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Dont know what to do with my husband... RissaBbyGurl_456 Due July 7; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Arizona 887 posts
25th May '13

We've been together for four years, only married for two months. And ive gotten to the point where I don't want to even be around him. He refuses to take care of himself, he never brushes his teeth, doesn't shave his face, and never wears deoderant (which isn't always bad, he usually never smells, but now its warming up outside and he definately does). I don't even want to kiss him because his face hurts mine (from not shaving) and his breath stinks!

On top of that, all he wants to talk about is video games and stuff I could really care less about. And i mean, thats ALL he talks about, videogames that are coming out soon, or videogames I played when I was like 8 years old and hes sitting there on the couch playing. Don't get me wrong, I love video games every now and then,it just frustrates me when thats all he wants to talk about. We live in his parents house (kinda, we live in the basement that has its own everything, bathroom, kitchen, so its kinda like an apartment and I hardly see his parents), and he has no intention of moving out anytime soon. I'll start looking for apartments and hes like nope!

On top of that, he works 24 hours a week (I work 35-40), and his job is highly unreliable with both paying him and giving him hours to the point where I told him he should get another job, but he refuses to even look.

Then, our sex life. Nonexistant. He will NOT have sex with me no matter what I do, I can go dressed in sexy outfits or completely naked and get no reaction from him. He's always "tired".

I don't know what to do with him anymore. Most of this stuff has been going on for a long time, and I keep trying to talk with him, motivate him, ect but I'm just unsatisfied and very unhappy with our relationhip. I know for a fact he loves both me and our son, but thats about it. I don't really want to leave him, but all of this is just... really frustrating

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
25th May '13

You can't change someone who doesn't want to change. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. It takes a lot more than love to make a relationship (and in this case, a marriage work) He's a man, a father, a husband...he needs to wake the eff up and realize that he is not a little kid with no responsibilities. You need to put your foot down and take action, for yourself and for your child.



Time to take some drastic measures...or be dragged down by him and hate your life, him, your marriage.



Counseling, a long talk, an ultimatum...the choice is yours...just make sure you stick to your guns.

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
25th May '13

Why did you marry him, then? I mean...that may not be the most appropriate question to ask, but it's certainly the most obvious.

SherryandMatt Due February 15 (boy); 1 child; 6 angel babies; Arizona 4120 posts
25th May '13

Is he possibly on drugs? Even just Pot? Depressed? How old is he? I'm sorry that has to suck. I've never dated anyone into video games, never understood the obsession. Maybe get some chewing gum stuck in his beard so he has to shave!! LOL As for the teeth thing, that's just gross....

Faye's Mama 1 child; Springfield, MO, United States 4569 posts
25th May '13

I'd spray my hubs with Febreeze and get some mouth spray. Maybe then he'd get the hint?



Oh and hide the video games. :lol:

user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
25th May '13
Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" You can't change someone who doesn't want to change. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help ... [snip!] ... him, your marriage. Counseling, a long talk, an ultimatum...the choice is yours...just make sure you stick to your guns. "


Listen to this woman, she knows what shes talking about.



Clopton™ 2 kids; Tulsa, OK, United States 3237 posts
25th May '13
Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" You can't change someone who doesn't want to change. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help ... [snip!] ... him, your marriage. Counseling, a long talk, an ultimatum...the choice is yours...just make sure you stick to your guns. "


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☃ ❄ ☃ ~, FL, United States 68368 posts
status 25th May '13

Then why did you marry him?

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
25th May '13

so you married him why???



If you want to save your marriage, throw the damn video console in the garbage.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14304 posts
25th May '13
Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:" Why did you marry him, then? I mean...that may not be the most appropriate question to ask, but it's certainly the most obvious."


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I don't think your husband has been like this only for 2 months. Either you missed the signs or you went in thinking you can change him.

J+B=Z&L ♡ 2 kids; Pensacola, Florida 5890 posts
25th May '13

Why'd you marry him then? There's no way he's only been like this for the past two months...

I'm me 4 kids; Kentucky 3109 posts
25th May '13

Have you let him know that his hygiene isn't the best? You could buy him some deodorant/antiperspirant and a new tooth brush and sit them on the sink where he can see it.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
25th May '13

Ehhhh... I'd be throwing that gaming shit out the window and spraying his b***h ass down with the hose.



Sounds like you gotta make some important decisions here real soon.

Walking in Memphis 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Macon, Georgia 5976 posts
25th May '13

Like the other mamas asked... Why did you marry him? I'm sure it wasn't in the last two months that he has drastically changed. If he was like this when you married him then you should know that the only time you can change a man is when he is in diapers... After that, forget about it!

RissaBbyGurl_456 Due July 7; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Arizona 887 posts
25th May '13
Quoting I'm me:" Have you let him know that his hygiene isn't the best? You could buy him some deodorant/antiperspirant and a new tooth brush and sit them on the sink where he can see it. "


ohhh yes i have, I bought him an electric toothbrush, bought him deoderant that we both mutually liked the smell of, he just doesn't use either