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My DH to be a donor for Brothers wife to concieve.... mommax3az 4 kids; Arizona 13 posts
30th May '13

My husbands brother is horrible with children... He is getting ready to marry his second wife in 3 years. He travels outside of the US to find a wife. His brother has a disease and used that as an excuse to get a vasectomy behind his first wife's back. Now he asked my husband to donate sperm to imprgnate his soon to be wife with a child. My husband and I have three kids and one on the way and I don't think this is right. I try to talk to my husband but i can't find the words to talk to him. His brother has always been favored and still is. My in laws are trying to pressure my husband into this...Any advice as what to do or say

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
30th May '13

Tell him your uncomfortable with it. I would be so upset of DH did that!!

Mama Van D 18 kids; Unity, Maine 2454 posts
30th May '13

I wouldn't be able to look past the fact that biologically it would be his child.

Summer+[two] 2 kids; Louisiana 727 posts
30th May '13

i wouldnt do it. thatd just be too personal for me. id tell him that just not something that I could handle.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11670 posts
30th May '13

I would say hell no.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
30th May '13

Tell the brother to get his vasectomy reversed? It was HIS choice to get snipped, not your husband's. If he wants kids so badly, then have him to get it reversed and make his own kids.

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
30th May '13

Hell to the f**king no.



No one can force your DH to do it. So they need to get over that. And your DH better stand his ground on this issue.

jazzzzz* 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 7558 posts
30th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:</b>" Tell the brother to get his vasectomy reversed? It was HIS choice to get snipped, not your husband's. If he wants kids so badly, then have him to get it reversed and make his own kids."</blockquote>




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user banned 19 kids; Japan 4077 posts
30th May '13
Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:" Tell the brother to get his vasectomy reversed? It was HIS choice to get snipped, not your husband's. If he wants kids so badly, then have him to get it reversed and make his own kids."


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took the words right out of my mouth.

Coffee Milk 2 kids; Alaska 2089 posts
30th May '13

F NO>

\not to mention he could be financially responsible down the road, putting HIS family (you and the babies) at risk!
NOT WORTH IT

Mama Van D 18 kids; Unity, Maine 2454 posts
30th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:</b>" Tell the brother to get his vasectomy reversed? It was HIS choice to get snipped, not your husband's. If he wants kids so badly, then have him to get it reversed and make his own kids."</blockquote>




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October2011 Due April 3; 1 child; Pennsylvania 6494 posts
30th May '13
Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:" Tell the brother to get his vasectomy reversed? It was HIS choice to get snipped, not your husband's. If he wants kids so badly, then have him to get it reversed and make his own kids."


this! seriously..if he wants his own baby he can go through and try to make it happen himself before trying to do something so drastic as having your husband do that.

Mama Van D 18 kids; Unity, Maine 2454 posts
30th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Coffee Milk:</b>" F NO> \not to mention he could be financially responsible down the road, putting HIS family (you and the babies) at risk! NOT WORTH IT"</blockquote>




Holy shit, really?

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
30th May '13

How about this, Drs can and will revers Vasectomy's, it is not always successful. But I think you should say you are not comfortable with this donor thing. but if he really wants a baby then he should first try the reversal. If he is willing to go to those lengths to have a baby(surgery, pay out of pocket an all that) then he probably really wants a baby.
So if he dose the reversal and they try with out success then you will be willing to revisit the idea.

mommax3az 4 kids; Arizona 13 posts
30th May '13

His brother is someone that is very spoiled! He is two years older than my husband and still lives at home. He has never had to deal with anything without mommy and daddy to help. My husband has always been the black sheep of this family and has issues of letting his family down because of it. It is a very hard situation and I am 100% against it. My husband is weirded out but doesn't want to let down his family by saying no. I think it would be to hard being bilogically my husbands child, my childrens siblings and top top it off I would be an aunt to this child. The finacial responsiblity is a heavy burden also, considering I had my tubes tied before my fourth was concieved.