Reply
How to tell someone to.... Mommii Due October 15 (girl); 2 kids; Portland, Maine 1646 posts
30th May '13

Clean up after themselves and their child[ren].....?




I'm not sure sure that this is where I'm supposed to post this but, I'm just curious how do I politely tell people to clean up after themselves and their child[ren] when they're here? I don't mind that they come over, and I don't mind that they play, But I do mind having to take care of extra messes. It seems that everyone who comes over with a child[ren] they seem to be very messy, leaving toys out, food all over the place, spills and such everywhere. Now like I said, I don't mind that they visit, [which is almost always UNEXPECTED]. I just want them to take care of their mess, Having to care for myself, my mother and my two boys plus expecting one more, I really don't think I need the extra messes. So, HOW do I tell them to clean up their crap!?

PJ&C 2 kids; Arizona 18480 posts
30th May '13

I don't think there is a nice way to do it. Why don't you ask them if they can help you pick up, and for kids ask your kids and the other persons kids to pick up toys after they are done playing.

Nikkie Beee Due January 29; 2 kids; Victorville, California 3968 posts
30th May '13

When my sister comes over with her kids, I'll know when she's getting ready to go. I'll go in my kids room where they're all playing and say "come on everyone, clean up time!!!!!". I'll start to put some toys away, hand some toys to them and they'll just follow.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44067 posts
30th May '13

When I have guests I just do it. I guess if it were a regular guest or like my brother or something I'd say "hey could you grab that plate on your way out", or remind the kids on front of the parent, "lets pick all the toys up, moms ready to go", etc. just nonchalantly, in a no big deal way. If its an occasional guest I just suck it up and expect leftover mess when I invite people over.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
30th May '13
Quoting lolajessup:" When I have guests I just do it. I guess if it were a regular guest or like my brother or something I'd ... [snip!] ... in a no big deal way. If its an occasional guest I just suck it up and expect leftover mess when I invite people over."


But she said they're unexpected. She didn't invite them over. They just show up and make a mess and leave.




OP I have no advice for you. Nobody ever comes to see me. :lol: And any family that comes over always helps to clean up the messes made.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44067 posts
30th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:</b>" But she said they're unexpected. She didn't invite them over. They just show up and make a mess and ... [snip!] ... no advice for you. Nobody ever comes to see me. :lol: And any family that comes over always helps to clean up the messes made."</blockquote>



Yeah I saw that afterwards. I really guess it depends on how close I was to them. But I'd still probably do the nonchalant comments.

Mrs.Bluitt Due January 20; 1 child; San Jose, California 745 posts
30th May '13

There is no nice way... Even when you are polite about it they get offended. Everytime I ask MIL to please pick up after herself he goes to her room, slams the door, locks it, and won't eat dinner.
Good lord! I just want you to throw your damn plate in the garbage and move your walker to the corner. No one can get in the house when you leave it in front of the door!!

*Jessabelle* 1 child; Elephant Butte, New Mexico 531 posts
30th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nikkie Beee:</b>" When my sister comes over with her kids, I'll know when she's getting ready to go. I'll go in my kids ... [snip!] ... say "come on everyone, clean up time!!!!!". I'll start to put some toys away, hand some toys to them and they'll just follow."</blockquote>



This! I address it to the kids first and then include everybody else in an easy going way. "OK everybody, it's clean up time. You kids pick up the toys, the grown ups will get the food and dishes." Usually the parents will join in, if they have any sense. :D

mamaofarunner 1 child; Kansas City, Kansas 1746 posts
status 30th May '13

just say please make sure you clean up any spills and food before you leave. Toys arnt really a big thing. I have to clean those up anyways, but the rest is just rude.