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WWYD? Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
27th May '13

Just want opinions on this. I'm upset. Angry. Ready to kill my soon to be ex husband. I left feb 16th. He was an a*****e. Cheated on me with people from Craigslist. Etc.. We have 2 kids, 4yrs and 2yrs. The oldest attends a preschool class 4 days a week at a "career center" for high schoolers. Within moments of my leaving my ex started trying to pick up many girls, many minors and those who just turned 18. Girls who likely don't know any better and were honestly way too pretty for that ugly fat f**k.



He lied about me, said I was the one who was abusive, drug addict (I had just gotten hired at a hospital COME ON!), and was a cheater (never happened, I had such low self esteem because of him. Can't date now). It's ridiculous. He's almost 25.



He had this 17 year old girl stay the night with him with my kids being there. He's had A LOT of people stay the night with and without my children there. He pushed having sex on her and thankfully she had a brain and said no. I found emails from him to her friend and current boyfriend proving what they were doing. He told these girls things he should never have said. I feel it's alienating me as parent from my child's teachers and aides. That shit is private and no MINORS, whom you met in your child's preschool, need to be in contact with a parent like that at all! The girls current boyfriend called him a "a 24 yr old creeper who can't even get a 17yr old to date him". That made me laugh, actually..
Is there any hope of getting his balls in a jar for this?



I have police reports against him going back a year and a half. Proof he was having people harass and stalk me. I am being granted a restraining order because of that. His actions and antics cost me my job. He hand wrote me letters 3 days before I left saying I either stay with him, or I leave and he will rip my children from me. When I was walking out the door he started the drug abuse allegations and tried to hit me. I'm sorry, but I hardly even drink. I smoke and hardly do that. I can make a pack last a week and go weeks cold turkey without missing it.. I get angry, but I'm more likely to hurt myself than hit someone. I'm not that stupid. He told one of these students that I attacked him, blackened his eye and punched him in the chest and stomach. Said he didn't fight back because he thinks men who hit women are cowards. It only happened in my dreams ;) I would have taken a bat to his head for what he did to me and my kids.



He made the same exact pot allegations against his roommate in college just to get out of school.
In 2010 accused me of beating him (texts to his ex) and I was stupid enough to forgive him for lying. He said that to get into her panties while I was in class.
He and his mother (tax preparer) also forged my signatures on tax papers. They owe me a lot of money from that, legally. Turns out he bought this honda civic for $6000. Saved those emails.
You can look at some of my recent posts and read more on the situation. He was in contempt of court a few times with the shared parenting plan that is currently in place. I don't think it will be an issue for me to get full custody at this point.. fuckers.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
27th May '13

Honestly, just judge isn't going to want to hear about this long line of drama. He's going to be annoyed with either of you who start involving anything but your kids in the custody hearing.



People make custody hearings out to be big nasty ordeals, when in reality, you both state what you want, answer the judges questions, and he makes a decision.



I would stop giving a shit about what he's doing and not have contact with him unless you're swapping kids. You're exes, your lives now have nothing to do with one another aside from how you interact when you swap kids.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
27th May '13

Holy shitballs, girl! :shock:

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Honestly, just judge isn't going to want to hear about this long line of drama. He's going to be annoyed ... [snip!] ... swapping kids. You're exes, your lives now have nothing to do with one another aside from how you interact when you swap kids."


When he's bringing little girls into my home almost every day and around my children, I want to know and it does matter to me. He is using my kids as a means to get laid. sick.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" Holy shitballs, girl! :shock:"


I know.. Can I make a request Mrs. God of Thunder?

