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yeppp babymama0324 USA 579 posts
28th May '13

after the post i just saw between the mother of the children and the wife I have realized I need a better relationship with my boyfriends "baby mama" lol. I have always found it hard to get a long with her because in the beggining of our relationship she was very caniving and tried to get with him and for him to leave me. But she really is a good mom and takes very good care of the son. One thing that does bother me tho, she is never home with him at night. Her grandparents watch him while she goes out and parties, yet she never lets my bf have him over night.

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49100 posts
28th May '13

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Iron Man 6 kids; 1 angel baby; 1700 posts
28th May '13
Quoting Click Me Click Me!!!:" ooooooooookkkkkkkkkkkkkkaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyy"

Yep. This was my thought.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17093 posts
status 28th May '13
Quoting babymama0324:" after the post i just saw between the mother of the children and the wife I have realized I need a better ... [snip!] ... with him at night. Her grandparents watch him while she goes out and parties, yet she never lets my bf have him over night."


Mind your own children.



The custody agreement needs to stay between the two of them.

babymama0324 USA 579 posts
28th May '13

can't someone just rant lol

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17093 posts
status 28th May '13
Quoting babymama0324:" can't someone just rant lol"


Get a diary.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15558 posts
28th May '13

If you even admit she's an excellent Mother it shouldn't matter whether she goes out and parties at night. He's in bed sleeping with a responsible Adult watching him, let her relieve her stress.



It's definitely a good idea to try and have a good relationship with her, though. If you and your BF plan on the long haul, she's going to always be in the picture because they share a Child. May as well try to make it as pleasant as possible.

babymama0324 USA 579 posts
28th May '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" If you even admit she's an excellent Mother it shouldn't matter whether she goes out and parties at night. ... [snip!] ... haul, she's going to always be in the picture because they share a Child. May as well try to make it as pleasant as possible."


Yes i know, im just saying if it was my kid i would miss him! Im not the type that could go out and party and leave my kid at home almost every night! I would go crazy missing them! I can barely leave my puppy at home for too long haha

babymama0324 USA 579 posts
28th May '13

And i really hate how rude people on this website are. I wasn't being mean in this post so why do I always get criticized I was just stating someone. If you can't say anything nice don't say it at all



plus my bf tells me all about the custody agreement, he isn't happy with it. He wants his son with him some of the time, he NEVER goes out anymore- hes turned into such an old man lol He just thinks it would be fair for him to get him when she wants to go out instead of her parents. Its honestly everynight - i see pics of her and all her drunk friends on fb and no theres nothing wrong with that but when you have a kid you need to get your priorities straight!!

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17093 posts
status 28th May '13
Quoting babymama0324:" Yes i know, im just saying if it was my kid i would miss him! Im not the type that could go out and ... [snip!] ... leave my kid at home almost every night! I would go crazy missing them! I can barely leave my puppy at home for too long haha"


Do you even have a child? If you do, were you ever a single mother?



Then you have no right to judge this woman on wanting some free time. She is leaving her child with someone responsible and who she trusts so she can relief some stress. You talk a lot about criticizing, but you are doing to exact shit to her.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17093 posts
status 28th May '13
Quoting babymama0324:" And i really hate how rude people on this website are. I wasn't being mean in this post so why do I always ... [snip!] ... drunk friends on fb and no theres nothing wrong with that but when you have a kid you need to get your priorities straight!!"


Your life doesnt stop once you pop a baby out.



Get off your soap box. She isnt doing anything wrong. Sounds like you are jealous.



If he has a problem with custody, he needs to go to court and work it out with her through there...not bitching about it to his girlfriend.

babymama0324 USA 579 posts
29th May '13
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Do you even have a child? If you do, were you ever a single mother? Then you have no right to judge ... [snip!] ... and who she trusts so she can relief some stress. You talk a lot about criticizing, but you are doing to exact shit to her. "


I get that, im all for relieving stress thats fine, but do u go out and get so drunk that everyone draws p***s on your face and then u post it as ur facebook picture lol n then get in trouble with the law for passing out in your back seat and letting someone drunk drive your car!? lol im just saying tho you need to pace urself :)

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15558 posts
29th May '13
Quoting babymama0324:" I get that, im all for relieving stress thats fine, but do u go out and get so drunk that everyone draws ... [snip!] ... for passing out in your back seat and letting someone drunk drive your car!? lol im just saying tho you need to pace urself :)"

Maybe she does need to pace herself, maybe she does need to cut down, but you shouldn't be the one to bring it up or say anything about it. Of course it concerns you, but if you are the one to bring ti to light, you're going to look like the a*****e. You should really keep it to yourself, because anything you say or do will just cause problems. That doesn't mean you can't care about it, but just b***h in your head.




In some situations we just have to suck it up and try to be the bigger person. I think this is one of those times. It's about the baby. Not you, or the Mom, but about how you can all work together for the sake of the Child. Arguing and nitpicking each other won't accomplish much, so try to focus on the good things she does. She might do stupid ass things a lot, but she doesn't do them while the kid's with her and she makes sure someone responsible has him when she does. When she does have him, she's great with him.

babymama0324 USA 579 posts
29th May '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" Maybe she does need to pace herself, maybe she does need to cut down, but you shouldn't be the one to ... [snip!] ... the kid's with her and she makes sure someone responsible has him when she does. When she does have him, she's great with him."

Yes and i said that. Shes dating a guy now, maybe she will be more willing to let the boy stay the night. He is turning three in June, hes super smart he asks to stay the night all the time :( its sad he loves his dad. In the custody agreement before any new girlfriend of boyfriend can meet the child they have to meet the other parent/ I had to meet her and her whole family before i could be around him, im just wondering what would happen if she doesn't follow that.? Because as i saw on fb since we are friends that she had her new man over for a cookout with her family. i didnt say anything to my bf because i dont want to start a fight but im just curious as to what would happen?