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Wedding - Not doing a father daughter dance? [JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
31st May '13

I don't exactly have a "normal" relationship with my dad. He was physically and emotionally abusive toward me until I was 16 and cut ties with him until DD was born when I was 17 almost 18.
I find it awkward to hug him let alone dance with him, and I also can't really picture him walking me down the isle.



The thing is is him and SO both wanted a ceremony and reception wedding, and my dad offered to pay $2000 toward our wedding. This is a lot of the reason behind me not wanting a big wedding. I don't really know how to go about discussing this with my dad, I plan on talking about it with SO and my mom first.
I also don't want to regret not doing it.
Anyone been to a wedding where there wasn't a father/daughter dance with a father present? Or not walking the bride down the isle?



My dad already was opposed to coming to the wedding when I told him that for SO's sake god was going to be mentioned. I am not religious but SO is.

[♥]Mrs. Taylor 18 kids; Texas 12250 posts
31st May '13

My grandpa walked me down the aisle, and the only dance we did was between the bride and groom. Dh's mother isn't in the picture, and my father isn't so we just cut both dances.

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Staten Island, NY, United States 29663 posts
31st May '13

My dad walked me down the aisle, but I didn't dance with him. He's not a dancing kinda guy. :roll: Which is great because I'm not a dancing kinda gal.



Nobody mentioned it at all though.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
31st May '13
Quoting tinana+2:" My dad walked me down the aisle, but I didn't dance with him. He's not a dancing kinda guy. :roll: Which is great because I'm not a dancing kinda gal. Nobody mentioned it at all though. "

Did you still do your first dance with your DH?

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Staten Island, NY, United States 29663 posts
31st May '13
Quoting [JadeLee]:" Did you still do your first dance with your DH?"


Yep. The DJ announced everyone as they walked in (our bridal party and our parents)... then our kids... and then us. As we walked in, the DJ changed it to 'our song' and all of the guests surrounded the dance floor. It worked out really well.