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So Irritated user banned
26th May '13

My BF and i were due to get wed in November before the birth of our 3rd child but he is still married and his wife is doing everything in her power not to grant him a divorce. It is so erking. It caused us to break up a few weeks ago. Luckily i came to my senses and realized what a good father, friend and mate he was and decided not to let our relationship go that easily. Idk what the point of this post was. Im just so irritated and needed to vent. How i wish shed grow up and just sign ughhhhh

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
26th May '13

Well that sucks ......

user banned 1 child; :), :), United States 5380 posts
26th May '13

On your third baby together and he isn't divorced yet? That sucks, I'm sorry. What could she be gaining by not signing the divorce papers?

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
26th May '13
Quoting Abby Normal:" On your third baby together and he isn't divorced yet? That sucks, I'm sorry. What could she be gaining by not signing the divorce papers?"


Well technically our second. He wants to adopt my middle child but its harder when not wed and we really dont know. He contacts her and she responds until he asks her about signing. We really do not know what to do.

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
26th May '13

You know judges will still grant divorces even if they're contested...they CAN take longer, but it does happen. How long ago did he file?

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
26th May '13

How is that even possible? Unless you were seeing each other before he filed for a divorce. A year is the longest a forced divorce takes

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
26th May '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" How is that even possible? Unless you were seeing each other before he filed for a divorce. A year is the longest a forced divorce takes"


Theyve been legally separated since 09. We got together in 11. It hasnt gone in front of a judge yet. He tried to have her served and the papers were sent back bc the person at the house claimed they didnt know who she was

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
26th May '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" How is that even possible? Unless you were seeing each other before he filed for a divorce. A year is the longest a forced divorce takes"


Depends on the state, really. I know some counties in TX are not pushing through non-contested divorces unless one party or the other has a lawyer. Some have been dragging on for nearly two years.

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4659 posts
28th May '13

That really sucks. I know kind of how you feel except I was pregnant with my first when my DH was married the first time. They had been legally separated for over a year before the divorce was final. I honestly never thought we'd ever get married the way it was looking because she wouldn't sign the divorce papers. I don't even know how it happened really. I just remember after so much going back and forth, we got contacted that she'd went in and filed divorce finally and he had to go in and sign the papers at the clerk's office.

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
28th May '13
Quoting Trey&Genesis'momma:" That really sucks. I know kind of how you feel except I was pregnant with my first when my DH was married ... [snip!] ... we got contacted that she'd went in and filed divorce finally and he had to go in and sign the papers at the clerk's office."


i wish shed sign. The whole thing is childish

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4659 posts
28th May '13
Quoting You and me + 3:" i wish shed sign. The whole thing is childish"

Agreed. It is. Idk why someone wishes to stay in a loveless marriage and separated rather than just file the divorce and move on. I mean, God forbid but if DH ever wanted a divorce from me, I'd sign and be on my way. I wouldn't give a crap if he wanted to be with someone else or not. I mean yes, I might still love him because I have kids together but I wouldn't force my DH to be unhappy and stay married just so he couldn't marry someone else that he was with during the separation.

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
28th May '13
Quoting Trey&Genesis'momma:" Agreed. It is. Idk why someone wishes to stay in a loveless marriage and separated rather than just file ... [snip!] ... orce my DH to be unhappy and stay married just so he couldn't marry someone else that he was with during the separation. f"


Thats what we believe shes doing bc her and i had a falling out so he thinks shes doing it to get at me. They dont have kids together, although she has 8 kids 5 during the course of their marriage, bc she cheated on the entirety of their marriage. Now he wants to move on and shes not hearing it.

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4659 posts
28th May '13
Quoting You and me + 3:" Thats what we believe shes doing bc her and i had a falling out so he thinks shes doing it to get at ... [snip!] ... course of their marriage, bc she cheated on the entirety of their marriage. Now he wants to move on and shes not hearing it."

:shock: OMG! That is crazy. That's just stupid of her. If she was truly that unhappy that she had to cheat their entire marriage, she should have no problem signing and moving on. What a wench. SMH

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
28th May '13
Quoting Trey&Genesis'momma:" :shock: OMG! That is crazy. That's just stupid of her. If she was truly that unhappy that she had to cheat their entire marriage, she should have no problem signing and moving on. What a wench. SMH"


She was happy as long as she was spending his money from the army then she had the nerve to get on the phone with me and say he was her best friend. Yea right. He sent her papers when we were in NY. She claimed she signed them and sent them back but we never got anything and neither did the courthouse. Now that we are back in PA he had to start over and shes refusing to sign. She had the papers sent back when he had her served and he can contact her and talk about anything but the divorce bc if he says one word about it she wont respond. Smh im so tired of it

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4659 posts
28th May '13
Quoting You and me + 3:" She was happy as long as she was spending his money from the army then she had the nerve to get on the ... [snip!] ... can contact her and talk about anything but the divorce bc if he says one word about it she wont respond. Smh im so tired of it"

Craziness. I'm sorry.