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Job shadowing at a funeral home Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21536 posts
30th May '13

I'm thinking about going to mortuary school.
I talked to my dad about it and he made a good observation that I've never touched a dead body before, even though we've had several deaths in the family, and it would suck to get through all the schooling only to realize that I can't handle touching the bodies.



He suggested that I call the local funeral home and ask to job shadow for a day to see if I can handle it. Job shadowing is common here (I don't know about anywhere else).



That's a good idea, but would that be allowed in a funeral home? Would it violate some sort of privacy act?



And would the funeral home think I'm just a creeper with a morbid fascination?

Jennifer SG Montreal, Quebec 5676 posts
30th May '13

Wow thats a great idea. I bet they would be happy to have you as a shadow if you express that you would really like to be involved in that line of work. Also maybe offer to also have a sit down discussion about their personal experience. It will show your interest.

Princess Celestia +1 1 child; Tallahassee, Florida 3636 posts
30th May '13

I don't think they would think you were a morbid creeper. It's a calling for some people... my mom's side of the family has a booming funeral home business. Some people consider it weird, but I think it's fascinating personally.



I used to actually live in it... everyone thought that was creepy, but it's really.. not that creepy. I assume that because I was able to live in it, you would be able to job shadow. Lol.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21536 posts
30th May '13
Quoting Jennifer SG:" Wow thats a great idea. I bet they would be happy to have you as a shadow if you express that you would ... [snip!] ... line of work. Also maybe offer to also have a sit down discussion about their personal experience. It will show your interest. "


I get really nervous and mess up what I'm trying to say when I'm trying to do something very important lol. Everything I plan on saying goes out the window. Maybe I could write out all my questions in a notebook and bring them with me IF I get granted a discussion/job shadow?

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
30th May '13

I would just explain it to them how you kind of put it here. You are looking to go to school for it but because you've never had any experience you were wondering if you could come a shadow for a day to see if you could really handle it. I don't think it would really violate any privacy or anything.

Jennifer SG Montreal, Quebec 5676 posts
30th May '13
Quoting Minion:" I get really nervous and mess up what I'm trying to say when I'm trying to do something very important ... [snip!] ... window. Maybe I could write out all my questions in a notebook and bring them with me IF I get granted a discussion/job shadow?"


Yes Make a list. Again shows ur serious. Also the pen and paper can get in handy to keep your hands busy (i get made nervous talking with new people) But seriously I think its a great idea. Please let me know and keep me posted!!! :)

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21536 posts
30th May '13
Quoting Princess Celestia [18]:" I don't think they would think you were a morbid creeper. It's a calling for some people... my mom's ... [snip!] ... but it's really.. not that creepy. I assume that because I was able to live in it, you would be able to job shadow. Lol."


I think it's very very interesting. Pretty much everyone I've told about me wanting to go to mortuary school has reacted very negatively. :(
One person even told me I've been watching too many horror movies and I need to step back into reality. :? That kind of made me mad.
Someone has to care for the bodies to help give the families closure.



So you were allowed to roam wherever when you lived in the funeral home?



Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21536 posts
30th May '13
Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" I would just explain it to them how you kind of put it here. You are looking to go to school for it but ... [snip!] ... come a shadow for a day to see if you could really handle it. I don't think it would really violate any privacy or anything."


Thanks. :)
I think I will call up the funeral home soon then. :)

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21536 posts
30th May '13
Quoting Jennifer SG:" Yes Make a list. Again shows ur serious. Also the pen and paper can get in handy to keep your hands ... [snip!] ... get made nervous talking with new people) But seriously I think its a great idea. Please let me know and keep me posted!!! :)"


Thanks. :) I will.

Princess Celestia +1 1 child; Tallahassee, Florida 3636 posts
30th May '13
Quoting Minion:" I think it's very very interesting. Pretty much everyone I've told about me wanting to go to mortuary ... [snip!] ... the bodies to help give the families closure. So you were allowed to roam wherever when you lived in the funeral home? "


Pretty much, yeah.



And you're very right. Morticians do a very amazing job and it still baffles me that people are disrespectful about it. It isn't "freaky" or "weird", it's someone taking the utmost care of you after your death and making sure you have a proper burial.

Princess Celestia +1 1 child; Tallahassee, Florida 3636 posts
30th May '13
Quoting Minion:" Thanks. :) I think I will call up the funeral home soon then. :)"


Go for it! :) Worst thing that could happen is you decide it's not for you.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21536 posts
30th May '13
Quoting Princess Celestia [18]:" Go for it! :) Worst thing that could happen is you decide it's not for you."


Yeah. :)



I also worry too much about what people think about me too IRL. I'm terrified that they funeral home people will think badly of me for asking lol.

Princess Celestia +1 1 child; Tallahassee, Florida 3636 posts
30th May '13
Quoting Minion:" Yeah. :) I also worry too much about what people think about me too IRL. I'm terrified that they funeral home people will think badly of me for asking lol."


No way! Lol. Showing interest isn't a bad thing. I mean, if you showed up with a shirt with a pentagram and some tripp pants, you might be looked at strangely... :P



People ask to job shadow all the time. A funeral home would be no different.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21536 posts
30th May '13

Would it be better so send the funeral home a letter? Or a phone call? I'm really good at writing letters, lol.
But that might be a little old fashioned. :?

Princess Celestia +1 1 child; Tallahassee, Florida 3636 posts
30th May '13
Quoting Minion:" Would it be better so send the funeral home a letter? Or a phone call? I'm really good at writing letters, lol. But that might be a little old fashioned. :?"


I'd go in and personally talk to them IMO. Makes a better impression.