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So confused Kelsey1987 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Utah 735 posts
28th May '13

My husband told me hes not happy with me anymore because im boring. And ive tried thinking of stuff to do but he just says he doesnt know what he wants anymore. So i try to give him space but if i dont talk to him for a few hrs or i go out he will start texting me and saying he misses me and loves me so much. I am really sick of these games.

Mrs.Gray♥ 48 kids; Corinth, Mississippi 1669 posts
28th May '13

I went through this shit with my husband a couple of months ago. One day he didn't want to be with me and already had a new prospective relationship, and the next day he wants to work on ours. So IDK where we are headed.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3231 posts
28th May '13

This is a form of emotional abuse. Tear you down, then suck you back in just enough so you won't leave. Don't put up with it. I would suggest seeking help through counseling. Maybe one of your jobs offer an EAP type service that could help?

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
28th May '13
Quoting Kelsey Gilmer:" My husband told me hes not happy with me anymore because im boring. And ive tried thinking of stuff to ... [snip!] ... a few hrs or i go out he will start texting me and saying he misses me and loves me so much. I am really sick of these games."


Sounds like you need to make a decision. Are you willing to put up with this or put your foot down and move on?

Kelsey1987 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Utah 735 posts
28th May '13

He says im a perfect wife and mother but im not his friend. He claims hes so unhappy but yet if i ignore him he doesnt understand why. If u tell me u r unhappy dont act like were cool by saying u love me miss me and keep kissing me like wtf im 26 i am not in high school weve been married 3 yrs.

Kelsey1987 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Utah 735 posts
28th May '13

I told him earlier he needs to decide does he want me 100% or not. No half ass u love me i deserve better. I work go to school full time to take care of us. I dont understand what he would be so unhappy about. This is not the first time this has happened either. About a yr ago he did this shit and a few days later started acting normal again. Btw hes 23 im 26.

Kelsey1987 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Utah 735 posts
28th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.Mud:</b>" This is a form of emotional abuse. Tear you down, then suck you back in just enough so you won't leave. ... [snip!] ... up with it. I would suggest seeking help through counseling. Maybe one of your jobs offer an EAP type service that could help?"</blockquote>




What do u think could be causing this?

Kelsey1987 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Utah 735 posts
28th May '13

Just talked to him he said it could be because hes scared that im pregnant again. We lost our daughter in september. He also got out of the military in january and hes really sad about it.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3231 posts
28th May '13
Quoting Kelsey Gilmer:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.Mud:</b>" This is a form of emotional abuse. Tear you down, ... [snip!] ... one of your jobs offer an EAP type service that could help?"</blockquote> What do u think could be causing this?"


That is something only he knows... and maybe he doesn't even realize he's doing it. Could be a lot of things... is he unhappy at his job and projecting it onto you at home? Maybe he feels he got married too young and is having regrets? Does he go out with his single friends a lot? Do you guys hang out with any other young, married couples? Does he have any history of depression? Could be low testosterone levels. Instead of just demanding an answer/ultimatum, try sitting down and having a heart-to-heart. Let him know that what he's doing is really hurting you and ask him how you can help him fix it (this puts the ball in his court and doesn't come off so accusingly... men appreciate this). Have a good ol' fashioned game night once a week and reconnect. Hold hands in the car. Touch his butt when you walk by him in the hall. See how he responds to/reciprocates these actions. The little things can hold you together.