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ungrateful for baby shower? Young Native Mama 2 kids; 2 angel babies; San Jacinto, California 129 posts
23rd May '13

So let me start off by saying SO and I were not planning on having a baby shower for baby boy, my MIL threw one for our DD when I was Prego with her, so we didn't expect a shower from anyone this time around we figured we would get the lil stuff baby boy needs when he comes, car seat, bassinet, NB clothes (a few) blankets ECT.. Well my SIL said she was gonna try to throw us one since she wants to be baby boys godmother I told her thats fine if she wants to but I dont and won't expect it if she can't.. She set a date at a place and then tells me our MIL gave her the boot and said she guesses she'll have to throw the shower since she knows no one else is gonna do it and that HER (meaning me) parents can't afford to do it!!! Okay for one she doesn't know my parents financial status at all my mom was going to throw me a shower I simply asked her not to because well we have no family here all our fam is scattered from MS to TX and NM so my mom agreed.. I honestly wouldn't want my MIL to throw it if she's is going to have a bad attitude about it or feels like she HAS to, we weren't expecting one anyways... Am I over reacting about everything? And should just quit being a bitchy pregnant lady?

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
23rd May '13

Tell them all you don't want a baby shower and be done. And I had no idea being a Godmother had anything to do with a baby shower...odd...

Young Native Mama 2 kids; 2 angel babies; San Jacinto, California 129 posts
23rd May '13
Quoting *Mayhem*:" Tell them all you don't want a baby shower and be done. And I had no idea being a Godmother had anything to do with a baby shower...odd..."


Yeah we told her in the beginning we weren't wanting one my SIL knew it too, but all of a sudden after my SIL was gonna do it then the MIL said she was gonna do it, and honestly I didn't know either lol about the godmother thing...

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17563 posts
23rd May '13
Quoting *Mayhem*:" Tell them all you don't want a baby shower and be done. And I had no idea being a Godmother had anything to do with a baby shower...odd..."


This...and me either.

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
23rd May '13

If you don't want a baby shower, you don't HAVE to have one, all you have to do is say so. I only had one with my third, and it was very small, and family only. My MIL at the time threw it for me, but I certainly didn't expect it. I don't expect or particularly want one with this baby either. I don't like being the center of attention like that.

Young Native Mama 2 kids; 2 angel babies; San Jacinto, California 129 posts
23rd May '13
Quoting PurpleBama582:" If you don't want a baby shower, you don't HAVE to have one, all you have to do is say so. I only had ... [snip!] ... it. I don't expect or particularly want one with this baby either. I don't like being the center of attention like that. "


yeah me either! But how do I stop her she's already planning it I guess? We let her know we didn't want one, but still going to do it.. I figure now that if she is then I should just suck it up and go and say thank you.. I just didn't want her to throw it and tell everyone she HAD to..

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
23rd May '13
Quoting Young Native Mama:" yeah me either! But how do I stop her she's already planning it I guess? We let her know we didn't want ... [snip!] ... is then I should just suck it up and go and say thank you.. I just didn't want her to throw it and tell everyone she HAD to.."


If she tries, stand up for yourself and say "No, you didn't HAVE to. You CHOSE to do this." Especially if she tries to do it at the shower. My sister tries to do that very recently(not about a baby shower, but a different issue). She said I was making her look bad and that I wasn't going to bet in anyone's good graces. I simply asked her "Whose good graces am *I* trying to get into?" It's hard to stand up for yourself, but sometimes it's really necessary. Good luck!

Young Native Mama 2 kids; 2 angel babies; San Jacinto, California 129 posts
23rd May '13
Quoting PurpleBama582:" If she tries, stand up for yourself and say "No, you didn't HAVE to. You CHOSE to do this." Especially ... [snip!] ... good graces am *I* trying to get into?" It's hard to stand up for yourself, but sometimes it's really necessary. Good luck!"


ur right im almost certain she will do it there at the shower!! Thank you