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3 kids; Intercourse, MD, United States 4616 posts
1st Jun '13
Quoting Addy & Grace's Mom:" That is a hard situation to be in. Honestly if I was in your shoes I would get an abortion. It would ... [snip!] ... some abusive fool around. Good Luck. Hopefully you will be able to make whatever choice is best for you and find peace with it."



Exactly... You'd be stuck dealing with this guy to some extent for the rest of the kid's life if he ended up somehow finding out. And you have to realize, if you chose not to put him on the birth certificate (which would be a good idea), you'd be entitled to no support for that child.



I think choosing to end the pregnancy is a very wise choice in your situation...I know it's horribly hard to make that choice. But you're a strong lady. Good luck to you, and good luck in college.

Beatrix Kiddo Due May 2; 3 kids; Truth or Consequences, New Mexico 13 posts
8th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting a s h l e y.:</b>" Exactly... You'd be stuck dealing with this guy to some extent for the rest of the kid's life if he ... [snip!] ... know it's horribly hard to make that choice. But you're a strong lady. Good luck to you, and good luck in college."</blockquote>




Thank you!!! :))

vaio2013 Japan 1 posts
11th Jun '13

I know every situation is different and every person is different so I don't think I should tell anyone what to do one way or the other but I'd like to share my story.



I was in a long distance relationship. I unknowingly impregnated my girlfriend a few weeks before she left to go to school overseas. Three months later we found out she was pregnant ( I hadn't seen her the entire time). I had just finished school and was in massive debt and she was just starting school. There was absolutely no way we wanted to have a kid or could support a kid. I'm not religious and she is religious, however, both of us thought in practical terms and decided to have an abortion.



At the time it didn't bother me too much, but now more than 5 years later I feel incredibly guilty about our decision. For the past month or so I've felt incredible amounts of anxiety and depression. I've missed a lot of time at work, I find little to no joy in everything I do. I wish I could go back in time and to put the child up for adoption. What I did haunts my thoughts almost 100% of the time.



The fact that it's started to bother me to this degree such a long time after it occurred makes me want to tell people to really think about this decision. Think not just how it makes you feel now, but think about how you might feel 1,2,5,10 years down the road. It didn't trouble me too much 5 years ago, but now it is the biggest regret of my life.