My best friends little girl has been staying the night. Well they both have. She had a bad break up and they have been living with us. Well our kids are both 4. So they sleep together in the bed. My DD has a queen size bed..
Well my friends daughter J keeps my DD up and talks to her. Well she recently told my DD that her mom (me) got stabbed and is dead. And is never coming back. My DD screamed and cried for me. So I had To go cuddle with her and reassure her that I'm still alive and that wasn't true. Well ever since then my DD has been having crazy dreams that I'm dead. She wakes up crying and I have to lay down with her.
I'm so upset my DD never had a problem like this before. She doesn't want me to leave without her, because she thinks I'm not coming back. I told my friend what J said. She said she would have a talk with her. But her daughter keeps telling my DD that I'm dead. I'm starting to think they can't stay here Anymore. There's really no where else her daughter can sleep. And I don't want her to continue to scare my DD. what would you do?
I would ask your friend if she would mind you talking to her daughter instead. Id tell the daughter that what she is saying about you being dead hurts your feelings and upsets your daughter (her friend). I would explain to her that if she did it again, she wouldn't be allowed to sleep over.
Go from there.
Where does your friend sleep? Can she not sleep with her daughter?
Maybe monitor their conversations with a baby monitor?
<blockquote><b>Quoting MunchkinWrangler:</b>" I would ask your friend if she would mind you talking to her daughter instead. Id tell the daughter that ... [snip!] ... Where does your friend sleep? Can she not sleep with her daughter? Maybe monitor their conversations with a baby monitor?"</blockquote>
Well my DHs best friend has been living with us for over a year so he's in the spare bedroom. And she sleeps on the couch (my friend). There's really no other place for J to sleep unless one of them slept on the floor. Which isn't comfortable AT ALL lol.
I talked with J myself recently and she stopped saying it for a few days. But now she started back up. I would try again but she is not my DD.
Crazy thing is we have a baby monitor in the room still. I'm paranoid lol. But we were in the living room at the time watching a movie. And the other monitor is in the master. It was 9 at night so we weren't in bed yet. So we didn't hear. And J makes DD go under the blankets and she whispers it to her. Ugh