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Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
22nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brantley + 1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Nope nothing, I feel like all hope is gone."</blockquote> Has it just been since you've been pregnant?"</blockquote>




Since having DS but got worse when I got pregnant.

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
22nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" can you use lube? I never advocate doing it because you feel pressured. but.. I know for me in a ... [snip!] ... I know for me in a relationship it's also important to keep each other happy. I always enjoy it once I get started. "</blockquote>




We've tried lube, multiple different kinds. Nothing works and most irritate me.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
22nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brantley + 1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" can you use lube? I never advocate doing ... [snip!] ... I get started. "</blockquote> We've tried lube, multiple different kinds. Nothing works and most irritate me."</blockquote>




We use coconut oil.. All natural, good tasting.. It lubricates the Vag. People use it for dryness..

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brantley + 1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" ... [snip!] ... me."</blockquote> We use coconut oil.. All natural, good tasting.. It lubricates the Vag. People use it for dryness.."


That's what I was going to suggest too.



I'm the same way OP. If I can muster up the energy for sex, and we have it more often, then I find I want it more, but that's rare.



Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
22nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brantley + 1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" ... [snip!] ... me."</blockquote> We use coconut oil.. All natural, good tasting.. It lubricates the Vag. People use it for dryness.."</blockquote>




What if it gets inside of you though? Wouldn't that cause irritation?

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
22nd May '13
Quoting Brantley + 1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brantley ... [snip!] ... Vag. People use it for dryness.."</blockquote> What if it gets inside of you though? Wouldn't that cause irritation?"

Nope, it's totally safe and is actually good for yeast infections.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
22nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brantley + 1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brantley ... [snip!] ... Vag. People use it for dryness.."</blockquote> What if it gets inside of you though? Wouldn't that cause irritation?"</blockquote>



No way. It's actually anti bacterial and anti fungal and used to treat yeast ad BV. U was just diagnosed with BV and in treating with CO IN my vagina and tea tree oil on the outside and I'm taking my antibiotics. I'm going for a double wammy. Lol it so gentle and never causes irritation on me

orchidlovingmama 2 kids; Santa Rosa, California 1769 posts
22nd May '13

Do you feel this way when you're not pregnant or is this just a side effect of pregnancy? Because if it is the pregnancy he should be alot more understanding. If its not the pregnancy them my opinion is you should get some KY jelly and give it to him at least twice a week. Its something a man needs both for pleasure and to feel close to his partner. You have to sacrifice sometimes. (obviously in pregnancy less often is fine)

Belle. { 28 weeks } Due February 14 (boy); 1 child; Alberta 5176 posts
22nd May '13

Same kinda situation over here too. We used to have sec multiple times a day and now it's maybe 3-4 times a month. Ever since our son was born we have been so busy/tired. By the end of the day I'm just ready for bed! We usually try to have sex when our son is napping on my dh's days off. But dh doesn't like "scheduling" sex because then its like a chore. Ugh rough times. Hopefully I get my energy and libido back soon

M&M12/13 Due October 15; 2 kids; noidea, TX, United States 7598 posts
22nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brantley + 1:</b>" Me and DH don't have sex but maybe twice a month and its putting a strain on our marriage. It's me and ... [snip!] ... I feel like eventually he's gonna get sick if me not wanting to have sex and is gonna start looking for it somewhere else."</blockquote>




Must be a boy... lol jk



But seriously grant and I had sex everyday just doing it would get me in the mood right before he left I was thinking it will be great to get a break from sex and now he's gone and I want it all the time I feel like crap. :( he will definitely be getting it everyday when he comes home. Just try to think about how you would feel if you couldbt have it that most of the time makes me want it lol

Amy Packer 1 child; Battle Creek, Michigan 533 posts
23rd May '13

I am in the same boat as you...it (along with other issues) has caused a huge strain on the marriage..he is not understanding at all makes rude comments and tries to get me to when i dont want to. It dtarted out because of pain, lack of wanting it in general and exhuasted but now its just a big fight and i have no interest..i hope your situation ends better for you

roflcopterrr Arkansas 478 posts
23rd May '13

I have been the same way since I got pregnant this time, but I have also been on off and on pelvic rest the entire time which doesn't make it easier. The one time that DH tried to force anything on me, it brought back repressed memories from BD and it almost caused us to split up over it. I remember even getting upset he was watching porn and not telling me.



What I have found works for me the very few times I've actually wanted it this pregnancy is finding something (reading, watching, etc) that turns you on and letting it go from there.