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How to work through user banned
31st May '13

YOUR insecurities when in a relationship. For example, if my SO has ANY interactions with other females, I can't help but die a little inside. If he compliments other girls I can't help but feel ugly.



What are your insecurities and how do you work through them?

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
31st May '13

I trust him. I mean I guess jealousy is a natural feeling but I just know that he means no malice or has ulterior motives if he's talking to girls on his FB and that he wouldn't do anything to hurt me.

user banned Nassau, BA, Bahamas 5125 posts
31st May '13
Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" I trust him. I mean I guess jealousy is a natural feeling but I just know that he means no malice or ... [snip!] ... that he means no malice or has ulterior motives if he's talking to girls on his FB and that he wouldn't do anything to hurt me."


Which is my issue also...because he never would cheat and I know this for a fact. We talked about how my idea of appropriate is different than his (I have NO male friends). But it's like an everyday battle with myself to keep my stupid mouth shut.

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 5587 posts
31st May '13
Quoting Loka Lokita:" Which is my issue also...because he never would cheat and I know this for a fact. We talked about how ... [snip!] ... is different than his (I have NO male friends). But it's like an everyday battle with myself to keep my stupid mouth shut."

SO and I handle it by not keeping our mouths shut. We call each other out on shit all the time. (edit: like if he thinks Im flirting with a guy or if I think he was checking out a chick) Sometimes joking, sometimes over little stupid shit but I think it helps keep the lines of communication open. We are both very jealous people though lol

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
31st May '13
Quoting Loka Lokita:" Which is my issue also...because he never would cheat and I know this for a fact. We talked about how ... [snip!] ... is different than his (I have NO male friends). But it's like an everyday battle with myself to keep my stupid mouth shut."


Hmm, IDK. I have a lot of friends that are males, and I would be slightly annoyed if DH said something every time I talked to one of them. But I'm also a big advocate of not keeping issues bottled up. It's a tough spot.

Adan's Mama :) 1 child; Phenix City, Alabama 457 posts
31st May '13

We talk about it when it is bugging us a lot. It helps us reassure each other and keeps us from bottling it up and taking frustrations out on each other.