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Ludwig Von Koopa Due October 6 (boy); 1 child; Los Angeles, California 299 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" I haven't read all three pages so I will catch up, but he probably put the lock on his phone because ... [snip!] ... way. Not trying to be mean or anything. Also, I hope you two find a way to spend more time together. Weekends only ould suck. "


well i did say before...that he DID lift me out of a dark place in my life...and he is a good person to talk to indeed...
BUT we were strictly friends only for 3 years...
aka...something innocent turned into something more. im so grateful we been together for 7 years now.
BUT I know exactly how he can be...And I know from experience...being TOO nice can lead to something else...



yup...im sure we have all been there. and as I said...its not him i dont trust. it is here.
I know and im sure all us women know how seductive we can be...
Maybe he dont want the pictures but if I didnt check her...what IF one convo led to another and they end up meeting up and have sex?



It is a possiblilty.



if she is a model i bet she is sexy.

Ludwig Von Koopa Due October 6 (boy); 1 child; Los Angeles, California 299 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting 12.21.07♥04.16.13:" I'd lock my phone too if someone was snooping through it :? Even if i had nothing to hide."


I didnt snoop through it!



His alarm went off, and when i turned off the alarm the messageing screen was up...maybe it was the last thing he was looking at before he set his phone aside.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27164 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting Ludwig Von Koopa:" I didnt snoop through it! His alarm went off, and when i turned off the alarm the messageing screen was up...maybe it was the last thing he was looking at before he set his phone aside."


But you took down the number and contacted the girl.... dude that's fucked up and still invades his privacy. Exit the messages, you don't need to be all "Oh message is up that means I can read it."

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
22nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ludwig Von Koopa:</b>" I didnt snoop through it! His alarm went off, and when i turned off the alarm the messageing screen was up...maybe it was the last thing he was looking at before he set his phone aside."</blockquote>



You read it, and then went back and read everything else, and then went through and read everything on a whole separate occasion. Snoop.

Ludwig Von Koopa Due October 6 (boy); 1 child; Los Angeles, California 299 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting 12.21.07♥04.16.13:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ludwig Von Koopa:</b>" I didnt snoop through it! His alarm ... [snip!] ... it, and then went back and read everything else, and then went through and read everything on a whole separate occasion. Snoop."

separate occasion? it was only once...
3 weeks ago.



i didnt nag him or bring it up at all ever since that one day.



im straight.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting Ludwig Von Koopa:" like i said, i called cause i wanted to verify. I dropped the subject 3 weeks ago with him. I have been ... [snip!] ... a baby on the way and I dont need him thinking or trying to stray away from me like that. i am trying to have a happy family""


Dude, it is JUST business. It's not like she's sending him the nude pictures, asking him out, telling him she wants to f**k him. NO! She's trying to sell her pictures. You as a "model" should understand that, so how can you not trust her?



To answer your question, neither. I would tell DH I don't appreciate her trying to sell him the pictures and leave it at that. I wouldn't contact her and tell her to stay away from him. Why do you need to tell her that you don't want him straying from you? :? Will you do this with every girl that flirts or throws herself at him? At the end of the day Shakira herself could throw herself at him. He's the one who'll have to make the decision whether he wants to take it or not. If you really trusted him, you wouldn't have to hunt the girl down and tell her to please stay away. You would trust him enough to know that he will make the right choice and be faithful to you.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting Ludwig Von Koopa:" separate occasion? it was only once... 3 weeks ago. i didnt nag him or bring it up at all ever since that one day. im straight."


So, why are you bringing it up now? Whether it was three months ago or last night, snooping is snooping.

Ludwig Von Koopa Due October 6 (boy); 1 child; Los Angeles, California 299 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting Now and Forever:" Dude, it is JUST business. It's not like she's sending him the nude pictures, asking him out, telling ... [snip!] ... and tell her to please stay away. You would trust him enough to know that he will make the right choice and be faithful to you."


i didnt tell her to stay away. i told my man he can talk to her.
I just didnt like how she was coming at him...
as i said...i dont have a problem with him talking or hanging with any chick...



BUT if she cant respect him...our relationship or me...i gotta check her...



he has done the same to men i talk to as well that tried to cross the line.



I know she would potentially f**k him for $ cause i have fucked clients for cash in the past.

Ludwig Von Koopa Due October 6 (boy); 1 child; Los Angeles, California 299 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting Now and Forever:" So, why are you bringing it up now? Whether it was three months ago or last night, snooping is snooping. "


also...i didn't bring it up to him...like i said this happened 3 weeks ago and i haven't bugged him about it since. i was simply asking the women here for they're thoughts. that's all.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
23rd May '13
Quoting Ludwig Von Koopa:" i didnt tell her to stay away. i told my man he can talk to her. I just didnt like how she was coming ... [snip!] ... that tried to cross the line. I know she would potentially f**k him for $ cause i have fucked clients for cash in the past."


No offense but your sense is all kinds of fucked up. How are you going to say you'll check a girl if she crosses a line with your SO but then tell him that you're perfectly fine with him talking or even hanging out with her? lol.



Just because you did certain things while you were "modeling" does not mean she'll do it. If you were capable of f**king for money, doesn't mean she's the same way.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
23rd May '13
Quoting Ludwig Von Koopa:" also...i didn't bring it up to him...like i said this happened 3 weeks ago and i haven't bugged him about it since. i was simply asking the women here for they're thoughts. that's all."


Yes but what would be the use now if it was three weeks ago? If women told you they thought he was cheating what would you have done? Brought it up to him?

dudeitsjo {{Army STRONG}} Due June 3; 33 kids; Texas 1081 posts
28th May '13
Quoting Not tellin:" He may have put the lock on because he feels that his privacy has been removed from him. We are all entitled ... [snip!] ... He could just enjoy a little porn here and there. Time to have an open conversation that isn't accusatory with him."


:!::!: agreed.



And on another note, I don't get the phrase "It's not you that I don't trust, it's her"... Well, last I checked you weren't in a relationship with her? So as long as you don't have any fears about her creepin over to where he's at and raping him, your trust for your man should be enough. He has the final say, not her.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
6th Jun '13
Quoting dudeitsjo {{Army STRONG}}:" :!::!: agreed. And on another note, I don't get the phrase "It's not you that I don't trust, it's ... [snip!] ... her creepin over to where he's at and raping him, your trust for your man should be enough. He has the final say, not her."


I am late in the reply because I was on vacation BUT, I fully agree. The issue of trust shouldn't be between anyone other than the 2 in the relationship. Not trusting other women is a cop out excuse and a transparent cover-up of "I am jealous, insecure and feel threatened about the stability of my relationship". I don't worry about other women. If my husband walks away from me for another woman, so be it. It wasn't her, it was him. Any woman can flirt or throw herself at my husband but, at the end of the day, it is me that he loves and will always come home to. He won't stray from me because of the honest and trusting relationship we have. It is really common sense. If you have to worry about your partner straying, there isn't much of a relationship to begin with.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27164 posts
7th Jun '13
Quoting Ludwig Von Koopa:" i didnt tell her to stay away. i told my man he can talk to her. I just didnt like how she was coming ... [snip!] ... that tried to cross the line. I know she would potentially f**k him for $ cause i have fucked clients for cash in the past."


Just because you spread your legs for money doesn't mean others do.