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Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
27th May '13

After being abused for a year and a half I finally broke free but ended up falling into a huge depression. I think OP is exaggerating. There's plenty of people who don't brush their teeth, don't shave and don't wear deodorant. My husband used to be one of them. Maybe I'm missing details but that doesn't seem like someone who doesn't take care of themselves. It's not like he's not taking showers and wearing the same underwear and clothes all day. Unless I'm missing something he doesn't sound depressed to me, I'm guessing he wakes up and plays video games all day. plays video games before going to sleep, plays video games all day and night when he'a off, comes home from work to play video games? (Correct me if I'm wrong OP) He sound just like my husband when we first got together and had LO.The main problem seems to be the video games.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14126 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Now and Forever:" After being abused for a year and a half I finally broke free but ended up falling into a huge depression. ... [snip!] ... I'm wrong OP) He sound just like my husband when we first got together and had LO.The main problem seems to be the video games."


There is a problem when her husband neglects reality to escape into a fantasy land on a constant basis. That is a huge sign of depression.



And you don't consider someone who doesn't brush their teeth not taking care of themselves? Um, ew. Higher your standards.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
27th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" There is a problem when her husband neglects reality to escape into a fantasy land on a constant basis. ... [snip!] ... And you don't consider someone who doesn't brush their teeth not taking care of themselves? Um, ew. Higher your standards. "</blockquote>




How does he neglets reality? Because he spends most of his time talking about and playing video games? We can agree to disagree. If she wants to look into depression. That's great. I just don't think this is the case.



No. I don't think someone who doesn't brush their teeth is automatically put into the "Eew! You don't take care of yourself" naughty list. Most people only brush their teeth once a day when they're supposed to brush them three times a day. I guess they are not taking care of themselves either. :roll:

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14126 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Now and Forever:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" There is a problem when her husband neglects ... [snip!] ... once a day when they're supposed to brush them three times a day. I guess they are not taking care of themselves either. :roll;"


I'm going by the OP and that's what it sounds like. She can choose to look into it, or not. But you can't rule it out automatically.



It is recommended to brush your teeth AT LEAST twice a day to keep your teeth and gums healthy. So if you're doing any less than that on a regular basis, you are not taking care of yourself as well as you should.

RissaBbyGurl_456 Due July 3; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Arizona 865 posts
28th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LeiLana80:</b>" I think he just sounds like a child. I can relate to your situation. I dated my husband for 5 years before ... [snip!] ... issues, like depression, but even then, nothing is going to change unless he wants it to. Good luck, and stay strong, girl."</blockquote>




Yeah sounds like my husband. I think Ill try and talk to him about seeing a counselor or something. I think it might highly be depression.

☠BryBry'sMuM☠ Due March 19 (girl); 1 child; Fullerton, California 15229 posts
28th May '13

he might feel less like a man because he isnt the sole bread winner. i had a BF after he quit his job all he would do is play WWC well i dumped him & kicked him out. if you search World of what on you tube you will see us hahah
but on the flip note SO was super depressed after losing his job he told me he feels less like a man. ya talk to him &counceling is a good idea maybe going on dates (if you dont go often already) good luck hun!!!!

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3472 posts
28th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☠BryBry's MuM☠:</b>" he might feel less like a man because he isnt the sole bread winner. i had a BF after he quit his job ... [snip!] ... like a man. ya talk to him &counceling is a good idea maybe going on dates (if you dont go often already) good luck hun!!!!"</blockquote>




Are you the one from judge judy?

☠BryBry'sMuM☠ Due March 19 (girl); 1 child; Fullerton, California 15229 posts
28th May '13
Quoting eKnuckles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☠BryBry's MuM☠:</b>" he might feel less like a man ... [snip!] ... maybe going on dates (if you dont go often already) good luck hun!!!!"</blockquote> Are you the one from judge judy?"


hahah yes