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ChavieChavo 1 child; 3 angel babies; Pittsburgh, PA, United States 2285 posts
29th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting a s h l e y.:</b>" What if you were a carrier for CF? Would you knowingly TTC? The lifespan of a person with CF is in their ... [snip!] ... then? As far as possible conditions go, HIV is pretty low on the list of transmissible. And high on the list of manageable. "</blockquote>



Good point.

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
29th May '13
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I'm 99.999% sure that my depression and BPD is far more life altering than HIV. :?"


That's a good possibility, and it's up to you to make the decision if you want to TTC and raise a family because you know your "illness" if you want to call it that.



I will still choose to adopt rather than face that 1% chance. I would feel absolutely TERRIBLE if my child ended up HIV positive. There IS a chance and that is not a chance I would be willing to take.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
29th May '13
Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:" That's a good possibility, and it's up to you to make the decision if you want to TTC and raise a family ... [snip!] ... absolutely TERRIBLE if my child ended up HIV positive. There IS a chance and that is not a chance I would be willing to take."


If all people thought that way, then the human race would die.

3 kids; Intercourse, MD, United States 4616 posts
29th May '13
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I'm 99.999% sure that my depression and BPD is far more life altering than HIV. :?"


And it's your choice if you want to TTC or raise a child. I'm sure you'll take into account the pros and cons, as well as where you are at that point in your life. :)

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
29th May '13
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" If all people thought that way, then the human race would die."


And if no one thought that way there would be a lot of parents who made uninformed decisions, had unbelievable guilt, buried their children, and even more children waiting to be adopted.



Diversity makes the world go round. There is no right opinion on this.

Anja[VBA2C GRADx2!] 5 kids; Illinois 3577 posts
29th May '13

Since it's a low risk thing if properly managed, I don't see much wrong with it, unless the person with HIV is not properly managing their treatment and not willing to. that's the same deal with any disease that could affect a child during pregnancy.



I have epilepsy, I've seen people say epileptics shouldn't have children because it can pass to children (and there is a genetic link in my family, it runs in females in my family on my mom's side) . But I manage my epilepsy fairly well, while I had seizures during my last pregnancy, it was because I was not managing my epilepsy medication properly with my doctor (they didn't dose me right for pregnancy) and it's been fixed and I've not had a seizure since my last one and that was probably 2 years ago. None of my children so far have had any seizures or have been diagnosed with epilepsy .

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
30th May '13

So I just looked it up and the mortality rate of HIV (actually I think full blown aids but I'm not sure how that works) is 2/100,000 and suicide rates are 17/100,000. Hmmm which is more risky? Mental illness or mental disorders? I fear greatly that my children will get my probably hereditary mental disorder. I fear that I will ultimately kill myself like my dad did and leave my children motherless. I fear my children will kill themselves because they are too proud or too crazy to get hell for their mental disorder if they develop it. I guess I'm selfish for having children with all this risk :(

3sACrowd 3 kids; Alaska 3397 posts
30th May '13
Quoting lolajessup:" So I just looked it up and the mortality rate of HIV (actually I think full blown aids but I'm not sure ... [snip!] ... crazy to get hell for their mental disorder if they develop it. I guess I'm selfish for having children with all this risk :("

I feel the same way. I hope to God my children do not inherit my severe depression. I'm selfish too!

3 kids; Intercourse, MD, United States 4616 posts
30th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" So I just looked it up and the mortality rate of HIV (actually I think full blown aids but I'm not sure ... [snip!] ... crazy to get hell for their mental disorder if they develop it. I guess I'm selfish for having children with all this risk :("</blockquote>




You're aware of it, and honestly, as your kids get older, there's no need to hide it from them. Explain to them what it is, how you're managing, and maybe how it started for you. Teach them that if they start feeling that way, that they can come to you and you will get them help. I'm sure with open communication, you can manage for yourself, and help them if the need arises

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
30th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting a s h l e y.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" So I just looked it up and the mortality rate ... [snip!] ... you and you will get them help. I'm sure with open communication, you can manage for yourself, and help them if the need arises"</blockquote>



Yes for sure!!! Thanks :)

Nymphadora 98 kids; Arizona 3120 posts
31st May '13

There's a higher chance of two healthy people producing an autistic child.

HotMom21ERF Due December 17 (twins); 1 child; Kentucky 20896 posts
31st May '13
Quoting Nymphadora:" There's a higher chance of two healthy people producing an autistic child."


What is the point of that comment?

Nymphadora 98 kids; Arizona 3120 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" What is the point of that comment?"</blockquote>




Meaning I don't see the issue with it. If everyone stopped breeding because something could be wrong with their child, that would be the end of the human race because EVERYONE has that chance.

~ Island ~ Phoenix ~ 2 kids; Brisbane, Australia 192 posts
11th Jun '13
Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):" What's going to happen to the child when the parents die from this disease? Last time I checked mental illness isn't something that takes your life eventually."


Mental illness can lead to suicide. A parent dying by suicide messes a child up more than the parent dying from disease.