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♥♥KristaAnne♥♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ, .., United States 21422 posts
24th May '13
Quoting MommyToWesley:" That's like saying that no one should have sex unless they want a child, which is just ridiculous. ... [snip!] ... OP's BD. Saying that she only wants to get child support from him but for him to never have his child is wrong and selfish."


I agree that if she receives child support then he should be allowed visitation or joint custody but it is ultimately his choice to be involved

Mother of One plus One 2 kids; Ware Shoals, South Carolina 4418 posts
24th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyToWesley:</b>" That's like saying that no one should have sex unless they want a child, which is just ridiculous. ... [snip!] ... OP's BD. Saying that she only wants to get child support from him but for him to never have his child is wrong and selfish."</blockquote>




:roll: he sounds like a loser so,no. I wouldn't want my kids with him either. She would have a different opinion on that if he had actually ever layed eyes on his son. That boy doesn't know that man at all and I think it is stupid that fathers like that go for custody/visitation and the judge GIVES it to them after they have NEVER even seen their kids in person.

Colton'sMamma 1 child; North Carolina 163 posts
24th May '13
Quoting Mother of One plus One:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommyToWesley:</b>" That's like saying that no one should have ... [snip!] ... like that go for custody/visitation and the judge GIVES it to them after they have NEVER even seen their kids in person."

THIS!!!! He's never attempted to see my son, when he moved from NC to TN, he was literally 5 miles from my house and he didn't bother to call, or try to see him because he didn't want me knowing he was moving to TN. My son doesn't know him, he calls my boyfriend Dada because he's the only man that's ever been in his life. If my ex showed interest and maturity I wouldn't be so against him seeing DS, but he hasn't.

K.J♥ Due November 4; 2 kids; Russellville, Kentucky 430 posts
24th May '13
Quoting MommyToWesley:" First of all, you never said that he wanted the child in the first place. Even if he did, it was for ... [snip!] ... So yes, it is selfish of you. You only want his money. If you do go for child support, I expect him to at least get visitation."



If he doesn't want to be a father, he shouldn't have to be? You can't be serious. He made that baby, he should have to take care of it.

B&Js Mommy 2 kids; Plains, Montana 877 posts
25th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Colton'sMamma:</b>" THIS!!!! He's never attempted to see my son, when he moved from NC to TN, he was literally 5 miles from ... [snip!] ... man that's ever been in his life. If my ex showed interest and maturity I wouldn't be so against him seeing DS, but he hasn't."</blockquote>




I know exactly how you feel. my 3yr olds sperm donor hasnt seen him since he was a month old. But yet he posts all over fb how much he loves and misses his son and he has never once contacted me about him. He will however sit and tell anyone who will listen what a POS i am and that I have kept his son from him. I have never told him he couldnt see him, hell I have even gone out of my way to try to get him to see his son everytime we have gone home to visit but because I wont do it on his terms he wont agree to seeing him. He wants me to drop my son off at his mothers house for 3-4 DAYS with people my son has never met. Ive been home to visit once a year since my son was a year old. I havent gone after him for childsupport because I cant take the chance of him trying to get custody. My SO and I have been together since my son was 18mos old and thats the only dad hes ever known.