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
27th May '13

I read use post last night and tbh? It's too much drama. I get it hurt angry etc but jeezus u sound just as immature changing his email passwords. I think uv lost sight of what's important while trying to nail him to the wall- the kids. Agree w AP- the judge is gonna be super annoyed at the crap uv both been pulling just to hurt one another. Maybe take the high road? As far as the minor girls go... 17+ is usually legal so even though the age is shocking prolly legal. He's ur ex be glad for that n move on. He's not worth all the energy ur obviously spending by trying to tear him apart for every lie or wrongdoing. I feel bad for the lawyer n judge who have to sift through all the bs drama to handle the real issues- forgery by tax preparer, kids custody, etc.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
27th May '13

Hmmm I don't think you should bring all that stuff into court. Honestly, just because he is a sleaze to younger girls doesn't make him an unfit parent. You will just put yourself in a bad light.



Time to move on and let go of all that. Be an adult and just ask him nicely that when your children are with him he keep his dick in his pants unless he is serious about the girl. Hopefully he will respect that request

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
27th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" When he's bringing little girls into my home almost every day and around my children, I want to know and it does matter to me. He is using my kids as a means to get laid. sick."</blockquote>




You can't control who he brings into the house, so frankly there's no point in keeping up with it. And if he's bringing anyone into the house, at least it's someone you know is good with kids.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
27th May '13

Age of consent in Ohio is 16. He's not breaking the law.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
27th May '13
Quoting DifferentDay:" I read use post last night and tbh? It's too much drama. I get it hurt angry etc but jeezus u sound just ... [snip!] ... lawyer n judge who have to sift through all the bs drama to handle the real issues- forgery by tax preparer, kids custody, etc."


I didn't get worked up until recently. I've lost all patience. I'm sick of the games they were playing. It goes beyond what I've posted on here. My lawyer actually told me to get as much as possible. It was stupid of him to use such an old and known password. The drama-matters in the case of harassment. The partying in front of my kids so soon and with students who are participants in my childs classroom violated school policy. Its like a tech school for high school students.
Please keep in mind I have no parents. hardly any living family I ever see. He prevented me from being able to put a deposit down on a house (tax money; I was a SAHM for 2 years and hadn't work long enough to save enough yet). I can't even pick up a few groceries without being followed. I now waste gas and go way out of town or I just don't eat much. I never go out. Can't even go fishing right now

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
27th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" I didn't get worked up until recently. I've lost all patience. I'm sick of the games they were playing. ... [snip!] ... followed. I now waste gas and go way out of town or I just don't eat much. I never go out. Can't even go fishing right now"</blockquote>




You do know someone was recently sent to jail for hacking his wife's fb account....



So I don't think hacking his email is what your lawyer had in mind.



If he's following you, call the police. Every time. But saying he's keeping you from doing things like eating, doesn't seem legit since you don't seem scared enough to do anything about it. If he was following you as you say he is, you'd easily get a restraining order if you reported it

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" I didn't get worked up until recently. I've lost ... [snip!] ... to do anything about it. If he was following you as you say he is, you'd easily get a restraining order if you reported it"


I never said hes keepin gme from eating. I implied I'm so stressed from it all I can't. I was told by police just yesterday that there is nothing he can do about it because it wasn't hacked. I knew the password thanks to him. It took getting his emails to obtain a restraining order. Having surveillance, half a dozen police reports, public facebook posts putting people up to a "manhunt", having domestic violence charge pending, etc wasn't enough until now



I must add that they just made many attempts to hack mine.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
27th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" I didn't get worked up until recently. I've lost ... [snip!] ... to do anything about it. If he was following you as you say he is, you'd easily get a restraining order if you reported it"</blockquote>




Actually? Someone was sent to jail for that?

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
27th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" I never said hes keepin gme from eating. I implied I'm so stressed from it all I can't. I was told by ... [snip!] ... domestic violence charge pending, etc wasn't enough until now I must add that they just made many attempts to hack mine."</blockquote>




So now you want to either complain about him doing the same thing you did to him?



Or justify acting childish by saying he does it too?

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
27th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" ... [snip!] ... you'd easily get a restraining order if you reported it"</blockquote> Actually? Someone was sent to jail for that?"</blockquote>




Yup