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Married but not weddinged Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
31st May '13

How many people out there got legal marriages and did ceremonies significantly later?



DH and I have talked about it but we've been married for a year and a half and the ceremony isn't anywhere in sight. I'm thinking about just waiting until our 5 year anniversary or something and doing it as a renewal of vows. What did you do?

mommy2thing1&thing2 Due November 11; 2 kids; Phoenix, Arizona 3064 posts
31st May '13

we got married at the court house and had a nice italian dinner the next night with family at a resturaunt. i doubt we will do anything down the road just becasue of money :)

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
31st May '13
Quoting Sneakthief:" How many people out there got legal marriages and did ceremonies significantly later? DH and I have ... [snip!] ... I'm thinking about just waiting until our 5 year anniversary or something and doing it as a renewal of vows. What did you do?"


I'd do a renewal.



Honestly, I've been thinking, and I think maybe we should do away with the big wedding thing. We should do a 5 or 10 year renewal as the BIG event. I mean, getting married isn't a big great job or accomplishment. Stay married for 5 or 10 years and that is far more worth celebrating IMO.

tiffany♥ 2 kids; Florida 2762 posts
31st May '13

We had planned on doing a ceremony for our 5 year anniversay...yesterday was our 6th year and it has yet to happen :)

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
31st May '13

I've been married for almost 4 years and not even thinking about a ceremony. I'd rather use the money for something else. We barely have any family that would come anyway.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
31st May '13

I think we decided if we did get court house married that we would not do anything further except maybe a grill out somewhere. We decided if we wanted to do a renewal that it probably wouldn't happen.
That is part of the reason we decided to have a ceremony wedding. I would have rather just went for a court house wedding, but SO and my dad convinced me other wise.

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" I'd do a renewal. Honestly, I've been thinking, and I think maybe we should do away with the big wedding ... [snip!] ... married isn't a big great job or accomplishment. Stay married for 5 or 10 years and that is far more worth celebrating IMO."</blockquote>




That's how I see it too. My family was NOT supportive so we eloped. The only one who knew before was his mom. I don't want to have a wedding because I didn't want to deal with the duhraaaama that would have occurred.



We're thinking about doing a 5 year renewal or maybe a renewal/graduation party for him when he gets his mortician's license a little later on. No big ceremony but a handfasting sort of thing with cake and punch, then dinner with our friends afterward.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
31st May '13
Quoting Sneakthief:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" I'd do a renewal. Honestly, I've been ... [snip!] ... a little later on. No big ceremony but a handfasting sort of thing with cake and punch, then dinner with our friends afterward."


See, I think that's cute. I figure, what did I do to GET married? Nothing. Two kids in Vegas can do it. It isn't really an accomplishment. Now, making it five yearas, ten years, whatever, that takes WORK. That's worthy of a big celebration IMO.



I wanted to elope. My family guilted us so we still went to Las Vegas but out parents came too. meh.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
31st May '13

We'll be married 9 years and have yet to have any sort of ceremony. I'm really not in any rush to have one.

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" See, I think that's cute. I figure, what did I do to GET married? Nothing. Two kids in Vegas can do ... [snip!] ... of a big celebration IMO. I wanted to elope. My family guilted us so we still went to Las Vegas but out parents came too. meh."</blockquote>



Mine didn't know we were even engaged. My mom's nuts though. Her reaction to me telling her we got married? "Haha well you just fucked your whole life up."
I knew she'd be like that so we didn't tell any of my family because I did not want to have to deal with that in the middle of getting married.

*Mandy*Team BluE!! 1 child; San Antonio, Texas 1334 posts
31st May '13

I think that is a great idea, as the other memebers put it its easy to get married but its the hard part to stay married.
My husband and I have been married for 2 years going on 3 years Febuary 14,2011. I know.. married on valentines, at the time of getting married we were making plans on him joining the marines but in the end it didn't work out because of his credit and we had just moved back to texas so we didn't have plenty of money for a wedding.. I always didn't want a wedding but now I do and I wish we did have a wedding. I was thinking about making a big celebration of being married for 5 years and getting the chance to finally having a wedding and a special day for us. but at the same time it seems impossible because my family lives in texas and his family lives in Lousiana...



But I do agree with you having a 5, 10, even 15 year wedding

ßlack Rose ♥ 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Sharon, Oklahoma 5335 posts
31st May '13

We had a tiny little Justice of the peace thing almost 5 years ago, and we've talked about possibly doing my dream wedding, but I actually would prefer saving up for a honeymoon. I hate standing in front of alot of people, and a vacation sounds great haha.

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1756 posts
31st May '13

i've been married for almost 3 years, we did a court house wedding and planned to do a ceremony for our 5 year because my husband still wants me to have the wedding i ''diserve'' and honestly i can do with out, but we have it already all planned out and i will be getting a dress and him a tux and we will just be doing a little get together in a park or something