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Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
31st May '13
Quoting loser mom:" I would agree with this. I was allowed to have my boyfriend over when I was 16... but my door stayed OPEN the entire time."


This.



Door open and we were checked on regularly.

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3472 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting eKnuckles:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar ... [snip!] ... therefore i formed my own opinions on it. My mother's parenting had nothing to do with how early i became sexually active."</blockquote>




Lol, well considering its worked for mass amount of parents around the world, I think we'll be fine.

BakingBean2 2 kids; Ohio 2247 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting eKnuckles:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... keep a close eye on them and know where they are at all times. And WHO they are with. Besides what you teach them of course."</blockquote>




Because teenagers never lie or disobey their parents.... Knowing where your kid is, isn't gonna stop him from putting his penis in stuff.... The least you could do is hand him some condoms. My children will be taught abstinence, but will also be told about diseases, pregnancy, condoms and birth control starting from a young age, I want a very open line of communication with my children and it won't just be one talk, it will be several.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59940 posts
status 31st May '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" I guess its just the straw that's breaking the camels back for me. I had no interest in men at all at ... [snip!] ... could be better. That's all. I love my brother but what he's turned into because of my mothers lack of parenting, bothers me."



So, you don't like how he treats your mother.



But you're pissed off at your mother for her parenting.



I know it kind of sucks when your parents treat your siblings differently.... but most teenagers are assholes for a while.

K. P. Walsh Due August 5 (girl); Japan 1385 posts
31st May '13

AND, I think she could probably teach him a thing or two about RESPECTING women. You DON'T use a girl, at any age, at any time, for sex. He needs to learn that women feel emotion and connect through sex, biologically. When women have sex, it's a chemical reaction and we connect or feel like we're connecting to the person we're having sex with. Men don't have that chemical response that women do. He should know that. He should know women aren't disposable. He should know the difference between sex & love and when girls are young, they don't know the difference. It's taking advantage almost when he knows what he wants from a girl and she's confusing sex with real feelings, even if she's a willing participant, she thinks she's doing it because she's liked, I'm sure, while he knows different.
Sounds like he needs to learn respect and boundaries.
I wouldn't allow my son to misuse a young girl in my home, ever. I wouldn't raise my son to be an asshole to women.
So, I don't think throwing condoms at him is going to explain these things, but it does send a message that if you're going to be sexually active, be safe.
But you can teach both.
No, you can't follow your teenage son everywhere. And yeah, kids, especially teenagers are creative. You could get to 3rd base on the bus if you were sneaky enough, but teaching your son to respect women and sex and boundaries, that will follow your son when you can't.
I digress.
LOL.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting eKnuckles:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... Lol, well considering its worked for mass amount of parents around the world, I think we'll be fine."</blockquote>



I'm not saying it doesn't work for some, or that every teenager is sexually active. I'm saying that your "it must be shitty/lack of parenting" attitude is so naive and wrong. :lol:

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sneakthief:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" I meant overreacting about him not ... [snip!] ... you have no room to judge her decisions. It sounds like she's actually being wiser now than she was with you and your sister."</blockquote>



She's not though. She had tons of rules for my sister & I but she has NONE for my brother. None. That's my problem. No rules, no punishments for anything, nothing.



I was abused by her. I don't expect him to be physically punished at all but giving him a PS3, an XBOX, & an ipod aren't really punishments lol. I don't even like videogames so I'm not jealous. I just know he could be a great person with the right guidance. So far all she's doing is being his occasional friend. He comes & goes as he pleases with no rules, stipulations or anything. He just needs some structure

BakingBean2 2 kids; Ohio 2247 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting eKnuckles:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar ... [snip!] ... teenager is sexually active. I'm saying that your "it must be shitty/lack of parenting" attitude is so naive and wrong. :lol:"</blockquote




:!:

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
31st May '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" <blockquote><b>Quoting eKnuckles:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar ... [snip!] ... teenager is sexually active. I'm saying that your "it must be shitty/lack of parenting" attitude is so naive and wrong. :lol:"


