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Discipline Colton'sMamma 1 child; North Carolina 163 posts
31st May '13

I was out shopping with my 13 month old today and he didn't want to be in the shopping cart anymore so I took him out and he stood beside me holding my hand, but he kept trying to pull clothes off the rack so I moved his hand and told him no. He did it again so I told him no and moved his hand. He did it one more time so I told him no and picked him up and held him on my hip. He still was trying to grab at the clothes, so I moved his hand and popped his hand and said no, and he started crying (of course, I popped him) and then I put him back in the cart and he started crying even harder. Well, this lady down the aisle looked at me like I was the DEVIL come to earth and I had just beat my son in front of God and the rest of the world. I mean is it really so wrong for me to correct my 13 month old? It's not like I can tell him he's been bad and he's going to get punished when we get home, and I don't want to ignore it and him continue to yank stuff off shelves and racks.....

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46830 posts
status 31st May '13

A 13 month old doesn't know better, he just sees bright, soft things he wants to grab.



When you go out shopping be prepared for him to get bored. Bring snacks, toys, talk to him about everything that you see around you, etc.

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
31st May '13

Personally, I wouldn't have. He's still pretty much a baby and all of those hanging clothes and things are a big temptation. They're a big temptation for my daughter and she's 3. I would have just said no and put him back in the cart. Give him some things to distract himself with.



Either way, the lady was probably just being nosy and opinionated. He's not her kid. As long as you're not over there abusing your kid, it's not anyone else's business.

Colton'sMamma 1 child; North Carolina 163 posts
31st May '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" A 13 month old doesn't know better, he just sees bright, soft things he wants to grab. When you go ... [snip!] ... out shopping be prepared for him to get bored. Bring snacks, toys, talk to him about everything that you see around you, etc."

I know he doesn't know better, that's why I correct him. And I do bring toys, and the people at our local walmart think I'm a nut because I've been talking to him about everything we see since he was 4 months old.

human making in progress 2 kids; Port Orchard, Washington 7986 posts
31st May '13

I would remove the child from the situation. If my son acted up (at that age) then I would just remove him from the situation.
right now my son is three, he understands how he should behave but if I have to tell him more than twice, I still remove him from the situation.

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 61365 posts
status 31st May '13

If I need to have a talk with my kids, or whatever, we head to the bathrooms. It's inconvenient, but it allows me to talk to them privately and handle whatever needs to be taken care of. Seems to keep the nosy people away.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46830 posts
status 31st May '13
Quoting Colton'sMamma:" I know he doesn't know better, that's why I correct him. And I do bring toys, and the people at our local ... [snip!] ... people at our local walmart think I'm a nut because I've been talking to him about everything we see since he was 4 months old."


Slapping his hand isn't going to teach him anything.



You should have removed him from the situation.

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
31st May '13

I think it's pretty silly to try and tell a baby no repeatedly. He doesn't understand, you should have taken him out of the situation instead of setting him to fail... I personally wouldn't pop my baby in the hand over something he had zero control over.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
31st May '13

He's just a baby. He's just exploring - looking at the colors of everything, feeling the textures. You see every day things, he sees a bright, fun place to explore. The world is so big to him and he's learning. You do not need to punish or discipline him for that. I would've just removed him from the situation, no need for hitting him.

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 61365 posts
status 31st May '13

I do agree that 13 months is really, really young to expect behavior like that not to happen.

human making in progress 2 kids; Port Orchard, Washington 7986 posts
31st May '13
Quoting tay. ☮:" He's just a baby. He's just exploring - looking at the colors of everything, feeling the textures. You ... [snip!] ... You do not need to punish or discipline him for that. I would've just removed him from the situation, no need for hitting him."


exactly. babies learn by playing, so from what I can tell, she is punishing him for learning. my son was behind on certain things so I would never punish, I would just remove my son from the situation if it became too much for me to handle. if he really wanted to play with clothes and a hanger, I would give him some clothes and a hanger from what i wanted to purchase and let him play with it.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting human making in progress:</b>" exactly. babies learn by playing, so from what I can tell, she is punishing him for learning. my son ... [snip!] ... with clothes and a hanger, I would give him some clothes and a hanger from what i wanted to purchase and let him play with it. "</blockquote>




So true. It's hard sometimes, as an adult, to imagine what things are like in a young child's eyes, but as parents we simply must try. I know we don't always have the time or patience to let our LOs explore every time they want, so I usually plop my LOs back in the cart with some random thing for them to look at. It's amazing the little things that children will be enchanted with!! Hitting them for it is never the answer - especially a child so young.

Williams and Owen's Mommy 2 kids; Augusta, Georgia 88 posts
1st Jun '13
Quoting Colton'sMamma:" I was out shopping with my 13 month old today and he didn't want to be in the shopping cart anymore so ... [snip!] ... going to get punished when we get home, and I don't want to ignore it and him continue to yank stuff off shelves and racks....."


honestly i don't see anything wrong with what you did, yes your child is exploring and needs to so he can learn. But there also comes a point in time when he has to learn there are boundaries to what he can do when out in public. Sometimes kids even 13 month olds need a little correction. I started time out with my oldest when he was 10 months old, i also started popping his hand around the same time if telling him no did not work...it is true you can not expect perfection in a child that young, or even older children, but teaching them now what you expect when in a store will help you when they get older and more wild and crazy as all kids do.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46830 posts
status 1st Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Williams and Owen's Mommy:</b>" honestly i don't see anything wrong with what you did, yes your child is exploring and needs to so he ... [snip!] ... but teaching them now what you expect when in a store will help you when they get older and more wild and crazy as all kids do."</blockquote>



I think you need to take a child development class.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
1st Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Williams and Owen's Mommy:</b>" honestly i don't see anything ... [snip!] ... they get older and more wild and crazy as all kids do."</blockquote> I think you need to take a child development class."</blockquote>




:!::!: Yes! ASAP.