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BD's GF SMBC**TTC#3 TTC since Jun 2013; 2 kids; California 17897 posts
22nd May '13

So.... not to get into everything that makes me want to vomit about this situation.... but BD and this girl have been together for almost a year now. She is FINALLY putting on her big girl panties. After a year of total bullshit, he is finally seeing DD again. It's all because of his GF. She is his sugar mama. She buys DD everything and majority of the time DD is visiting, she is with her. I FINALLY got them to start communicating with me. So I am glad. He better marry this one.... Lilah needs stability and a sane father figure who can provide....even if it is through rose colored glasses his GF paints. It cracks me up. She is totally the type to put a man in his place... she even does it in front of me. Karma douche bag. Karma. NOW I'm just worried she's going to grow a brain eventually and realize what a dirt bag he is and leave.... I hope she stays dumb. lol She seems like a good mom from what I can see now. That's always good news.

Projectpaige 4 kids; Corona, California 876 posts
22nd May '13

I'm in the same situation. My bd married her so I hope she doesn't grow a brain either and divorce him. I talk to only her and she is great to dd. Good luck :)

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts
22nd May '13

Refreshing to see a woman not be petty about the ex's GF.

Projectpaige 4 kids; Corona, California 876 posts
22nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" Refreshing to see a woman not be petty about the ex's GF."</blockquote>




It really is. It is such a relief too, I consider my bd's a friend lol, we talk several times a week.

saageex3 1 child; New York 5767 posts
22nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" Refreshing to see a woman not be petty about the ex's GF."</blockquote>




Agree 100%. I thought this was going to be a post about how " she's a b***h and you hate her"

SMBC**TTC#3 TTC since Jun 2013; 2 kids; California 17897 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting Projectpaige:" I'm in the same situation. My bd married her so I hope she doesn't grow a brain either and divorce him. I talk to only her and she is great to dd. Good luck :)"


At first I was pissed at her... she DID prevent BD from seeing DD because she is an overbearing ball squeezing b***h. If ever I DID try to speak to him, she would start texting me instead. I finally went off on her and ever since then she's been okay. I need to have communication with my daughter's other parent. It is clear the other parent is her. lol So as long as she speaks to me, I am ok. But don't go trying to squeeze my balls b***h, I squeeze faster and harder.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
22nd May '13

Ehh..I have mixed feelings about this. It's good that he's coming around BUT he should be coming around because he wants to, not because his GF is forcing him or encouraging him to do so. What happens if they break up? That would bother me & I definitely would be bringing it up if it was my situation. :wink:

Projectpaige 4 kids; Corona, California 876 posts
22nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Is that still my name?:</b>" At first I was pissed at her... she DID prevent BD from seeing DD because she is an overbearing ball ... [snip!] ... her. lol So as long as she speaks to me, I am ok. But don't go trying to squeeze my balls b***h, I squeeze faster and harder."</blockquote>




I totally agree lol. Bd called the other day and I was like how can I help you? Please have my ex Heather call me lol. I've given up on any relationship with him, we are just civil in public.

SMBC**TTC#3 TTC since Jun 2013; 2 kids; California 17897 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting saageex3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" Refreshing to see a woman not be petty about ... [snip!] ... ex's GF."</blockquote> Agree 100%. I thought this was going to be a post about how " she's a b***h and you hate her""


She was a b***h. And I did post those things, but about HIM not her...... now that she is acting like an adult, I can make sense of her actions...as long as she doesn't go back to being a closed off "my way or the high way" hooker face, that's ok. lol I never had any issues just out of "jealousy" or what have you... I had problems with the situation for other reasons..... Like the fact he is a lying dirt bag and she doesn't know any better.... but hey, that's their relationship. In her words, they are a "team"... I do laugh every time she says that.... BUUTTT as long as she is being a good mommy number two, I am more than happy.

SMBC**TTC#3 TTC since Jun 2013; 2 kids; California 17897 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting Now and Forever:" Ehh..I have mixed feelings about this. It's good that he's coming around BUT he should be coming around ... [snip!] ... What happens if they break up? That would bother me & I definitely would be bringing it up if it was my situation. :wink:"


It does bother me.... but I'm not focusing on the what ifs and so forth. In the beginning, it WAS her not allowing him to see DD. But I am sure he was spilling lies for her. I had it out with her about him not being around for a year and her AS A SINGLE MOTHER should know better.... everything after that is history.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts
22nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting saageex3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" Refreshing to see a woman not be petty about ... [snip!] ... ex's GF."</blockquote> Agree 100%. I thought this was going to be a post about how " she's a b***h and you hate her""</blockquote>




So did I lol

SMBC**TTC#3 TTC since Jun 2013; 2 kids; California 17897 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting Projectpaige:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Is that still my name?:</b>" At first I was pissed at her... ... [snip!] ... can I help you? Please have my ex Heather call me lol. I've given up on any relationship with him, we are just civil in public."



That's how I see this going. It's so crazy! We were best friends our entire adult lives... and now he doesn't speak to me. It is because of her.... HOWEVER I don't blame her. Her daughter's dad is completely out of the picture... so this whole time I thought she should know how to behave better as I thought she was co-parenting herself. Now I see she is not. So the idea of me communicating with him is foreign to her. He always does when he is at work. I know when I need to talk to him about DD to do it during his working hours, otherwise I will just hear from her. I know it bothers him to see her and I being civil.... he likes to blame me and make up lies.... I frankly told her, there are reasons I make the choices and actions I do. You DO NOT know everything, regardless of what you want to believe. So unless you do, respect me boundaries.

misanthrope 2 kids; Ramona, California 15430 posts
22nd May '13

I'm jealous lol. I keep telling my SO that my XH needs a good woman in his life lol.

SMBC**TTC#3 TTC since Jun 2013; 2 kids; California 17897 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting misanthrope:" I'm jealous lol. I keep telling my SO that my XH needs a good woman in his life lol."



It's true! When I was pregant with DD he took off for some random wh**e. Yet he was still talking to this girl who was a mutual friend of ours. I told him, You better marry her, because at least her I can trust.... then one year later, I find out the two of them were sleeping together while he and I were living together..... he still talks to her and his new girlfriend doesn't know a thing about it.... crazy follows him. If she can keep in check, then maybe she can control the crazy and attempt to make him a decent father figure in DD's eyes if nothing else.