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need some help here :) with moving AshWinsMomma 2 kids; Cincinnati, Ohio 161 posts
28th May '13

So....how do you get your ex to move out? We moved in together april 2012, so when our lease ended this past april I renewed it, with just my name on it. That way we weren't both obligated to live here.. Things with us have been crappy for a while, we break up and get back together. I know 100% we need to just be done for good, but that wont ever happen if he doesn't move out.
I've tried asking him too, I've tried the "mean" approach, I've mentioned legal action like an eviction, but nothing works....He sticks around then we end up back together... I want/need to break the cycle. We cannot keep living together!
He has a house in foreclosure, with hefty bills leftover...He cant get utilities in his name because of it. and we live paycheck to paycheck so he doesn't have a bunch of money or anything. I know its not "easy" for him to go, but I think he needs to move and stay with family/friends or something...
Help :-/ This is driving me nuts..

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49057 posts
28th May '13

here if u get ur mail there even if not on the lease u have to go threw evection process and then the apt complex can evicit you because tech you are breaking the lease by having him there. Call the non emergency number for the cops and see what they tell u

izzy+Ethan 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 4056 posts
28th May '13

call the police and tell them you want to set up a escort thingy lol were they come and escort him out of the house if hes not on the lease that shouldn't be a problem

AshWinsMomma 2 kids; Cincinnati, Ohio 161 posts
28th May '13

My landlord knows hes here, my landlord says they don't care who I have living here as far as he goes. The law here also is, if you live somewhere more than 30 days, then you have to be given 30 days to move.. His mail doesn't come here though, it goes to his old house that he hasn't lived in for 14 months..
but what can I do? I tell/ask him, and he says "oh im looking"...but he doesn't call or visit anywhere, just browses on craigslist.
I love him and he loves me, and I think that's why hes doing this, but we both know it isn't gonna work... im in a bad depression, and I need him gone so I can move on from this...

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
28th May '13

instead of mentioning legal actions, actually pursue them. have the cops come & give him a notice and make sure they check up on it.

AshWinsMomma 2 kids; Cincinnati, Ohio 161 posts
28th May '13

But hes a nice guy, I just feel horrible doing that to him :(
my ex threatened to do that to me, and I left instead, so it never actually happened.
I want things to stay as civil as possible, but I guess that's prob not gonna happen... Sigh.



how do you start the legal action from the cops then? do you call them or what?

*sp* 2 kids; Texas 16155 posts
28th May '13

It sounds like you don't really want him to move.



If you're serious about wanting him out then do what the others have said! He obviously isn't going to go on his on free will.

AshWinsMomma 2 kids; Cincinnati, Ohio 161 posts
28th May '13
Quoting *sp*:" It sounds like you don't really want him to move. If you're serious about wanting him out then do what the others have said! He obviously isn't going to go on his on free will. "


I do want him to move. he has to. things with us will never work.
but, I don't want to be a b***h or be mean..
I was hoping, there was some advice on how to get him to move that didn't require me to be mean lol guess im dreaming

Nikkie Beee Due January 29; 2 kids; Victorville, California 3968 posts
28th May '13
Quoting AshWinsMomma:" I do want him to move. he has to. things with us will never work. but, I don't want to be a b***h or ... [snip!] ... be mean.. I was hoping, there was some advice on how to get him to move that didn't require me to be mean lol guess im dreaming"



You tried the nice approach, obviously it isn't working. You have to decide how bad you want him out and how far you're willing to go.

AshWinsMomma 2 kids; Cincinnati, Ohio 161 posts
28th May '13
Quoting Nikkie Beee:" You tried the nice approach, obviously it isn't working. You have to decide how bad you want him out and how far you're willing to go."


I don't know how to pursue any of the other things...and If it costs money to do any of it I'm screwed :(

Nikkie Beee Due January 29; 2 kids; Victorville, California 3968 posts
28th May '13
Quoting AshWinsMomma:" I don't know how to pursue any of the other things...and If it costs money to do any of it I'm screwed :("


Call the police. He's not on the lease, he doesn't receive mail there. Legally, he can't be there if you don't want him there. They'll escort him out.

AshWinsMomma 2 kids; Cincinnati, Ohio 161 posts
28th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nikkie Beee:</b>" Call the police. He's not on the lease, he doesn't receive mail there. Legally, he can't be there if you don't want him there. They'll escort him out."</blockquote>




I have to gove him 30 days, that's the law here. Guess ill just write it on paper and give it to him lol