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Flower♥Child Litchfield, NY, United States 69232 posts
status 30th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jeronimo:</b>" The divorce rate is high even for "civilian families"... which to me, makes the question of millitary ... [snip!] ... marriage even more of a puzzle... but I guess there's many reasons (right or wrong) as to why it is done in the 1st place."</blockquote>




Are you questioning why people marry service members at all?



I mean.... :?

JΔS Georgia 74553 posts
30th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jeronimo:</b>" The divorce rate is high even for "civilian families"... which to me, makes the question of millitary ... [snip!] ... marriage even more of a puzzle... but I guess there's many reasons (right or wrong) as to why it is done in the 1st place."</blockquote>




You missed the point.



There are factors in a military marriage that are not in civilian marriages. And did you just have the audacity to question why people marry service members?

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 119238 posts
status 30th May '13
Quoting All The Panties:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jeronimo:</b>" The divorce rate is high even for "civilian families"... ... [snip!] ... it is done in the 1st place."</blockquote> Are you questioning why people marry service members at all? I mean.... :?"


thats what it sounds like.

Jeronimo 2 kids; California 1436 posts
30th May '13

Yes, servicemen should all be unloving unwed robot-like drones! / end sarcasm.



I'm saying ... if even conventional marriage itself is on the fritz with its
"regular" issues (as I'll assume you'd call them)... I would figure that servicemen perhaps knowing the "special issues" that come along w/millitary marriage wouldn't be as quick to jump the gun on getting married...



again, this is why I asked about the reasoning behind doing so. Some of the reasons given were based on financials, others on "love", some on fear... etc...



Anyways... I don't fault ppl for wanting to get married despite the challenges it presents (milliatary and/or civilian)... just wondering about those types that I brought up in my example.

JΔS Georgia 74553 posts
30th May '13
Quoting Jeronimo:" Yes, servicemen should all be unloving unwed robot-like drones! / end sarcasm. I'm saying ... if even ... [snip!] ... the challenges it presents (milliatary and/or civilian)... just wondering about those types that I brought up in my example."


Do you honestly think that's going through their head when they get married? Not everyone even knows the circumstances when it comes to being a military family. There's not a handbook on this shit. You take the challenges as they come but not everyone can handle it hence, the military divorce rate. Those who marry for money aren't in it for the long haul anyway so why would they give two shits about the military and its challenges when it comes to personal relationships?



Forgive me but you sound ignorant.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 119238 posts
status 30th May '13
Quoting Jeronimo:" Yes, servicemen should all be unloving unwed robot-like drones! / end sarcasm. I'm saying ... if even ... [snip!] ... the challenges it presents (milliatary and/or civilian)... just wondering about those types that I brought up in my example."


whats with the quote around love? Do you feel like they cant be in love?




Were you burned by a service member or something?

Flower♥Child Litchfield, NY, United States 69232 posts
status 30th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jeronimo:</b>" Yes, servicemen should all be unloving unwed robot-like drones! / end sarcasm. I'm saying ... if even ... [snip!] ... the challenges it presents (milliatary and/or civilian)... just wondering about those types that I brought up in my example."</blockquote>




Well, some people don't realize how hard it is being married and affiliated with the military, and some people don't give a shit about maintaining a marriage, and some people choose to marry fully intending on fighting their ass off for their relationship.

GoldenGirls 1 child; North Carolina 1225 posts
30th May '13

I've been married twice, to military men. The first, when I was in the Marine Corps, my exhusband was a guy I had known for years. Since highschool. Got married at 21. Left him 11 months later because he cheated on me, and was abusive.



My second and current husband I met at a wedding in 2011. Also a Marine. We got married almost 6 months to the day that we met. Even when he is gone (he is deployed currently), I don't feel lonely. I know he's there, I know he loves me, and together we can get through a deployment. It's a couple of months, compared to the rest of our lives.



Sometimes, I truly believe it takes a special kind of person to stick with a military marriage. When I was in the Marine Corps, a friend of mine was discharged after 2 years of service for some mental issues. She was married to another Marine who was going to be deployed. With in a month after he deployed, she was cheating on him.



I've also met wives who have been with their husbands for 20 years, and they still look at each other like they did when they were in the honey moon phase.



For me, it's worth it. Every time he worked 18 hour days or was put on duty, or got leave cut short, deployed...it's worth being with him and working through it all.

Jeronimo 2 kids; California 1436 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting Jas ♥:" Forgive me but you sound ignorant."


Lacking knowledge on the subject... yea. Hence why I asked for the insight. :)

Jeronimo 2 kids; California 1436 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" whats with the quote around love? Do you feel like they cant be in love? Were you burned by a service member or something? "


No. I don't personaly know any service members. Friends or otherwise.