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LittleBear's mama 3 kids; Ontario 480 posts
27th May '13

OP, I wish you good luck. Having been in a situation where my husband (now ex) had anger issues we went many years where his anger was out of control and it was only with me threatening to leave that he would agree to counselling. He would go for a while and as long as he was in counselling things were ok, but it never lasted and always reverted to the same anger. If your guy can change then you are one of the lucky one. Mine didn't and I eventually left (but had gotten sucked back in with false promises of change and multiple attempts). Have a new DH now and he is not like the last one. I wish you good luck but be cautious with false promises of change, some men can hide what they really are very well

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26898 posts
status 27th May '13
Quoting I Stab People:" im so sorry ;(. in MY experience, they just party and enjoy not having kids, but thats not all guys. ... [snip!] ... to come back. we have 3 kids together as well, and were together for just under 10 years, since junior year in highschool."


I imagine this will be like us. I've been on him to go to anger management for years and I'm just tired of it. He acts out aggressively with our oldest, borderline abusive sometimes. That's what finally crossed the line. He thinks he's "disciplining". Luckily our pediatrician said no physical discipline at all so I have that and she said she could assign us a social worker if I thought it was necessary.

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26898 posts
status 27th May '13
Quoting LittleBear's mama:" OP, I wish you good luck. Having been in a situation where my husband (now ex) had anger issues we went ... [snip!] ... last one. I wish you good luck but be cautious with false promises of change, some men can hide what they really are very well"


Do you have anxiety about letting him have unsupervised visitation? I don't even think mine will want unsupervised visitation at all but the thought of it makes me have a panic attack.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:" Do you have anxiety about letting him have unsupervised visitation? I don't even think mine will want unsupervised visitation at all but the thought of it makes me have a panic attack."


mine doesnt "Want" unsupervised visits (i know you wernt talking to me) but he does have DS while im at work alone for a few hours, and yes it makes me nervous, i text him ALLDAY to make sure he is awake at least, tho im sure he ignores LO :/ right now i have no other choice.

LittleBear's mama 3 kids; Ontario 480 posts
4th Jun '13
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:" Do you have anxiety about letting him have unsupervised visitation? I don't even think mine will want unsupervised visitation at all but the thought of it makes me have a panic attack."

My ex is not a good parent at all, he is good with the fun stuff but sucks at responsibility. I have major anxieties about it. I have had my kids almost full time for about 2 years, he would only get them on the weekend due to him being in school out of town. It is reverting back to complete shared at the end of the month and I am terrified it will go back to what it was before. They always came back to me sick, and I would hear things from the kids about his outbursts. He has a new gf, so when she is around things are ok it seems...no anger, but I know how he is and that can only last for so long with him before she sees him for what he is. I think he should have supervised visitation, and believe me if I had the money we would be going to court.