We decided to get a divorce a few weeks ago... everything was okay for about a week. Then he was an asshole for a few days and now he is actively trying to get me back. I've told him 20 times that that is never going to happen, but he just won't stop. We already paid the damn lawyer for crying out loud!!! He keeps sending flowers and buying me stuff and just randomly showing up. He used his key and just walked in my house at 11 pm the other night without calling or knocking.. liked to have scared me to death. I'm not sure what to do anymore. I know that we will never work out. We fight all the time and it isn't good for anyone involved. I don't understand why he treated me like dog shit for 4 years and is now trying to be "husband of the year". I can't stand anymore crying, presents or melt downs. I mean.. is this normal?
my ex used to do the same thing..then all those somewhat nice things became stalking, he would wait outside my house, follow me to work, follow me home, drive past my house, my parents house...i finally had to put a protective order on him, then he violated it, then went to jail for 10 days.
I would have called the police on him. I would change the locks too. But i would see ifhe comes in again, because when id call the police on him.
I think some guys unfortunately take women for granted until it's too late. :( I'm sorry you're going through this.
1. Divorce isn't easy. It's not supposed to be...
2. Why don't you want to work things out?
Get a restraining order if that is what it takes. I know that isn't great for the kids, but he has to learn somehow.
He realized he doesnt wanna be alone and thinks your the easy choice to not being alone is my guess :/
<blockquote><b>Quoting nutmeg.:</b>" 1. Divorce isn't easy. It's not supposed to be... 2. Why don't you want to work things out?"</blockquote>
Maybe she has in the past, but he didn't take it serious. And now she's given up and is ready to move on.Him
4 years and 3 marriage counseling stints has proved that this will never work out. I love him, but I'm not in love with him at all. You can't treat someone like crap and then expect them to stay with you and then freak out and try to be a different person overnight. He's not changing, I'm not changing.. it just is what it is.. kwim?
And if he walks in my house again I will call the cops. I guess I do need to change the locks I was just hoping it wouldn't come to all this.
Have you tried counseling first? You want to end on a good note especially if kids are involved.
He's acting weird enough that my mom just called and told me a story about a girl who disappeared after filing for divorce. I think she is scared that he is going to hurt me. I don't necessarily think he would go that far, but his erratic behavior is very unnerving.
Do you have the legal basis to change the locks? If you are certain in your decision to call it quits, I suppose that would be a good step to take.