe!! "


This ^^^^ :!:

Adriana's Mami♥ +1 Due December 14; 33 kids; Ontario 3858 posts
27th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting nothinuneed2no:</b>" That shouldn't matter. At least she is not having to go against what she doesn't believe in to please ... [snip!] ... and good luck in the future whether he stays or not. I'm so happy to hear that you didn't go beyond what you believe!! "</blockquote>



If she wanted to do adoption or keep it then great, but she was seriously considering abortion and now isn't because he touched her belly a couple times. Seems like she has high hopes for this relationship with a still married man. Good luck OP.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Adriana's Mami♥ +1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nothinuneed2no:</b>" That shouldn't matter. At least she is ... [snip!] ... touched her belly a couple times. Seems like she has high hopes for this relationship with a still married man. Good luck OP."


I have to agree. OP is sounds like you are basing it on HIM. Sure dont do abortion because you dont believe in it. But it really sounds like you are basing it on the guy that got you pregnant. Because he gave you some looks and felt your belly and told you sweet nothings.

2lives2loves Due January 26; 49 kids; South Carolina 88 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Adriana's Mami♥ +1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nothinuneed2no:</b>" That shouldn't matter. At least she is ... [snip!] ... touched her belly a couple times. Seems like she has high hopes for this relationship with a still married man. Good luck OP."


It has nothing to do with the fact that he touched my belly. That just kept making things more confusing because it seemed that he was thinking something other than what he had been telling me. I had decided not to go through with it before he got here.

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 6992 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Adriana's Mami♥ +1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nothinuneed2no:</b>" That shouldn't matter. At least she is ... [snip!] ... touched her belly a couple times. Seems like she has high hopes for this relationship with a still married man. Good luck OP."


All because of him. If you remember correctly every single post she stated firmly how she is so against it but he wanted it so bad. She came here looking for help. Everyone gave her their opinions about it. Now that he's okay with it, she's not being pressured into it like before. I don't see how she is having high hopes of a relationship with this man. From what I get she is thrilled that she's not being pushed into something that she didn't want to do in the first place. I would be ecstatic as well.

ღCece[9 more weeks!]ღ Due June 22; 1 child; Lawrenceville, GA, United States 11841 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Adriana's Mami♥ +1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nothinuneed2no:</b>" That shouldn't matter. At least she is ... [snip!] ... touched her belly a couple times. Seems like she has high hopes for this relationship with a still married man. Good luck OP."


:!:



good luck to you OP

2lives2loves Due January 26; 49 kids; South Carolina 88 posts
27th May '13
Quoting nothinuneed2no:" All because of him. If you remember correctly every single post she stated firmly how she is so against ... [snip!] ... that she's not being pushed into something that she didn't want to do in the first place. I would be ecstatic as well. "


In my other thread I had also posted how badly I was considering go against him and keeping/adopting out the baby. I was more torn between those two than I was in the abortion. Yes, I made the appointment because I wanted to make sure that I had it before the heartbeat if in fact I decided to do it. But i knew deep down I think that i was not going to do it. There are posts here that even state, that others thought I wouldn't go through with it as well. I am very very happy that I'm no longer being pushed into something I don't believe in, as well as I am ecstatic to not have the stress of informing him, losing him because I was going to go against what he wanted, which he really didn't either. I don't know where he and I will end up in the future, but I do know that I will love this baby unconditionally, with or without him by my side.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
27th May '13
Quoting 2lives2loves:" In my other thread I had also posted how badly I was considering go against him and keeping/adopting ... [snip!] ... he and I will end up in the future, but I do know that I will love this baby unconditionally, with or without him by my side."


What troubles me and the other ladies is that you had to wait for HIM to tell you that it was ok to stay pregnant and not get an abortion. You couldnt figure it out on your own.

2lives2loves Due January 26; 49 kids; South Carolina 88 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" What troubles me and the other ladies is that you had to wait for HIM to tell you that it was ok to stay pregnant and not get an abortion. You couldnt figure it out on your own. "


I understand that, but I've said twice now, that I decided before he told me.. I decided before he arrived on friday. But I didn't know how to tell him without him driving off and being an a*****e to me. Him telling me was what I needed in this, because I no longer had to tell him that I was going against his wishes.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
27th May '13
Quoting 2lives2loves:" I understand that, but I've said twice now, that I decided before he told me.. I decided before he ... [snip!] ... to me. Him telling me was what I needed in this, because I no longer had to tell him that I was going against his wishes. "


Ok. Well honestly, if he would have done that then thats on him, not on you.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
status 27th May '13

I am happy for you. :D

Jessica Bardsley Due November 17; 51 kids; Oklahoma 16 posts
11th Jun '13

Congratulations!!! You can do it!!! God will never give us more than we can handle :) I hear theres a Calvary Chapel in Lexington, and Charleston. If you get in a tough spot and need help, or support, check them out!

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
status 11th Jun '13
Quoting Jessica Bardsley:" Congratulations!!! You can do it!!! God will never give us more than we can handle :) I hear theres a ... [snip!] ... theres a Calvary Chapel in Lexington, and Charleston. If you get in a tough spot and need help, or support, check them out!"


:roll:
That is one of the dumbest things people say.