:!::!:



Even with the door open and regular checks, we still snuck in stuff... If a kid wants to do it, they are going to regardless. But I wouldn't say having boundaries didn't help. If we got a closed door and no checks it would have been much worse.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" So, you don't like how he treats your mother. But you're pissed off at your mother for her parenting. ... [snip!] ... I know it kind of sucks when your parents treat your siblings differently.... but most teenagers are assholes for a while."</blockquote>



He's gotten away with physically hitting her & all she did was sweep it under the carpet. She even hid it from her husband. My brother is turning out just like my father(my parents got divorced because of domestic violence issues)who is so stuck on his mental addiction to weed that he owes over 30,000 in child support. I'm slightly bothered by being treated differently but it bothers me more that my brother has a lot of potential but will never reach it because he has no structure in life.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59940 posts
status 31st May '13
Quoting K. P. Walsh:" AND, I think she could probably teach him a thing or two about RESPECTING women. You DON'T use a girl, ... [snip!] ... but teaching your son to respect women and sex and boundaries, that will follow your son when you can't. I digress. LOL. "


While I definitely agree, in theory, heh. Teenagers are assholes. As I said before. These things can't always just be taught by the parent... sometimes kids are going to disrespect others despite what their parents try to instill in them.



Especially when it comes to relationships and sex, IMO. I bet many parents would be taken aback by some of their child's actions towards other people. Even when they "raised them right" and whatnot.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59940 posts
status 31st May '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" So, you don't like how he treats your mother. ... [snip!] ... but it bothers me more that my brother has a lot of potential but will never reach it because he has no structure in life."


I absolutely understand how frustrating that can be if he is abusing your mother.



I do not, however, know what that has to do with encouraging teen pregnancy. Does he have any positive role models in his life?

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting K. P. Walsh:</b>" AND, I think she could probably teach him a thing or two about RESPECTING women. You DON'T use a girl, ... [snip!] ... but teaching your son to respect women and sex and boundaries, that will follow your son when you can't. I digress. LOL. "</blockquote>



Girls are objects to him. He has no respect towards them at all. He's very selfish & doesn't care what happens to them after he gets what he wants. Its very disappointing. He constantly calls the girls he's with stupid too :? Like he's making fun of them for dating him. Sadly all of these girls think he's so great & that he has no flaws. Oh being young & gullible lol. I remember swooning over only one person at 18. We're still together though LOL

K. P. Walsh Due August 5 (girl); Japan 1385 posts
31st May '13
Quoting The Doctor:" While I definitely agree, in theory, heh. Teenagers are assholes. As I said before. These things can't ... [snip!] ... would be taken aback by some of their child's actions towards other people. Even when they "raised them right" and whatnot."

That's absolutely true.
But I guess what I'm saying, if you at least teach them what's right, they'll at least have an understanding that what they're doing is wrong.? Instead of thinking it's completely acceptable to treat people like they're disposable? At least knowing the difference is half the battle. If it's never explained, they'll never have a frame of reference of what's acceptable and what isn't, ya know? If that makes sense?
I knew having sex was frowned upon and I knew I shouldn't let people use me. I still had sex, yes, but at least I wasn't under the impression that it was okay to be misused by guys. I knew that wasn't right or okay.

K. P. Walsh Due August 5 (girl); Japan 1385 posts
31st May '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting K. P. Walsh:</b>" AND, I think she could probably teach him ... [snip!] ... he has no flaws. Oh being young & gullible lol. I remember swooning over only one person at 18. We're still together though LOL"

Well this is exactly what I mean. I think he needs to have a healthy respect for women.
He should probably know, that if takes a girl's virginity, she's going to have high expectations for a relationship and make it out to be something it isn't. If he doesn't want a girl to become clingy, he should at least be upfront about what it is he wants, instead of playing games.
Your mom should really draw him a picture.