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☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting eKnuckles:</b>" Lol @ you can't stop kids from having sex. Righttt."</blockquote>




How can you? Lock them in the house forever?

K. P. Walsh Due August 5 (girl); Japan 1385 posts
31st May '13

The best thing she could do knowing he's sexually active, is making condoms available so he doesn't become a parent? How is buying him something to prevent pregnancy encouraging teen pregnancy?
I mean, what is she going to do? Give him a stern talking to and expect it to work?
I'm more concerned about that teacher allowing a kid to give him a bj for good grades?

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
31st May '13

I think that she is encouraging safe sex. If kids are going to have sex they will do it regardless of condoms! It's best to make sure they have the knowledge. I mean honestly I'm sure she is just trying to make sure it's safe. I don't really think grounding is appropriate. Idk my mom was always lenient about those things. It was if your thinking about having sex come to me, you need birth control!

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
31st May '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Absolutely. She knows he's sexually active. She could ground him, but that won't stop him from having ... [snip!] ... stop him from having sex. And how is she encouraging teen pregnancy by giving him condoms? She's helping him prevent it....."

I have to agree.



I can understand being upset that she's treating him differently than she did you. That always hurts. But she's not encouraging teen pregnancy, she's helping prevent it.

loser mom Due June 24 (twins); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, Norway, ,,, Europe 11362 posts
status 31st May '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" I meant overreacting about him not getting in trouble for doing it in her house. That was never acceptable whenever she 'thought' my sister & I were doing it. She took our doors off & grounded us."


I'm the oldest of three kids, by the time my sister was a teenager, she could get away with murder.



It's not always "fair"... but it's life. Give your mom a break.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59981 posts
31st May '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" I meant overreacting about him not getting in trouble for doing it in her house. That was never acceptable whenever she 'thought' my sister & I were doing it. She took our doors off & grounded us."


It's pretty normal for parents to get more lax and change rules for younger siblings.



I'd just let it go.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" Absolutely. She knows he's sexually active. She could ground him, but that won't stop him from having ... [snip!] ... stop him from having sex. And how is she encouraging teen pregnancy by giving him condoms? She's helping him prevent it....."</blockquote>



I meant because he didn't have any consequences to any of his actions. First he lied to her about something happening, then admitted it when a friend came over. Before that, she was encouraging him to go after as many girls as possible & never once gave him condoms until my older sister told her to. She's known he was 'active' for quite some time now.

K. P. Walsh Due August 5 (girl); Japan 1385 posts
31st May '13

I will say, however, she could stop allowing him to be alone with girls in her house, though.
Like, you want a girl to come over? Cool. Park it in the living room where I can see you, slick. Hand check every 15 minutes.

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3472 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting eKnuckles:</b>" Lol @ you can't stop kids from having sex. Righttt."</blockquote> How can you? Lock them in the house forever?"</blockquote>



People don't stay kids forever, so no.
No, you keep a close eye on them and know where they are at all times. And WHO they are with.
Besides what you teach them of course.

☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Grand Forks, ND, United States 45964 posts
31st May '13

yes you're overreacting it sounds like you're jealous you didn't get to sleep around at 14

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" I meant overreacting about him not getting in trouble for doing it in her house. That was never acceptable whenever she 'thought' my sister & I were doing it. She took our doors off & grounded us."</blockquote>




You're not his mom. If the rules have changed, the rules have changed. Is being totally cool with his disrespect something I would do? No. But is no dating until 17 a good way of handling it? No. Parenting is about give and take, being flexible, and communication. While I wouldn't allow my 14 year old to get away with fooling around in my garage, maybe there are reasons for her lenience. After all, he broke up with the skank, sat through a sex talk round 2 with his mother, and came clean about the incident voluntarily. Those are all things that should be taken into consideration. Maybe she doesn't want to discourage his honesty by punishing him, and instead took the opportunity to open new lines of communication instead.



Bottom line, you have no room to judge her decisions. It sounds like she's actually being wiser now than she was with you and your sister.

loser mom Due June 24 (twins); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, Norway, ,,, Europe 11362 posts
status 31st May '13
Quoting K. P. Walsh:" I will say, however, she could stop allowing him to be alone with girls in her house, though. Like, ... [snip!] ... Like, you want a girl to come over? Cool. Park it in the living room where I can see you, slick. Hand check every 15 minutes. "


I would agree with this. I was allowed to have my boyfriend over when I was 16... but my door stayed OPEN the entire time.

BakingBean2 2 kids; Ohio 2247 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting K. P. Walsh:</b>" I will say, however, she could stop allowing him to be alone with girls in her house, though. Like, ... [snip!] ... Like, you want a girl to come over? Cool. Park it in the living room where I can see you, slick. Hand check every 15 minutes. "</blockquote>
:!:

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting eKnuckles:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... keep a close eye on them and know where they are at all times. And WHO they are with. Besides what you teach them of course."</blockquote>




Yeah, being someone who got around all of that, all i can say is good luck :lol:



Unless you plan to follow your kids wherever they go, you never know 100%.




My mom taught me sex was something you didn't do until you were an adult and married in love.
I'm my own person, therefore i formed my own opinions on it. My mother's parenting had nothing to do with how early i became sexually active.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
31st May '13

I guess its just the straw that's breaking the camels back for me. I had no interest in men at all at 14 & I don't even care that he's active. I just think since all he does is run over her, treat her like she, has no rules he has to follow, & is a shallow asshole, that he shouldn't just get opportunity after opportunity to make babies that he wouldn't even think once about raising. He doesn't take condoms with him to protect himself or anyone else, he doesn't care about anyone but himself & I think with a little actual parenting or guidance that he could be better. That's all. I love my brother but what he's turned into because of my mothers lack of parenting, bothers me.