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Refusing to breast feed... thoughts? Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
31st May '13

Let me start by saying that I'm all for people choosing to formula feed for any reason even if they just don't want to breast feed but in the situation below I feel it is really selfish and irresponsible to choose not to breast feed but maybe I'm wrong...



One of my friends called me today, she had a baby 6 days ago. Through the whole conversation I could hear her newborn crying hysterically. I finally asked after ten minutes of us talking what was wrong with her baby and she says, no word of a lie, "Oh that's why I called, she has been crying like that for hours because I ran out of formula and she hasn't ate in a long time. Can I give her regular cows milk. I have no money to buy more formula until monday." I told her she can't give her cows milk but since she said earlier in the conversation that her b**bs kept leaking everywhere I told her she should breast feed her instead of letting her starve. She completely refused to even try. I offered to transfer money into her account but I can't until SO is ofg work at 7:30 and its 1 right now. She said I'm the last person she had that she could call and She also lives in a small town with no food bank or anywhere that can help with stuff like that. Am I wrong for feeling like she is selfish for choosing not to breast feed? I'm not sure how I could be but I also breast feed so I might be biased. Also would it be wrong for me to call cps about it? I already told my mom who is a foster mom and she already called before anyone jumps on me saying I should have already called.

thechelseamonster 2 kids; Colorado 29568 posts
31st May '13

Did she give birth somewhere close? Could she call there and ask if they had formula samples she could have? Or her pediatrician's office?

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
31st May '13

what. the. f**k.




yeah, that's NEGLECT. you should call CPS.

5 years= 5kids Due November 2; 4 kids; Sullivan, Missouri 2287 posts
31st May '13

Wow.. I couldn't imagine not letting a 6 day old eat :(

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15558 posts
31st May '13

IMO that Mom needs to be smacked in the f**king head. Her newborn Child is literally crying from hunger while she complains her b**bs are leaking. I don't care if you're for or against breast feeding, pop a b**b in that baby's mouth and give her some damn food. She can complain all she wants about it as long as her Child is fed. but if her Child's starving, there's no choice there.

Princess Celestia +1 1 child; Tallahassee, Florida 3636 posts
31st May '13

Nope, that's pretty selfish.... and just weird. I'd call CPS.

Flower♥Child Litchfield, NY, United States 68646 posts
31st May '13

I don't really give a crap why people choose not to bf....however, how does she not have formula? A newb wouldn't go through an entire can in less than a week. Holy unprepared! Poor kid :(

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17093 posts
31st May '13

I think she should at least pump.



Then she needs to get on EBT or WIC....and I, personally, would call CPS on her.

Pukey McPukerton Due January 15 (girl); Ontario 465 posts
31st May '13

Good God!! I find her to be extremely selfish! Her child is Hungary! And yes! CPS!

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22764 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting All The Panties:</b>" I don't really give a crap why people choose not to bf....however, how does she not have formula? A newb wouldn't go through an entire can in less than a week. Holy unprepared! Poor kid :("</blockquote>




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user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
31st May '13

That poor baby. What the f**k is wrong with her! Can he get WIC or something?? Tht baby needs to eat and can't have cow milk. I feel so bad for that baby.

Flower♥Child Litchfield, NY, United States 68646 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MammiX6:</b>" Good God!! I find her to be extremely selfish! Her child is Hungary! And yes! CPS!"</blockquote>



Like the country?

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 5929 posts
31st May '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" IMO that Mom needs to be smacked in the f**king head. Her newborn Child is literally crying from hunger ... [snip!] ... She can complain all she wants about it as long as her Child is fed. but if her Child's starving, there's no choice there."

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Is there a reason she doesnt want to breastfeed? Seems completely stupid not to even give it a try. Especially when they are that tight on money. Its better for baby and FREE!

*Meggers* Due November 1 (boy); 48 kids; Arizona 4 posts
31st May '13

I think she is very selfish her child needs to eat if she cant buy formula she needs to breast feed. I would have called CPS right away her child doesn't deserve to go without eating because she wants to be selfish

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
31st May '13

If your kid is screaming for food, you have breastmilk, but refuse to feed your child...yea, something is wrong with you. I don't care if people want to breastfeed or not, that isn't even the issue here. She sounds like an absolute danger to that child.