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Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" ... [snip!] ... you'd easily get a restraining order if you reported it"</blockquote> Actually? Someone was sent to jail for that?"


Hacking means you use something like phishing or ghost software on their device to gain access. I was given his passwords and just remembered it. Police told me its okay. They knew everything and just helped me file the paperwork

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
27th May '13

I have a friend going through something similar.



From that, I can tell you
-getting into his email by using the password is NOT hacking and you won't get in shit for it, he will be told he should have changed it
-the judge won't listen to the drama - unless they are literally screwing infront of the kids, the judge wont care that he's bringing the girls there (this guy showered with his 4yr old daughter AND his new girlfriend while his 4 yr old son and 8 yr daughter were in the bathroom and could see, it wasn't an issue in the courts eyes - not acceptable, but not something that affected custody)
-YOU need to let it go. Regardless what he's done, or how angry you are, you need to realize that you can't watch him with your kids 24/7 when he has them, and as crappy as a father he may be, he gets the right to be one. Just make sure your time with them is spent loving them, not trying to repair the damage that you think dad may have done.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15210 posts
27th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" Hacking means you use something like phishing or ghost software on their device to gain access. I was ... [snip!] ... given his passwords and just remembered it. Police told me its okay. They knew everything and just helped me file the paperwork"</blockquote>




No. Logging into someone else's password secured accounts without their permission would also be classified as hacking, and can result in jail time.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" I never said hes keepin gme from eating. I implied ... [snip!] ... want to either complain about him doing the same thing you did to him? Or justify acting childish by saying he does it too?"


Why do you always do this? This silly nit picking. You know exactly what I meant. If i want to b***h, I have every f**king right to do so after this hell hole of a mess HE made. This is the closest I've come to being a real b***h. When they tried to hack mine they tried the phishing pages and did a poor job of it AFTER typing in different combos that failed. They did it so much Facebook sent a few notices. I use random digits and letters for passwords. They'd never come close. It was laughable.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15210 posts
27th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" Why do you always do this? This silly nit picking. You know exactly what I meant. If i want to b***h, ... [snip!] ... so much Facebook sent a few notices. I use random digits and letters for passwords. They'd never come close. It was laughable."</blockquote>




Well you should be proud that you did a much better job at being a hacker than they did, even though you seem extremely upset that they tried.



You're acting like children. You both need to grow up.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Gir!:" I know.. Can I make a request Mrs. God of Thunder?"


Umm.. Hmm.. sure/

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Mommy of a giggler!:" I have a friend going through something similar. From that, I can tell you -getting into his email ... [snip!] ... one. Just make sure your time with them is spent loving them, not trying to repair the damage that you think dad may have done."


His parenting goes beyond the parties. He hardly has them during the day, they get passed around mon-fri unless they are with me. Every time I get them back, the first day is spent settling them down. I have reports of him sending the oldest to school smelling like pee and both have gone to the sitters filthy; shes had to call me to tell me to bring another set of clothes on several occasions. The courts here are annoyed with him and had returned HIS divorce filings back to me and my attorney to get the correct information. He put down that ZERO children resulted out of the relationship and no other adults lived with him (his sister has for almost 2 years). That was a bucket of fun. It's dragging out longer than need be and I'm venting

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" Umm.. Hmm.. sure/"


Tell Mr. Thunder to smite him

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" Why do you always do this? This silly nit picking. ... [snip!] ... than they did, even though you seem extremely upset that they tried. You're acting like children. You both need to grow up."


I laughed at them trying to. I didn't say I was mad about that part. I literally laughed at it when I got the notices.

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Gir!:" His parenting goes beyond the parties. He hardly has them during the day, they get passed around mon-fri ... [snip!] ... with him (his sister has for almost 2 years). That was a bucket of fun. It's dragging out longer than need be and I'm venting"


Make sure you get "right of first refusal" in the parenting agreement - that way if he isn't with the kids, you get the first right to look after them, instead of a sitter or someone else.



I get it, my friends ex has sent her emails stating "Unless I get my way, you will always be Mrs.So-and-so". She has evidence that he brought the kids around a convicted child molester regularly - all they did was tell him he's not allowed to anymore.



It comes down to the court can't fix stupid. Sadly, stupid people still get the right to parent, even if the other parent is smart. Be glad you're finding out what an idiot he is now before you ended up wasting more of your time.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Gir!:" Tell Mr. Thunder to smite him"



Shoooooooooooooooot.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" Shoooooooooooooooot. "


Hahahaha

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
27th May '13
Quoting Mommy of a giggler!:" Make sure you get "right of first refusal" in the parenting agreement - that way if he isn't with the ... [snip!] ... if the other parent is smart. Be glad you're finding out what an idiot he is now before you ended up wasting more of your time."

I have texts showing that he was dumping them on a sitter While I worked every time. Or his family who live next door. He was literally and obvious trying to force me away from my kids in these texts. It's 50/50 right now and its going to be altered soon. He was held in contempt for denying my right to my kids for 3 weeks and I was able to show I was being EXTREMELY patient. Then he violated it again by not disclosing medical treatments. My youngest got a concussion under his care 2 days after I left. Its in the ER statement that "FATHER was not watching child at time of accident". He fell from the top of a dresser. I was working and they did not give me any notice of the accident until almost an hour later and I worked on the floor right below the ER. When they did tell me, it was via text. I got up there and my baby wanted nobody but momma. He screamed bloody murder anytime my ex tried to touch him. The nurses made note of it.. THANK GOD. Sometimes people need to be allowed to have moments...plenty b***h and do way worse than me

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
28th May '13
Quoting Gir!:" I have texts showing that he was dumping them on a sitter While I worked every time. Or his family who ... [snip!] ... nurses made note of it.. THANK GOD. Sometimes people need to be allowed to have moments...plenty b***h and do way worse than me"


It might just be how I'm reading your responses, but know that I am NOT judging you for bitching/venting about it. I was just letting you know what the courts are doing in my friends case - as sad as it is, even though it would seem like common sense to not let someone like that have the kids, the courts still allow it.



For all the crap my friends ex did, I can't see why they would even allow the kids around him BUT the courts decided that stuff was against her and not the kids, so even though it was disgusting and, in my opinion, but the kids in a bad position, the courts thought otherwise.



There are so many things that need to be in place for them to do anything about it. Police enforcement clause so that if he keeps the kids past his visitation the cops can come get them, order of primary custody (not that it makes a big difference with that), right of first refusal so that you can get the kids not a sitter - without all that in the court docs he's within his rights to dump them off at a sitter the second he gets them and not pick them up until he gives them back if he wanted. It sucks, but that's the way the law works :( Just make sure you have a good lawyer and get EVERYTHING in writing. Try to only contact him by email so you have every response in writing.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15210 posts
28th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gir!:</b>" His parenting goes beyond the parties. He hardly has them during the day, they get passed around mon-fri ... [snip!] ... with him (his sister has for almost 2 years). That was a bucket of fun. It's dragging out longer than need be and I'm venting"</blockquote>




Am I reading this right that you only have your kids on the weekends?